Time schedule & life of Secondary School

[daisyt]

julongmum:

getting a bit worried cos dd not good in time management. any tips to cultivate that? she is relax and i m tense so got conflicts at times.

Me too, sometimes would get conflicts although I know, sometimes I am too much. One day, I don't know what happen to me ... after some arguement, dd asked me \"Whats the problem with you, mummy? I think better ask daddy to block kiasuparents forum.\" (She knows I am in this forum and read too much kiasu stuffs) :oops: :oops: OK lor, although I am a mum, I am still a normal human, right. But have to keep telling myself to relax ......

[julongmum]

wonderm:

Agree totally with daisyt! my son has the same \"bible\" book (he was Sec 1 last year) and I would say that was the most important time management tool for him.

Can the sch handbook serve as the 'bible' book? Or must get a separate diary?

[wonderm]

julongmum:

Can the sch handbook serve as the 'bible' book? Or must get a separate diary?

It's the same. But if the school handbook is too big, you may consider getting a smaller one.

[prancingpony]

Great that you opened up the thread again, daisyt. I read what you went through last year with your sec 1 child. It took a bit of time adjusting to my ds secondary schedule. cca gave the most headache as i was concerned that ds wouldn’t get into anything that would tire him so. things have settled somewhat and ds is happy in his new school. time management is something i have to tweak on as ds is not good in it at all. i have to prod and remind him all the time. leave him alone and he’ll be playing with his pencil/ eraser and make playthings out of them! when i normally make him sleep by 9 - 9.30, he now sleeps at 10 pm as some days there’s still work/project to finish. will it get better as they move along? they seem to have less free time than ever…

[daisyt]

hi prancingpony, don't mention, you are welcome. Glad to see your ds is happy in his new school. I don't see any better in sleeping time, in fact, its more or less about 10+ or 11. Her seniors told her, when they get to higher level, they will sleep even later. :shock:


Less free time, not getting any better too. Usually the first 2 weeks of school are fine but after that, back to hectic and busy schedule.

[kuzco]

prancingpony:

Great that you opened up the thread again, daisyt. I read what you went through last year with your sec 1 child. It took a bit of time adjusting to my ds secondary schedule. cca gave the most headache as i was concerned that ds wouldn't get into anything that would tire him so. things have settled somewhat and ds is happy in his new school. time management is something i have to tweak on as ds is not good in it at all. i have to prod and remind him all the time. leave him alone and he'll be playing with his pencil/ eraser and make playthings out of them! when i normally make him sleep by 9 - 9.30, he now sleeps at 10 pm as some days there's still work/project to finish. will it get better as they move along? they seem to have less free time than ever......

I'm so glad to know that I am not the only one having to prod and remind ds about his school work. We are still trying to adjust to the new schedule. CCAs have not been finalised yet and it is still quite difficult to see how the eventual outcome will be. Hopefully CCA does not clash with his tuition too.

My ds does his work on his notebook and when left alone, he will be having Youtube, facebook and msn and homework all going at the same time. :stupid: :frustrated: :x I have to keep a close watch on him every few minutes to make sure he is actually doing his work.

[dunnoleh]

kuzco:

... and when left alone, he will be having Youtube, facebook and msn and homework all going at the same time. :stupid: :frustrated: :x I have to keep a close watch on him every few minutes to make sure he is actually doing his work.

agree, some can self destruct very quickly if left alone, its a dicey balance between letting them fly and ... but where to?

[mummyjoyce]

I am watching this space too. My DD is in Sec one this year and she is always back only after 5pm! I am so concern since the workload is still light now. Just wondering how is she going to take it when school has settledown with CCA selection.

She tends to switch off her brain after 8pm since primary school - she usually sleep by 9pm so 8-9pm was usually chatting and bonding time. I need to explain to her that she needs to sleep later when workloads are more going forward.
Let see how she will cope soon.

[daisyt]

mummyjoyce:

I am watching this space too. My DD is in Sec one this year and she is always back only after 5pm! I am so concern since the workload is still light now. Just wondering how is she going to take it when school has settledown with CCA selection.

She tends to switch off her brain after 8pm since primary school - she usually sleep by 9pm so 8-9pm was usually chatting and bonding time. I need to explain to her that she needs to sleep later when workloads are more going forward.
Let see how she will cope soon.

hi mummyjoyce, I am sure your dd would be coping well. Its a transition period they need to go through and adapt.

[Fairy]

kuzco:

I'm so glad to know that I am not the only one having to prod and remind ds about his school work. We are still trying to adjust to the new schedule. CCAs have not been finalised yet and it is still quite difficult to see how the eventual outcome will be. Hopefully CCA does not clash with his tuition too.

My ds does his work on his notebook and when left alone, he will be having Youtube, facebook and msn and homework all going at the same time. :stupid: :frustrated: :x I have to keep a close watch on him every few minutes to make sure he is actually doing his work.

Last year, I had the same problem with my ds. He was on msn a lot and spent more time chatting than on his work. There were some tension between us as a result of my constant reminder for him to reduce his \"msn time''. After a while, I gave up checking on his online activities.

This year, it's my dd's turn. :x She was on facebook the whole Dec holidays, chatting, mousehunting & farming....Thinking that she'll stop when she starts her sec sch this year, I let her be. Til now, she still spends a lot of time online everday! :x Now she spends her time chatting online & messaging on the Hphone with her primary as well as sec sch friends.

I would be very grateful if any parents can share with me how to set limits to our teenagers' online activities without getting into a 'war of words' with them and straining the parent-child relationship while maintaining our parental authority.