Extra Marital Affair

[buds]

3Boys:

Wah, I swim against the tide hor?


I actually don't think there is a difference, so in fact it is indeed splitting hairs. I was pointing out that if someone dressed up for herself and not her husband, it just seemed a little churlish to me. Like, if I took my wife out for dinner and told her, its actually because I like the restaurant but not because I wanted to give her a treat, I'd get 2 black eyes and deservedly so.

Actually, now that I think about it, if I do dress up, IT IS mainly for the wife, 'coz I don't care what other women think ....8)

If hubs took me out for dinner and shared that it's cause he liked the
restaurant or eatery (which he has done so before), i would be especially
happy that he wanted ME to be there to enjoy the place and food with him.
No two ways about that. Him taking me out to eat out is in itself a treat, and
that is already unspoken mah.. ain't it not.

I would think you deserve double hit on both eyes for not telling her the
truth of what you reali think and what you reali feel. I would think for that
statement alone, YOU are teh-ing her to make her feel good instead. :roll:

[buds]

tianzhu:

Hi


Not worth it to have an extra-marital affair
http://www.divaasia.com/article/6990

Thanks for sharing the article, tianzhu.

I particularly liked one of the comments.

\"A little fire at home that warms is better than a fire out there that burns.\"

Unfortunately though, there can be soooo many articles written everywhere
and anywhere and sometimes we even hear of such EMAs going on with our
close friends or relatives, and yet if one still wants to go out and try it out...
they will.

[buds]

3Boys:

I am vulnerable like any other man.

You are? Hmmmm... i would love to know what makes a man vulnerable...
as you say... like any other man. And since you're one of those men who
have the courage to come into this thread, pray tell..... as usual i like to
hear the honest perspectives from the man's point of view.

3Boys:

Insight is half the battle though, and I pray that the good Lord (and my DW's rolling pin) keep me strong against temptation.....

So... you do have temptations too aye? :evil:

I know someone who has a trusting wife and
he is also a believer of faith but yet he still
succumbed to temptation.... temptations in
fact. Hurting his wife a lot and straining their
relationship. She's still unsure if staying together
is the right choice for her, cos it's easier said than
done when one says \"let's move on with our life\"..

Half the battle won (with insight) somehow doesn't
seem enough.

[Funz]

buds:

Funz:

I say his happiness is in his own hands. He is the one who makes the decision to stay faithful or to stray. To work through whatever issues we have or to seek solace in another's arms. He makes the decision. If he thinks that his happiness is down the path that says stray then I definitely will not be a part of that.

So, if he makes the decision to stray, it's straight away a no-way?

Hypothetically speaking yah. Realistically... hope I never find out.

[buds]

Men’s choice of frenz also do play a part in the straying process.

If one is surrounded by good friends, the limits of exposure to
straying is less… as compared to when one has tons of frenz
who strays as a hobby. Sure got a lot of lobang to share and
tips to help noobies not to get caught by their spouses…

[corneyAmber]

tianzhu:

Hi


Not worth it to have an extra-marital affair
http://www.divaasia.com/article/6990

Hey tianzhu...good to see you here....cos I always see you in math thread. :celebrate:

[buds]

:lol: Yeah, that was what i said to tianzhu too.. in another thread. :lol:


tianzhu very low profile wan.. and didn't even think tianzhu would be
lurking anywhere else other than the education threads... :evil:

:rotflmao:

[corneyAmber]

Yeah..though not frequenting other threads, he leaves behind succint messages...like


\"Not worth it to have EMA..\"

It's so true. I always ask the men this question:

Building a family is like building Rome, it takes you a long time to do that, not in a day. Just for some moment of fun and sometimes cheap fun, are you willing to let your Rome go? Kinda foolish right? The word \"worth\" is important to note.

Unless a man is willing to remain a cassanova for the rest of his life like a particular HK actor, why take such risks? For him, everyone else in his family is doing better than he is. At his age, he is still drawing limelight for the wrong reasons.

I think for men hor...don't talk Venus to them, talk SUMS to them....then they will pull out the CALCULATOR to count count first before they make that crucial step.... :lol: :lol:

[baby2momma]

can anyone of you advise - if a man has strayed once,

do you think his wife should forgive him for the sake
of their kids?? Would it be easier to let go a marriage
if they did not have kids??

[buds]

Question is… if a man has strayed once,

will he stray again. No matter how many
apologies have been expressed… there
will definitely be that possibility of the man
straying again.

Staying for the sake of the children can only
take one a little further to sacrifice… but the
trust… will it still be there when the sanctity
of marriage is lost. There may and can still
be some love left from the good days, but
will the love still be the same… It will be
easier to decide whether to leave or not to
leave when children are not in the picture…
But then again, once you leave will life
necessarily be better or happier for that
matter…

A lot of factors to weigh upon and it also
depends on the true feeling of oneself…
Some think with their hearts while some just
follow the rationality of the mind, just tabulating
the pros and the cons. So it reali depends…