SAHP or working is better?

[toddles]

MMM:

Tri-mum:

If your spouse will be posted overseas, will you give up your job to stay home so that you can spend more time with your child since the other half is not around?

Sorry if your hubby is going to be posted to China. I think you should go too. It's too risky. Sorry not trying to scare you but sometimes when one gets bored given that they are all alone in a foreign land, things do happen in a moment of folly or when there are too many temptations around.

Yup, I agree.

Tri-mum, As far as it is possible, the whole family should go along, especially if your spouse will be going overseas for more than say half a year. Cos I've heard too many real life stories of bad things happening.

[KSP]

Tri-mum:

MMM:

[quote=\"Tri-mum\"]If your spouse will be posted overseas, will you give up your job to stay home so that you can spend more time with your child since the other half is not around?

Sorry if your hubby is going to be posted to China. I think you should go too. It's too risky. Sorry not trying to scare you but sometimes when one gets bored given that they are all alone in a foreign land, things do happen in a moment of folly or when there are too many temptations around.

:lol: agreed with you...i will never agree of his overseas posting if it is in China... :nunchuk: However on 2nd thought, anywhere can be possible. It's really a test for our marriage.[/quote]If you choose to stay in Singapore, I think you are not alone. I know there are many in Singapore. I saw some of them always holding a blackberry to stay in touch with their hub and reporting whtatever thing happenng here.

[Tri-mum]

[quote]
BTW where is he getting posted?[/quote]Most likely HCM[/quote]

[MMM]

toddles:

Cos I've heard too many real life stories of bad things happening.

Yes... it's true. It's not restricted to China. I've heard cases from China, Philippines,etc.... Someone we know eventually gave up his pregnant wife and unborn baby for another woman :x Anyway, the lady is happily remarried. I was just thinking, probably the place with lowest risk IMO is a chinese man going to India to work :roll:

I do travel for biz and sometimes up for a week. Hubby and kids will call me every evening but it's just not the same being physically at home. You also want to avoid being on the phone for too long due to call charges,etc... One week is fine but after the 3rd day and enough of exploring around, things will start to get really bored.

[MMM]

lovekidsverymuch:

Tri-mum:

[quote]
BTW where is he getting posted?

Most likely HCM

wats HCM :?[/quote]Ho Chi Minh

[Andaiz]

Ho Chi Minh City?


IMHO, it’d be better for the family to go along, if budget permits. Close the family home up for this period (if not too long). Honestly, it’s better for family togetherness and the kids do remember this as they grow up.

[MMM]

Andaiz:

Ho Chi Minh City?


kids do remember this as they grow up.

Yes true, it's a different exposure for them.

[KSP]

MMM:

You also want to avoid being on the phone for too long due to call charges,

Talking about phone charges, I have a colleague who went to China for 3 weeks and the phone bill was like more than S$3k!!! :!: :!: :!:

The boss didn't approve the claim because they were all personal calls. Very sad.....

[minnie2004]

The place to avoid is Shanghai. I’ve heard from a friend that every guy he knows who are posted there ended up in a divorce. There’re no exceptions. In some cases even if the wife goes along, still no use. It’s not just the girls there are attractive but also very "li hai" (manipilative).

[MMM]

KSP:

Talking about phone charges, I have a colleague who went to China for 3 weeks and the phone bill was like more than S$3k!!! :!: :!: :!:

Yes... I think the per min call is not cheap. Can't remember if it is something like $3 per min. I always have to watch the clock when I talk to the family though it's paid by co. Don't want to overdo it. So I would do emails with hubby instead.