All About Bullying

[phtthp]

Which well known Girls’ primary school is this ?

maybe give a clue … first letter for the name of this school, start with what ?

perhaps the girl bring bullied already know those bullies well, in pre-school before. Normally being the first or second day of school, being strangers, girls don’t behave like that

[snowbell]

My dd currently in P1 has been bullied on and off by her so-called good friend (girl) from same class for the past 2 months. Today is the most ridiculous. This good friend kicked my girl on her back just because my girl took out the same book as her to read during assembly. My girl’s school uniform has the girl’s kick mark. I have feedback to the girl’s mother. The mother said will issue serious warning to her girl. Do you think I should feedback to the form teacher as this is not the first incident.

[sembgal]

snowbell:

My dd currently in P1 has been bullied on and off by her so-called good friend (girl) from same class for the past 2 months. Today is the most ridiculous. This good friend kicked my girl on her back just because my girl took out the same book as her to read during assembly. My girl's school uniform has the girl's kick mark. I have feedback to the girl's mother. The mother said will issue serious warning to her girl. Do you think I should feedback to the form teacher as this is not the first incident.

You should have feedback to the form teacher and not to the parents directly. The form teacher will speak to them. I'm surprised that your DD's school did not brief you on this aspect. Usually the standard advice is to speak to form teacher and not to the parents directly.

[snowbell]

Oh. The school didn’t brief on this. Some of the bullying, I have feedback to the form teacher but since like it didn’t stop and it’s even worst. We were hoping by feedback to parents directly, it could stop such behaviour immediately.


Thank you for your advice.

[ammonite]

Are they still good friends and is your daughter very upset?


If they are good friends - ie other signs of friendship or cooperation, firm reminders by an adult and your daughter setting her foot (in a firm tone) down may work better and preserve friendship.

If they simply hang around together with one thumping down on the other constantly, you can tell your daughter to mingle more with other kids and choose those who are easy going. If they are sitting together, ask the teacher to check on them or separate them.

You can also list down all the incidents with approximate dates when you feedback to the teacher to show that it is not a one-off. (I learn this from a sec 1 student, haha)

[snowbell]

Ammonite, Thank you for your advice. I have told my girl that real friends doesn’t treat her like dirt and will not hurt her. I have asked her to play with other friends. But she told me this girl has set a friend’s rule. Whoever wants to play with my girl has to seek her permission. Only if she agrees, then they can play together. I’m getting my girl to ignore this friend’s rule and go ahead to make friends. She doesn’t need permission from anyone to be friends with others. I told her if this girl turns violence again, to report to us or teachers immediately.


I am also starting to track all the complaints my girl feedback on this girl. Hopfully with teacher’s involvement, the bullying act can stop soon.

[snowbell]

This incident reminded me of an incident which happened to my girl when she was in N1. One day , my girl returned home from childcare with 5 fingers print mark on her neck. The finger marks were there till next day. My girl told me her childcare friend caused the marks and it was painful. But she’s not angry with her friend because she is her friend.


Similar to this incident, my girl is also not angry or upset. She just feels back pain and she can sense something not right but just not angry. I’m worry.

[melodyrain2]

When DS was in K2, he has this good friend (I hear his name frequently and they play together after school sometimes since we are in the same neighbourhood) that tells him not to friend with so-and-so and so-and-so. This boy also has other behaviour that I feel is undesirable and that he is manipulating DS.


I told my DS that HE decides who he wants to friend with. If he follows this boy’s orders, he keeps one friend but will lose the other friends slowly because today this boy may tell him he cannot friend with A and maybe tomorrow cannot be friend with B. Is that what he (DS) wants? If he doesn’t follow this boy’s orders, he may lose a friend but he will get to keep the rest. I also told him, he goes school to make friends not enemies. DS is worried if he doesn’t follow, this boy will ask their other friends not to friend him. I told him not every children will listen to this boy.

I also told DS the next time this boy ask him not to friend so-and-so, just tell him "No". If the boy is ok, then they can continue as friends. If the boy is angry, it is ok to lose such a friend.

DS is in primary school now and he still remembers no one can decide his friends for him.

[snowbell]

This girl has kicked my girl yesterday. I told DD if this girl wants to hurt her again, report to the teacher immediately or run to the general office to inform the staff.

[melodyrain2]

Keep a record of the acts and dates. If things don’t change, show the teacher the record and let her know that she needs to do something. We don’t want a little gal to think it is right for others to kick her or bully her.