No Problem is problem

[Funz]

hquek:

Very strange. if he does housework, he's helping ME....if I do housework, I'm definitely not doing him a favour...sometimes I really wonder why the disparity.

Haha. I like this part.

DH & I had this ironed out long time ago. At that time we were newly married, no maid, no kids. He still wanted to continue with this singleton lifestyle. Golf, mahjong, pubbing. After an arguement about his not putting in his share in maintaining the house, he had the gall to tell me ok, he cancel his golf session for that weekend to 'HELP' me with the housework. I got fedup cos after all the talking and arguing, he still thinks it is my responsibility and he is doing me a favour. I went on strike. Refused to wash any of his clothes. He woke up 1 morning and realised that he was out of underwear. :lol: Asked me what happened I told him oh I did not know that you want me to 'HELP' you wash your clothes. Ok. Saturday I cancel my gossip session and 'HELP' you with the laundry. That night itself he came home with at least 10 more pairs of new underwear. And from then on, he pitched in and will offer to do the laundry or vacuum the floor. After some time we decided to get a part time maid cos we are really do not fancy spending 1/2 the weekend catching up on household chores.

[hquek]

Funz:

He woke up 1 morning and realised that he was out of underwear. :lol:

You very good!!! I think we all have our little weapons...hee hee.

[daisyt]

cmm:

Fully agree with this one, daisyt. I absolutely need my alone time regularly to preserve my sanity. Day to day routine is so busy & packed, we're always jumping from this task to the next mindlessly.

Work never ends....

So don't hesitate and go ....
Walk in the park, look at people jogging with dogs, elderly have their walk, parents bring kids to school. Then try to think, what colour would be the next dog you would meet, imagine what would these elderly gossipping while exercising ...

I look at the sky and imagine I am actually up there, looking down. What would I see?

I would imagine, the hdb flats collapse, then I would plan my route of escape. Which way should I go, where should I run to?

Think of all these wuliao stuffs and free your mind from all other daily stuffs.

[daisyt]

hquek:

Funz:

He woke up 1 morning and realised that he was out of underwear. :lol:

You very good!!! I think we all have our little weapons...hee hee.

Good one!!
dolphinsiah, you can pick up a few tips there and there. haha

:celebrate:

[kuzco]

Good grief, Dolphinsiah and hquek. I am in the same boat as you guys.


I leave the house for work earlier than everybody else and come home every evening, still having to do the the laundry and ironing, plus the scrubbing of toilets, vacuuming and mopping the floor throughout the week. Dinner is settled by ordering tingkat (thank goodness!), otherwise I will pengsan. Still have to make sure ds does homework. Also have to decide when to clean aircon filter, change curtains, change bedsheets, do groceries. :faint: Sometimes, dh thinks he is living in a hotel. Sometimes I feel very fed-up. Talking some sense to dh only seem to work for a short while, before things go back to the way it was before. I seem to be the cash cow and work horse rolled into one. If I can turn the clock back, I will not take the same path again. The only thing that I am thankful for is ds. My hopes are on him and he is why I am still tolerating all this.........

[dolphinsiah]

Funz:

hquek:

Very strange. if he does housework, he's helping ME....if I do housework, I'm definitely not doing him a favour...sometimes I really wonder why the disparity.

Haha. I like this part.

DH & I had this ironed out long time ago. At that time we were newly married, no maid, no kids. He still wanted to continue with this singleton lifestyle. Golf, mahjong, pubbing. After an arguement about his not putting in his share in maintaining the house, he had the gall to tell me ok, he cancel his golf session for that weekend to 'HELP' me with the housework. I got fedup cos after all the talking and arguing, he still thinks it is my responsibility and he is doing me a favour. I went on strike. Refused to wash any of his clothes. He woke up 1 morning and realised that he was out of underwear. :lol: Asked me what happened I told him oh I did not know that you want me to 'HELP' you wash your clothes. Ok. Saturday I cancel my gossip session and 'HELP' you with the laundry. That night itself he came home with at least 10 more pairs of new underwear. And from then on, he pitched in and will offer to do the laundry or vacuum the floor. After some time we decided to get a part time maid cos we are really do not fancy spending 1/2 the weekend catching up on household chores.

Yeah... I did this to my spouse when we were newly wed ...many years ago....went on strike...ran away...threaten to divorce....

But you know Leopard never changes its spot....

Now I give up to \"talk sense \" to him as I do not have time to waste arguing with him....

He will said\" you are the one who do not want a maid not me...\"

I tolerate because of the kids....not throwing pots and pans at him :x

Once the kids grow up...I will show him my color again

[minnie2004]

kuzco:

If I can turn the clock back, I will not take the same path again. The only thing that I am thankful for is ds. My hopes are on him and he is why I am still tolerating all this.........

Seems this is the same sentiment many of us share. Just have to tolerate for the sake of our kids. Afterall, they are the best gift we ever have :snuggles:

That's why sometimes I tell my single girlfriends jokingly to go to a sperm bank if they want kids. Saves a lot of trouble dealing with men

[3Boys]

To all the hubbies and wives in distress…


Please…take a pause from your busy-ness and find some time to re-connect…for your own wellbeing and that of your family.

You gotta draw the line somewhere, do not allow the excuse of housework and work commitments get in the way of your together time. People get used to that routine and before you know it, your relationship in on the rocks.

Please take pause

[hquek]

I know someone around me - earn good money, do ALL the housework, take care the kid's education and well being (kid academically doing very well). She does this happily becos of her kid, and doesn't seem to mind that DH is only in charge of R&R (rest and recreation).


To each their own I guess.

I used to tell DH that it was a mistake to marry...and then he asked me if I would have these 2 wonderful kids if I didn't...and it's quite true. Those 2 can be little monkeys rather than little cuties but then, through them, I have gone through a lot, and learnt a lot. It's this life experience that is immeasurable and I acknowledge that.

So now, I do what housework I want to do and it's not so much a chore than an accomplishment. The rest can wait until I have time, or lose tolerance on the layer of dirt.

But if DH ever comes onto this site (not likely), I still wanna say THANKS MUCH for helping out these days...(dunno how long battery last)

[hquek]

minnie2004:

That's why sometimes I tell my single girlfriends jokingly to go to a sperm bank if they want kids. Saves a lot of trouble dealing with men

I ever consider life with kids, WITHOUT hubby....cannot lah. he helps boil water sometimes, he helps bath them sometimes. And when I'm sick or in a terrible mood, he'll take care of the kids whilst this dragon is breathing fire....no hubby means I have to take care the kids whether I like it or not.