All About Full-Time Maids

[hquek]

smurfy:

It was a sad vicious cycle that went on a couple of years. I needed her and she needed me. This is the 8th year she is in my household. But twist of fate here. Recently she went for her medical checkup and told e doc there is a lump in her breast. Instead of sending her home immediately and leaving her in lingo. We immediately arrange for her to see a breast specialist at our own cost the next day. Luckily non cancerous. But she is going back to remove the lump. And I also never sabo her and arrange a flight with transit hahahaha. So now she realize I am not the mean person she thought me to be and her attitude changed totally. But all' s too late. Hahaha. Yes I have a clear conscience. Was popping over the life without maid thread and saw this thread....


Lalalalaa super stressed and grouchy these few days. Maid less soon :gloomy:

8 years....anyway, you both got what you needed from this arrangement. My first stayed for 5 years and I felt her attitude got progressively worse. But I was lucky that I didn't have to change every 3 months or every year. And I felt super lucky that she was the thrifty sort who never requested for off days and she was very worried about her name/virtue (advantages of getting a pious helper).

Whenever they leave, I wish them well and hope they never ever have to part from their family (mine were all unmarried when they were with me, this is what they tell me la) esp their future kids. Glad yours didn't have cancer, hope she has saved enough after all these years in your household to achieve some financial independence when they are back.

[smurfy]

I had done what is required and far more than what I shld be doing. At least the chapter ends nicely and my kids do understand she is going back for medical treatment instead of due to our quarrels.


Imagine that evening she can say things like she dun understand why an ultrasound in sg is so expensive and removal of lump is a few K. She told me that she can remove it it for $100 or is it $1k and get all things done in a day at her home country. Felt like taken for a ride at that moment. Did she just forget how she cried the previous day so worried it might be cancerous and what will happened to her son ?



Anyway back to the point. The law only states back to her city, u can choose the airlines and luggage weight depending on how u need her and ur r/s w her or what u feel is within ur comfortable zone.

[moonee]

my maids luggage is very heavy, she chose LIOn air. (Indonesia) Am I required to pay for the extra weight on her luggage shes accumulating every month before she leaves. She spends like near 150 dollars on clothes, souvenirs etc after recreiving her salary.

[momoftwo]

Hi all, not sure if this is the right forum for this, but admin, please feel free to delete if not appropriate.


My family is relocating overseas in April/ May I’m looking for transfer my helper of 4.5 years. She is Indonesian, 39 years old, can cook, Muslim but willing to prepare non halal food.

If anyone is interested to find out more please PM me.

Thanks!

[hquek]

moonee:

my maids luggage is very heavy, she chose LIOn air. (Indonesia) Am I required to pay for the extra weight on her luggage shes accumulating every month before she leaves. She spends like near 150 dollars on clothes, souvenirs etc after recreiving her salary.

I heard of helpers who ship their stuff back prior to their return home and think she may want to use that route. Show her the contract and tell her you are only liable to send her home, not her things. I don't think it's reasonable for you to bear extra weight on luggage - she has to be aware how much she can carry and plan accordingly. She's an adult (that's what HOME says), and has to be responsible for her own purchases.

For mine, I would tell them how much luggage they are allowed to check in, know what they can't carry on board (eg batteries not in check in bags, no fluids in carry on). We would let them weigh their bags at home to be sure they didn't exceed, and tell them any extra is on them.

[moonee]

hquek:

moonee:

my maids luggage is very heavy, she chose LIOn air. (Indonesia) Am I required to pay for the extra weight on her luggage shes accumulating every month before she leaves. She spends like near 150 dollars on clothes, souvenirs etc after recreiving her salary.

I heard of helpers who ship their stuff back prior to their return home and think she may want to use that route. Show her the contract and tell her you are only liable to send her home, not her things. I don't think it's reasonable for you to bear extra weight on luggage - she has to be aware how much she can carry and plan accordingly. She's an adult (that's what HOME says), and has to be responsible for her own purchases.

For mine, I would tell them how much luggage they are allowed to check in, know what they can't carry on board (eg batteries not in check in bags, no fluids in carry on). We would let them weigh their bags at home to be sure they didn't exceed, and tell them any extra is on them.

Thanks hquek, I don't think she want to ship back any clothes etc.. just that she keeps buying and her luggage is getting too heavy. I did warn her about the extra charges but she don't seem to mind so ive done my part warning her that she may be overloaded. thanks again for the info

[leling]

momoftwo:

Hi all, not sure if this is the right forum for this, but admin, please feel free to delete if not appropriate.


My family is relocating overseas in April/ May I'm looking for transfer my helper of 4.5 years. She is Indonesian, 39 years old, can cook, Muslim but willing to prepare non halal food.

If anyone is interested to find out more please PM me.

Thanks!

Hi I am interested. Can you pm me for details .

[patsyops]

momoftwo:

Hi all, not sure if this is the right forum for this, but admin, please feel free to delete if not appropriate.


My family is relocating overseas in April/ May I'm looking for transfer my helper of 4.5 years. She is Indonesian, 39 years old, can cook, Muslim but willing to prepare non halal food.

If anyone is interested to find out more please PM me.

Thanks!

Hi can let me have more details on your helper. TIA

[bestspycam]

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Hi to all

Just sharing....

You can never know what domestic workers do behind your back when you are not at home....

[Bagsroom]

My helper contract is due for 2 years, we are considering to renew her because she is honest that’s the only plus point.her work below standard from my past 3 helpers, she is very slow in doing the housework, I need to help her to do housework during weekend at times, our house only have 3 persons, she refused to change when I told her to do some efficient way to do her work, she also does not want to work with us if we are having newborn baby, furthermore she is having pre-existing condition keloid which she never tell us before we told her that we are going to renew her. She mentioned that she need to get some injection which it will cost her about $160 (the $ was 8 years ago when she was working with her previous employer, she went back home 8 years ago and stay in Indo for 6 years before she come to Singapore 2 years ago to work with us, during her 2 year she did not tell anything about her keloid, her keloid was the reason why her previous employer sent her back home (in my view) she did not admit it when I asked her).


Question:
Should I renew her with the fact above?
Should I pay for her keloid treatment which it may cost double now?
Is keloid treatment consider as cosmetic treatment?

I’m in dilemma now.

Thanks