What are the various other schools' policy on parent visit ?
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the orientation programme and duration for P1 is different for each school.
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Yes, I know, I am trying to find out what is the ‘norm’ and to recommend to that school of mine.
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As a working mum, I dont visit school so often. DS is P1. DH and I vistied the school during P1 registeration, and orientation. DS school allow 3 days, so I am there.
DS is picky eater and yet I dont packed food for his recess or lunch. Till now, he is buying either fish burger or man tou in school. I want him to learn, to explore on his own. I am very concern, but believe it will take time. DS need to go NS later years u know.
I strongly support home cooked food and the tender loving care you guys is giving to junior. :udawoman: I had my mum to send & fetch me during my school days and her cooking of course. Miss those time. -
I felt sorry for Mary’s daughter… I am not sure how outrageous was Mary’s behaviour tat warrants the school calling for cops to diffuse the situation but from the article, I tot it appears to be quite an excessive measure…no doubt the poor girl might be unfairly labelled as the troublemaker’s daughter and may be unfairly treated by teachers (I stressed may not be the case) and teased by friends… Likewise, if you choose to be so confrontational abt tis issue, wld u put ur child at a difficult position? No doubt u feel strongly abt this issue bt as ks2me pointed out is this the battle u think worth fighting for at the expense of ur child’s social acceptance in school?
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My DS school only had 2 days for P1 kids and we were there during till recess for first day. 2nd day went to school during recess. The were buddies and prefects around to help kids out, not to mention teachers and staff. We are happy with the arrangement.
Perhaps some kids, or parents need more time to get used to 'letting go'.
No harm done as long as there is an understanding between school and parents.
As for the very concerned parent in my DS class.. ...She literally 'chop' FT during meet the parents sessions and complains non stop.
I'm sure she meant well for her kiddo. Only 4 months down the road she,and her kid is well :siam: by all. Kids in class stay away cause 'his mother is coming', fellow parents like myself stay away cause cannot tahan.. ...
So this type of parents does really exists :!: -
In my child's pri school, we have to sign in and out at only one entrance/ exit point.
If need to pass child something (if he or she forgets to bring), we are only allowed in the general office where the child comes down personally to collect it or the clerk will deliver it up to the class. Parents are not allowed to go to the class or anywhere in the school, except to the bookshop or general office.
There will always be a guard patrolling the school to shoo off unwanted people.
I welcome this idea as i feel that the security is tight.
If i need to pass my child food during recess, then i will have to wait outside the school until during recess time. Either he comes to the entrance point to collect or i sign in and go to the general office where he can collect the food.
Cannot wait in the canteen.
Amos2010, although i empatize with you, but i fully support what your child's school is doing.
Yes, i agree with ks2me that i will be perturbed to see strangers in the canteen. -
cluelessmom:
Likewise, if you choose to be so confrontational abt tis issue, wld u put ur child at a difficult position? No doubt u feel strongly abt this issue bt as ks2me pointed out is this the battle u think worth fighting for at the expense of ur child's social acceptance in school?
I really appreciate your words of caution. I may be a persistent person, but I don't think I am confrontational (at least, KS2ME said so before
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In this instance of mine, I have spoken to the admin manager. I will be making a proposal to the school on how to improve this policy. That is why I am asking questions about other schools. Instead of being confrontational, I am trying to collaborate. It is important that the school realise some of their policies are not parent-friendly, and they seems to be willing to listen.
At least, I find out now that, although other schools have such similar policy, but they did not actually chase parents away. So, if they realise this, they should follow what others do. If I achieve this, I already do favour for the other parents in the same school.
So, lets don't look at things from 'confrontational' angle. Remember, I belong to the type where I hope for strong bond and close partnership between parents and school.
If I want to be confrontation, I would have written a letter to MOE, and paste it here. Nope. That is not what I am doing. That is a lost battle. Like I said about Mary's principal. It may appear that the party make the matter big (call police) wins, in fact, no. -
carebear:
Question: if there is already one point of entry/exit, who are the unwanted people ? Parents staying too long in school ?
There will always be a guard patrolling the school to shoo off unwanted people...
...Cannot wait in the canteen.
Wait a minute...is your school my school... :!: -
Amos2010:
... At least, I find out now that, although other schools have such similar policy, but they did not actually chase parents away. ...
Amos2010, I hope you are not going to use the feedback given to you by other parents here as \"evidence\" that other schools \"do not chase parents away\". On the contrary, all feedback to you so far indicate that most, if not all schools, restrict the presence of parents on school premises. That would translate to \"parents being asked to leave if they have no reasonable grounds to continue to stay\".
I suppose your main issue is the definition of \"reasonable grounds\". It will be challenging for you to use the argument that you have the right to stay by the side of your child while he or she eats, out of parental love. Just like we have to play by the libraries' rule of staying quiet while browsing in the library, we also have to respect the schools' rules for maintaining order and security on their premises. In fact, if the school accede to your request of allowing parents to stay on its premises for as long as they wish, it will probably incur the wrath of another group of parents who will deem that to be a highly irresponsible ruling. -
Amos2010:
I guess the question I really want to ask is - do you school resort to chasing parent out if they think you spend too long in the school ? If yes, after how long ?
This was before H1N1. When my DD1 was in P1, she joined the string ensemble just a few weeks after school started. I sent her to school in the morning and went into the school compound to help her look for the practice room as she was only P1 and still a bit blur (of course I sighed in at the security check pt). After which, I decided to wait for her in the canteen so I cld bring her violin back after the session. I was thinking since it was her first session and she was pretty thin and small size, it wld be quite difficult to manage on her own her heavy school bag + water bottle + violin. I also wanted to ensure that she knew how to buy food from the canteen as she had been bringing home-cooked food for recess.
I intended to do this only for abt 2-3 practice sessions so as to ease her into managing all on her own. Well, the first time, all went well. The 2nd time, after sitting in the canteen for abt half hr, a staff (not sure whether is it PV) told me to leave as I wasn't supposed to be in the canteen. I told her the reason and she told me to wait at the waiting area at the security check pt as parents were not supposed to be within the sch compound. I was pregnant with DD2 then and didn't feel quite comfortable sitting outside. After reasoning with her (she gave reasons such as other parents wld do the same etc), she relented but said next time cannot.
So I made sure my DD1 knew what to do during that 2nd time as I decided not to accompany her anymore. So for subsequent sessions, I just sent her to school and went off without waiting for her. She managed fine after that. Of course I wasn't too happy as I saw some parents around as well (I later realised those might be PV). However, I was ok with it since my girl was able to manage fine and I only intended to come for the 3rd time if she couldn't manage on her own.
Basically, the school only allowed parents to wait at the waiting area near the security check pt to pass food to their children during recess. They were not allowed into the canteen and children were to come out and meet their parents over there. After H1N1, parents were not even allowed into the waiting area, and had to wait outside the gate to pass their children food.
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