Extra Marital Affair

[Funz]

buds:

Funz:

I say his happiness is in his own hands. He is the one who makes the decision to stay faithful or to stray. To work through whatever issues we have or to seek solace in another's arms. He makes the decision. If he thinks that his happiness is down the path that says stray then I definitely will not be a part of that.

So, if he makes the decision to stray, it's straight away a no-way?

Hypothetically speaking yah. Realistically... hope I never find out.

[buds]

Men’s choice of frenz also do play a part in the straying process.

If one is surrounded by good friends, the limits of exposure to
straying is less… as compared to when one has tons of frenz
who strays as a hobby. Sure got a lot of lobang to share and
tips to help noobies not to get caught by their spouses…

[corneyAmber]

tianzhu:

Hi


Not worth it to have an extra-marital affair
http://www.divaasia.com/article/6990

Hey tianzhu...good to see you here....cos I always see you in math thread. :celebrate:

[buds]

:lol: Yeah, that was what i said to tianzhu too.. in another thread. :lol:


tianzhu very low profile wan.. and didn't even think tianzhu would be
lurking anywhere else other than the education threads... :evil:

:rotflmao:

[corneyAmber]

Yeah..though not frequenting other threads, he leaves behind succint messages...like


\"Not worth it to have EMA..\"

It's so true. I always ask the men this question:

Building a family is like building Rome, it takes you a long time to do that, not in a day. Just for some moment of fun and sometimes cheap fun, are you willing to let your Rome go? Kinda foolish right? The word \"worth\" is important to note.

Unless a man is willing to remain a cassanova for the rest of his life like a particular HK actor, why take such risks? For him, everyone else in his family is doing better than he is. At his age, he is still drawing limelight for the wrong reasons.

I think for men hor...don't talk Venus to them, talk SUMS to them....then they will pull out the CALCULATOR to count count first before they make that crucial step.... :lol: :lol:

[baby2momma]

can anyone of you advise - if a man has strayed once,

do you think his wife should forgive him for the sake
of their kids?? Would it be easier to let go a marriage
if they did not have kids??

[buds]

Question is… if a man has strayed once,

will he stray again. No matter how many
apologies have been expressed… there
will definitely be that possibility of the man
straying again.

Staying for the sake of the children can only
take one a little further to sacrifice… but the
trust… will it still be there when the sanctity
of marriage is lost. There may and can still
be some love left from the good days, but
will the love still be the same… It will be
easier to decide whether to leave or not to
leave when children are not in the picture…
But then again, once you leave will life
necessarily be better or happier for that
matter…

A lot of factors to weigh upon and it also
depends on the true feeling of oneself…
Some think with their hearts while some just
follow the rationality of the mind, just tabulating
the pros and the cons. So it reali depends…

[ponyo]

hi baby2momma,


perhaps the question(s) to ask is whether the man is truly repentant -- not just plain lip service type \" I am sorry and let's move on...\" but the one who besides asking for fogiveness, takes concrete actions such as attending counselling sessions with wife, making efforts to earn back the trust of his loved ones again.

If the man is not willing to invest his time /efforts to salvage the marriage but only willing to say sorry, then something is not right ie to me, he still has not learn his lesson and will likely drop his pants again when the next young thing comes along his way... JMHO

cheers
ponyo

[buds]

How does one know if a man is truly repentant btw?


I have friends whose husbands attend everything they
have suggested to strengthen their marriages; just to keep
their wives and their families and to save face… but on the
sly, they still resume their activities nevertheless when the
coast is clearer.

Seriously… sorry is not enough.

[baby2momma]

here i am trying very hard to console

a very close relative to give the man
another chance but there again;
as what you guys have said, sorry
is really easy to say and can/cannot
be accepted by the woman but if the
woman really accepts the man back,
will he stray again? and who are we
to then advise the one who gets hurt
over & over again??? sigh....in one
sense i don't want their family to
break up but on the other hand, i felt
the man is treating this incident
very lightly.... :shock:

why are man like that??? can't they
commit to their marital vows???