Changes In Children
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Orchids ds1 was like this, only worse. He’ll forget his work and tests and everything teacher told him. Even forget his shoes. Later I found out that he has this thing called executive function deficiency. Terribly disorganized without a good reason. Go surf and check if your child has this problem. It’s good to let teachers know so they can the child cope if she really has this disorder. Ds1 grew out of it by 15. But he did not Agree with the diagnosis. He brushes it off and said it is because he likes whAt he is doing now, that’s all.
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OngMum:
I have not been in touch of what my kids homeworks were since they reached P4. In the first place, they were not very 'willing' to 'report' to me what the day's homework were. :x I can only remind them (I'm still doing it today and they're in Sec1 & 2) to check that they don't leave out any homework to be handed in the next day. Both my kids are quite independent and a bit individualistic. Every now and then I will flip through their files/books to have an idea of what they were doing at school. I do not expect their work to be error-free, neither do they. As early as p1, when I spotted lots of spelling errors in their journals, I only verbally highlight to them, did not insist they correct the errors. Did I do the right thing? :? My rationale was not to dampen their enthusiasm to write/learn. If we are so particular/uptight about small spelling errors/grammar, learning becomes a chore - hardwork, not fun anymore. Just recently, when I was about to discard my dd's P3 journal, I showed her all the hilarious spelling errors she made then. :lol: Both of them score A* for their Eng in their PSLE. So, don't worry too much about spelling errors lah...when they are interested in that subject, they will be more motivated to acquire higher order learning...spelling will take care of itself.Hi, I would like to hear/seek advice from you, parents.
My daughter is sitting for PSLE this year. Last evening, I was checking thru her homework and spotted some errors. I observed her displeasure look and she told me, \"Mum, can you don't check my homework?\" I was taken aback as it has been my \"role\" to vet thru her homework since she started school in P1. She added on that most of her classmates' parents did not take this approach. I wonder how true it can be. I told her, the purpose for me to vet thru her homework is to ensure she has no errors and at the same time, to take note which are the weak areas she is having.
I am not too sure what have triggered her displeasure. Does anyone encounter similar case like this? Thanks.
How we should manage our kids depends on their temperament and character. I adopted the laissez-faire management style because I have to. If your child is one who still likes to cling to your apron string, then you may have to guide her/him closely before letting go gradually. I have a friend whose child still needs to consult her for ideas/opinion for every composition (Chinese and English) homework at P6! :shock: Your daughter's displeasure is a sign that she does not like or is beginning to dislike to be monitored so closely, she wants some space. It's a good sign, really. You should be more worried if she is dependent on you to vet through all her work. Children at their Puberty stage is most difficult to handle. I understand what you're going through now as I am also in the same boat. I am still learning how to handle them best while trying to maintain my authority as a parent. Afterall, must not let them climb over my head, right? -
MLR:
I'm not surprised. Of course, learning MUST BE FUN mah. The trick is to disguise learning as some kind of FUN activities :lol: :lol:3+ yo DS has a adverse reaction to colouring.
Everytime I stuck a crayon/colour pencil in his hand or even the mere mention of colouring sent him into \"NO!NO!NO! I don't want colouring, I can't do it...\" or worst, he would closes his eyes and weep.
Today i went and bought some colouring/activity book in Ben 10 theme (his current fav) and VOILA! After he shouted his thanks to me, ran into his room, took out his crayons and started colouring. Amazing :shock: , the influence of tv.
I hv mixed feelings about the whole situation. I m glad I managed to get him interested in doing some colouring, but totally shocked about the influence of his fav Ben 10 has on him.... Any views on this? Pls share....
TIA
hee hee hee.
For young kids, it's not difficult to make up FUN activities. For the older kids, it's very difficult. Hopefully, self-motivation or the love for learning will kick in by then.
Watch this video and you'll know what I meant. Enjoy!
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Just curious why colouring is so impt that we should be stressed over it. Ds1 was terrible at colouring, never completed a single picture much less a book. When he had to do art , he’ll draw and get someone else to put in the colour. Today he still hates colouring yet he is doing a degree in fine arts.
He found a form of art that requires the least colouring and pursue it accordingly . Art is art la , colour or no colour . For ds1 he was allowed to draw or not draw, color or not color totally up to him.
For lower primary work if he has to shade to get answers he doesn’t mind doing la. -
Sounds like to me these are symptoms of anxiety issues. At this age, she faces a lot of challenges which may seem trivial to us. Instead of being frustrated with her behavior, give her a chance to tell you what is bothering her.
Perhaps you can bring her to a nice place and give her the time and place to speak, without interrupting.
Even if you may not be able to solve all her problems, listening to her gives her a great sense of acceptance.
This makes a big difference to her. It may even take away some of the anxiety and you will see the transformation in her behavior.
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I really identify with what you both said, Bear.w.me and Fairy. Different kids really do require different treatment, and some kids are just out there in terms of being individualistic.
I only have one kid but all the parenting books don’t work. He’s a tremendous joy, but he can also be a royal pain. :x His swim coach just came over to tell me that he loves teasing my son cos he kena teased right back.
Anyway, I hear you guys. Gonna throw away all the books and just stick to solutions that have worked for us. And when the situation changes, I will do well to just pull back and let him work through the issues. In parenting, there is no one correct method for every child, and there will be issues that only time and patience can resolve. Hopefully, I’ll look back in 20 years and be able to laugh at all I’m going through now. -
Well said Blobbi. I concur with you.
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Fairy:
Thanks I thot what they did was very ingenious and certainly obtained the desired effect
Watch this video and you'll know what I meant. Enjoy!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zYBW43kmDjM
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Human being is a very curious lot. So when there is a new option as oppose to 'everyday' routine; they will certainly try it.
In learning, a good teacher usually knows how to arouse the curiosity of the students.
Most children like to listen to stories...usually those with some mysteries or secrets. These stories are good to jerk their creativity or imagination. Adults alike....its just that sometimes the stories will come in the form of gossip. :shock: No offence intended. -
\"Anyway, I hear you guys. Gonna throw away all the books and just stick to solutions that have worked for us. And when the situation changes, I will do well to just pull back and let him work through the issues. In parenting, there is no one correct method for every child, and there will be issues that only time and patience can resolve. Hopefully, I'll look back in 20 years and be able to laugh at all I'm going through now.\" Blobbi.
Well said Blobbi!!! :celebrate:
All kids are different and we just have to use our instinct to go and guide n lead them. I always told my son that I love him for who he is and not what he could achieve (for me or whoever). When he grabbed hold of this security n assurance from me...somehow the achievements just come before I know them. But of cos, this came after more than a decade of perserverance, hope n love. :love:
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