How do you deal with arrogant/how lian people around you?

[2ppaamm]

autumnbronze:

If you don't mind me saying, I view it as a moral 'responsibility'. One other reason is also because I did not come from a nurturing family backgrd. Its left a huge impact on me. What I am today ie qualifications, achievements etc... is sad and not so sad (if you know what I mean) largely due to me, DH and ILs. The emotional stability I did not get at home, I instead got it unconditionally from DH.


Its a miracle that I always had this sense of how shd I say it, \"righteousness\" that prevented me from indulging in stuff during my teens/impressionable years. So, when my peers were experimenting, I chose not to. Its also a god-send that I met my DH when I was 19

And there will be many amongst our children who will not come from nurturing families simply because their parents have to work, make a living, or they simply come from broken homes. Our kids are blessed in their ways.

I am also one who benefited from DH's kindness and stability. It is now my responsibility to nurture a few more good lives in my children, so that they in turn will help their spouses and create good families. That's one of the wishes I have for my children. My little contribution to this already corrupted world...

[Blobbi]

True, Autumnbronze, moral responsibility is a better word.


2ppaamm, so true. I'm too idealistic sometimes ...

[2ppaamm]

Blobbi:

True, Autumnbronze, moral responsibility is a better word.


2ppaamm, so true. I'm too idealistic sometimes ...

So you see, many of us give up our careers or put our careers at a standstill nurturing a family is NOT wasting anything. In fact, we are building something so important that many policy makers fail to see. We are nurturing the next generation of leaders who are stable, trust worthy and reliable. Not just walking calculators.

Actually gahmen should really look into this rather than encouraging more and more women to work, and less and less children being nurtured properly...

Oops, do I sound how lian now? :roll:

[2ppaamm]

Some years ago, I like to patronize this duck rice stall opposite world trade centre. This husband and wife team cook one of the best duck rice in town (go visit it!).


Their kids are about my kids’ age. And the hubby used to be quite how lian about his kids’ height, and said that my kids are short. I brushed that off lah, since I am taller than him, I believe my kids will catch up one day. He is actually a nice person, he told me my kids were short so that I can do something about it - play basketball. This lousy mum never had the time to do that.

Then, I remember one of his kids received her PSLE results, it was in the range of 150-200. You can see the pride in their eyes, and they are happy that the kid can get to this relatively good neighbourhood sec school, and that he had to take time off from his stall to visit the principal and discuss the future of his child. He was full of hope.

As I spoke to this proud father, some sadness sank into my heart. What choice did he have? He needed to make a living standing by his stall from morning till late. His wife, too. So options did he have? How would he know what his children were up to when both the parents are not at home? How will they be nurtured? The only way he could know they were doing well, was that they were growing taller day by day.

Then, it hit me, didn’t he represent the majority of Singapore?

I will visit him this week. His child should be sitting for "O" levels this year. I hope the kid can do well in school besides growing taller.

[Blobbi]

Wah 2ppaamm, this story is very hard hitting and very sad. I'm so glad I quit my full time job... At the time, I was forced to, but I'm so glad it turned out the way it did. I see a lot of my friends trapped in the cycle - the money is too good to give up, so the kids pay the price.

[tankee]

Blobbi:

....I saw this ad in a parenting talk and it brought tears to my eyes. I don't want to be thinking these things when my time is up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I1hu7ZBHAqs

thanks for sharing. Nice video.

[2ppaamm]

Blobbi:

Wah 2ppaamm, this story is very hard hitting and very sad. I'm so glad I quit my full time job... At the time, I was forced to, but I'm so glad it turned out the way it did. I see a lot of my friends trapped in the cycle - the money is too good to give up, so the kids pay the price.

I was also forced to 'retire' early. My father-in-law passed on suddenly and I had to give my CEO job and settle for something simpler that gives my family more time.

Since we are at the topic, yes sometimes people how lian, but a lot of times it is because they are ignorant in their small little worlds. And if we dig deep enough, there's so much these folks and we can gain if we were to judge them just a little less.

Heh heh, I think my son and daughter all grew taller than his kids now. Genes always works wonders! :evil:

[jedamum]

2ppaamm:

sometimes people how lian, but a lot of times it is because they are ignorant in their small little worlds. And if we dig deep enough, there's so much these folks and we can gain if we were to judge them just a little less.

:goodpost:

[mitten]

Wow, the video is really good! I am touched!!!

Working women who giving up working or giving up to fat pay package to be transformed into a housewife should be highly honoured. They are in fact a champion builder, contribute to society and economic growth and advancement by nuturing a all-rounded personality and character into this country's future. With knowledge, love, forgiving and acceptance in education and naturing our young ones (not pampering !!) I see bright future for our country. and therefore in due time, we do not need foreign workers to fill up any job/position opening.

[fussyMummy]

Hi,


How smart or how tall is the kid, not so important, I mean for my ownself.

More important is the Moral. Been see so many old folks collect those used carton box/newspaper yet their children are super rich who own big car and big houses at Lentor / Bukit timah… :x