Club FTWM

[pinkiepirate]

lovekidsverymuch: how wonderful that you have help! unfortunately my parents are in Sydney and my ILs are in Malaysia, so it’s just hubby and I in Singapore. My mum came to visit for a while over Jan/Feb - it really made a lot of difference to have even one extra pair of helpful hands.

[cloudiey]

Hie.. newbie here reporting

[Soh_WL]

Hi mummies!


I've worked for my 1st and current boss for 13 years now. Can't resign bcoz I married him :oops:, Have to help him lah (not that really I love the job).

3 kids = DD 10yo, DD 8yo and DS 4yo
MIL helps take care of my kids, maid does the housework and cooking.
Very grateful to MIL, bcoz she also goes through their homework AND she's a very strict disciplinarian

[Soh_WL]

I've collated the members of Club FTWM. (i think neater lah)

Pardon me, if I left out anyone :oops:
If you like this, pls copy & paste the list below and include your name to the list in your post.

1)\tdaisyt
2)\tMummy_Tang
3)\tmummy of 2
4)\ttree nymph
5)\tBlurBee
6)\tmummyjoyce
7)\tlinayh
8.)\tKS_me
9)\tFunz
10)\tnmhmum
11)\tEmelyn
12)\tPoohbear
13)\tworkingmom
14)\tcloudy
15)\tMMM
16)\tpeapot
17)\twestmom
18.)\tKiddo
19)\tparentof3
20)\tmummy of 2
21)\theyhoe
22)\tMagdalene
23)\tAndaiz
24)\tlittlejaemummy
25)\tmathsparks
26)\tMickeyhmh
27)\tmwchua
28.)\tEN
29)\tBronzy
30)\tlovekidsverymuch
31)\tmum_triplets
32)\tvividlaurel
33)\trocklee
34)\tnothing2do
35)\tLuvkid
36)\t2ppaamm
37)\tcbreeze
38.)\tDinah
39)\tfussyMummy
40)\tMLR
41)\tBlobbi
42)\tpinkiepirate
43)\thappychick
44)\tcloudiey
45)\tSoh_WL

[Bronzy]

pinkiepirate:

As a new mum (my son is 13.5 months), I'd be interested to hear from all the experienced mums here about how they deal with being a FTWM, how they manage to handle the baby (or children) and the hubby and the household, pets, etc.

Hi pinkiepirate, I have a maid to take care of my elderly parents and DD. Even then hardly have time for myself. My mum used to take care of household stuff until she fell ill so I now handle the household stuff too. Also Need to monitor DD's school work via teleconference or she tends to let the work slide until the last minute. And take care of parents meds, hospital visits, etc. Can be quite a challenge. Esp when all the req overlap like one parent in hospital while DD has a concert to attend and groceries have run out!

Who looks after DS while you are at work?

[Bronzy]

Soh_WL:

I've collated the members of Club FTWM. (i think neater lah)

Hello Soh WL and welcome! Thanks for compiling the list..and NOT leaving me out! Your eldest DD is the same age as my DD. Must be fun working for Hubby - can take offence with the boss without getting into trouble. No need to apply for leave too!

[Bronzy]

lovekidsverymuch:

pinkiepirate:

My mum came to visit for a while over Jan/Feb - it really made a lot of difference to have even one extra pair of helpful hands.

Yes though there are own issues with IL's staying with us but then when we see the broader picture we try or rather I try to let go these things!!

Yup - always helps to try and see the broader picture and not sweat the small stuff.

[tree nymph]

Soh_WL,

Hi!

I saw my name. Thanks for the name list!

[pinkiepirate]

Soh_WL - thanks for compiling the list, can see why your hubby will not let you ‘quit’, obviously you are an excellent ‘employee’!


Bronzy - I send DS to a nanny during my working hours (Mon-Fri). I fetch him home every evening after work and we will all go out for dinner. By the time we get home, it is usually close to 9 pm.

From the time we get home till we sleep, all the time is given to DS. We let him play, explore, do his home practice, etc. until he decides that he’s had enough stimulation and wants to sleep. He will crawl into my arms and ask to be latched on and all of us will go to bed. Sometimes (well, most of the time actually) DS sleeps very late - last night he slept about 1.30 am! and as a result, hubby and I also usually sleep very late, haha.

[pinkiepirate]

Hmm, looks like a maid and a MIL are the answer? I have neither...