Application for NUS/NTU Medicine 2021/2022

[kiasumeme]

Threeboysmummy\" post_id=\"2018881\" time=\"1617024751\" user_id=\"192145:

My boy was scheduled for NUS test and interview this Friday and Sat. But he won't go😢. I am very sad but he took it lightly.

Hmm ... why so after he has put in a considerable amount of effort to put together his portfolio for submission. The fact that he is selected means his portfolio must be quite impressively done up aside from his grades. Find out his concerns first and address his issues from there. All the best!

[Tanlines]

Many thanks for your inputs, Kiwi3 and Harrods!

[Harrods]

Threeboysmummy\" post_id=\"2018881\" time=\"1617024751\" user_id=\"192145:

My boy was scheduled for NUS test and interview this Friday and Sat. But he won't go😢. I am very sad but he took it lightly.

To back out now, and to have the courage to share what his thoughts with parents, it shows your boy has another dream, different from parents.

Suggest to sit down and discuss the reason behind with an open mind, listen to the reasoning and help with aligning their expectations. As long as the decision is made based on interest/merit, trust that they will excel in what ever field they decide to embark on.

Without a strong passion, med path is going to be not easy, forget work-life balance for a start.
If for money, lawyer probably makes more (NUS med prof says one).

Still have some time...stay calm and hope things work out after chat (Talk to them like a friend)...
My wife & I used to decide what's best for them when they were younger...They may not like it or appreciate those decisions, but will just do it because papa/mama knows best.
After secondary school, we changed (no-choice, cause their brain tells them to object to anything that is decided by us). So, we start to discuss and reason, they get to decide and tie their own commitment to it. Somehow, we grew very close and I like to think that they appreciate us more when their views are valued !

[SnoopyMum]

Tanlines\" post_id=\"2018898\" time=\"1617033426\" user_id=\"102146:

Chancc\" post_id=\"2018896\" time=\"1617029958\" user_id=\"121791:

True they are more updated than us. We just upgrade ourselves and go along with them. Pls let us know her experience after she completed her interview

I guess nobody in this same cohort will share publicly since they are competiting against each other. I think they will only share with their close friends now and publicly only when this whole thing is over.

Not because we are kiasu, and thus, don’t want to share, but rather we are none the wiser. Throughout my children’s growing-up years, I’ve learnt not to interfere with their learning/competitions/aspirations. What we know is past knowledge and experiences which may not be applicable or relevant now. By sharing secondary sources of information, we may end up jeopardising their chances if they go into the assessments holding onto the instructions (hearsay) we give them. The best approach is to let them find out on their own, reconstruct their understanding in their own ways so they can do their very best for themselves. As parents, we can only give them our blessing.

[Harrods]

SnoopyMum\" post_id=\"2018951\" time=\"1617082212\" user_id=\"151472:

Tanlines\" post_id=\"2018898\" time=\"1617033426\" user_id=\"102146:

[quote=Chancc post_id=2018896 time=1617029958 user_id=121791]True they are more updated than us. We just upgrade ourselves and go along with them. Pls let us know her experience after she completed her interview

I guess nobody in this same cohort will share publicly since they are competiting against each other. I think they will only share with their close friends now and publicly only when this whole thing is over.

Not because we are kiasu, and thus, don’t want to share, but rather we are none the wiser. Throughout my children’s growing-up years, I’ve learnt not to interfere with their learning/competitions/aspirations. What we know is past knowledge and experiences which may not be applicable or relevant now. By sharing secondary sources of information, we may end up jeopardising their chances if they go into the assessments holding onto the instructions (hearsay) we give them. The best approach is to let them find out on their own, reconstruct their understanding in their own ways so they can do their very best for themselves. As parents, we can only give them our blessing.[/quote]Agree to disagree.
Kiasu is in most of us, if not all. The word was invented, resonance deeply with connection to our society.

Many will interpret it as how to prepare oneself, so we can make the most out of our efforts, direct or indirectly.
Cyber information is vast, no fast fix/plug & play. Need to digest the meaning and relate/reflex them relative to its purpose.

For most parents, as long as their offspring is willing to discuss any matter, I think most will gladly pour out all the decades-old wisdom. The worst I can imagine...parents become irrelevant by choice.

[Chancc]

I try to share after DS interview this Saturday. There is a saying “If we feed our neighbor’s kid, our kid will grow itself”.. 😇

[iFirefly]

Chancc\" post_id=\"2018984\" time=\"1617108652\" user_id=\"121791:

I try to share after DS interview this Saturday. There is a saying “If we feed our neighbor’s kid, our kid will grow itself”.. 😇

Thank you Chancc (& DS) for your graciousness

Good Luck & Best Wishes to all shortlisted candidates, especially those who are in the midst of their FSA now :rahrah:

[Purposeful]

Tanlines\" post_id=\"2018898\" time=\"1617033426\" user_id=\"102146:

Chancc\" post_id=\"2018896\" time=\"1617029958\" user_id=\"121791:

True they are more updated than us. We just upgrade ourselves and go along with them. Pls let us know her experience after she completed her interview

I guess nobody in this same cohort will share publicly since they are competiting against each other. I think they will only share with their close friends now and publicly only when this whole thing is over.

what if the schools identified your children and they get penalised for publicly sharing? :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

[iFirefly]

Understand that every applicant who goes through the interview process has to sign a non-disclosure agreement where he/she can’t reveal what happened during the FSA. Perhaps you can share after the whole selection process is over (after 13 April).

[cherryc]

Totally agree about the non disclosure terms . Also Let the candidates have a level playing field so that the best possible candidates for our medical profession get in . They can help each other after getting in .