Spouse or Kids? Which comes first?

[janet88]

This thread is really interesting.

Children are leasehold, but that doesn’t mean that the spouse can be forgotten just because he/she is freehold.

My hubby and I do not have much couple time since the kids arrived - son is 10, daughter is 5+. Our time revolves around them. I am a SAHM, and it’s stressful facing them all the time. But the strange thing is when I am away from them, I miss the kids very much.

[keroppi]

Spouse comes first. But spouse will usually give up his priority for the kids.

[Eagle-Ladybird]

Wah, leasehold and freehold . . . . fantastic


Do spouses go from prime dist to non prime or vice versa ? Do leasehold ranged from 20yrs onwards, and then after diminishing return ? They go thru boom and bust too ? :rotflmao:

[buds]

Dun be surprised that some can even go BOOMZ!

[schweppes]

buds:

Dun be surprised that some can even go BOOMZ!

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[ChiefKiasu]

buds:

Dun be surprised that some can even go BOOMZ!

And when they go boomz, make sure you check that your credit cardz are still inside your walletz.

[buds]

It is very right to take care of oneself first before others…

I thought i took care of myself well, but i guess not enuff…
So, i hope to take care of myself more now… then i hope
i would be a better wife to my husband & a better mommy
to my two girls. Unless if it is already too late…

[autumnbronze]

buds:

Unless if it is already too late..

Hey buds,

Don't be hard on yourself okie ....

From your posts in the forum, you are really one helluva wife, mother and DIL - and I mean it in the VERY positive sense :ugogirl: :hugs: :hugs:

[autumnbronze]

Well ...


I will be joining DH for a biz trip soon.

Initially, my DS was okie and said that he would stay with grdparents. Lately, he actually asked whether \"xxx come with mummi and daddi\", then later progressed to \"mummi don't go.\"

Haiz, as my DH had specifically asked me to join him, I said yes. Somemore his bday ard the corner. Thought better go and celebrate with him. All that discussion abt vulnerability and temptation in the other thread making me go :!:, :scared: and :|.

Better be safe than sorri.

And in times like these, I am so ever GRATEFUL that my DS is able to thrive in an environment where is he showered with unconditional love (ie ILs), which allows me to be away from him with a peace of mind.

So in this particular case, its the spouse that came first

[buds]

I wish you well, autumnbronze.

It will be a well deserved trip
for you both. :hugs: