$350k for 1 child?

[tree nymph]

HyperKiasu:

his parents called us to talk to his son, we tried, but he always avoided the topic.... he used to be very 孝
hope this is only an exceptional case....
we still need to cultivate what we believe is virture/value in our kids....

very hard for outsiders to talk to him... don't know what kind of situation he is in that he is like that to his parents. just hope that he won't regret his actions when its too late.

[HyperKiasu]

tree nymph:

HyperKiasu:

looks like i m so bad.... never let my parents benefit from me....haha....
all off topic liao.....

i don't think so lor, let what you said earlier - you are independent and you give them an allowance. And you and your kids also spend time with them, I'm sure this is what your parents treasure most. this is good already mah.

I also want to extend this to PILs leh. cos without them, there's no hbs or wifes liao!

lol....now i recalled one friend who once told me she liked to live with PIL rather than her own parents... especially his FIL who very 不计较 very easy to go along with....

[HyperKiasu]

tree nymph:

HyperKiasu:

hair loss also....
养儿一百岁, 长忧九十九

yah lor! how can i forget about the hair loss??!!! i've only half of what i used to have now!



Well said, well said.

:celebrate:

me too... dare not try medicine , duno the side effect

[HyperKiasu]

tree nymph:

HyperKiasu:

hair loss also....
养儿一百岁, 长忧九十九

yah lor! how can i forget about the hair loss??!!! i've only half of what i used to have now!



Well said, well said.

:celebrate:

actually, 儿孙自有儿孙福....we just too kiasu...

[tree nymph]

HyperKiasu:

me too... dare not try medicine , duno the side effect

have you tried the curry leaves? i used the shampoo recommended in the other thread and it helped a bit. I've a curry leave plant at home. I'm going to start soon...

:offtopic:

[tree nymph]

HyperKiasu:

actually, 儿孙自有儿孙福....we just too kiasu...

:lol: :lol:

but like what you said, we still got to instill right values... don't want them to grow up to be a 寄生虫！

[HyperKiasu]

tree nymph:

HyperKiasu:

me too... dare not try medicine , duno the side effect

have you tried the curry leaves? i used the shampoo recommended in the other thread and it helped a bit. I've a curry leave plant at home. I'm going to start soon...

:offtopic:

sometimes i forgot to buy and when remembered it, can't find it in supermkt...will check out again....

curry leave plant? i m interested... u bought the plant as a whole? is it easy to grow?

[tree nymph]

HyperKiasu:

:offtopic:


sometimes i forgot to buy and when remembered it, can't find it in supermkt...will check out again....

curry leave plant? i m interested... u bought the plant as a whole? is it easy to grow?

i got a young plant from my mum and plant it. very easy to plant and grow quite fast. just need very sunny place and well-watered.

[HyperKiasu]

tree nymph:

HyperKiasu:

actually, 儿孙自有儿孙福....we just too kiasu...

:lol: :lol:

but like what you said, we still got to instill right values... don't want them to grow up to be a 寄生虫！

yah, if they are not independent, they will turn out to be 寄生虫

[buds]

HyperKiasu:

if there is no IL problem, parents benefit us more than they benefit from us if they live with us, right?

Nope not really.

I can get along with my ILs. They are the ones who cannot get along
with me. :lol: Aniwaes, jokes aside.. though i have many many issues
living with ILs, i don't see myself benefitting more cos hubs and i do
not ask anything of them. We take care of them, for better or worse
and for sickness and in health regardless. They do not need to take
care of our children nor do the housework though FIL helps out a LOT.
He likes a clean house. I guess the only thing we wish for and not
that we ask for it.. is that they do not give us any intentional problems.

Dun give us money problems or cause us marital problems or always
interfere in the way we raise our children. While we value their
experience & seniority as parents, times have really changed. So, while
some rules can still apply and work in olden days, it may backfire in
current times. Living together as a family, getting to watch the grand
children grow and spending quality time doing meaningful things during
the silver age, not required to do housework or contribute to the house
hold and sorts.. going for occasional short trips.. etc... in short just live
life happy and keep things simple & cordial.

In our case, they benefit more cos we are here taking care of them.

Our children may benefit from extended family relationships, having
a strong sense of family ties... how we take care of one another...
the children can tell the filial aspect of looking up and looking out for
our elders and making them happy. Since the problems that usually
arise are between the adults, the children are not involved in these
head banging issues. They see how we try to maintain harmony in
the house despite our differences or the issues that we face.

Our (hubs and i) parents sure didnt fork out 350k for each of us cos
we were thrown in the wild right after sec sch. In fact, we worked
while we were in school. We turned out fine nevertheless and never
harped on the issues of $ and why we were left to fend for ourselves.
We are the ones with our parents till today.. money aside, we wudn't
even be here if not for them.