$350k for 1 child?
-
think $350k is just reasonable…no excessive enrichment (maybe just swimming and another enrichment that doesn’t cost more than $200 a mth), normal kindergarten (not those few $k a mth kind), normal food, not restaurant with abalone shark fin frequently, normal clothings, not branded (i know some children ONLY wear branded), local UNI education not overseas, etc.
-
markfch:
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I know that there're extremely nasty PILs around. How I know? I just imagine some of my belligerent colleagues becoming grannies. And I know for sure that their DILs will suffer in their hands. :spank:
:faint: :faint:
too! -
ksi:
:hi5:
Here you go again...my twin!!!tree nymph:
Anyway, I think $350k in just a figure, but i do wonder where is the starting and ending of the calculation. or is it just the figure for schooling and enrichment and tuition for how many years?
It takes a village to raise a child... So raising a child is PRICELESS!
-
markfch:
Only DILs will suffer? Son-ILs won't? If so, you better ensure your son doesn't go anywhere near their dds too!
I know that there're extremely nasty PILs around. How I know? I just imagine some of my belligerent colleagues becoming grannies. And I know for sure that their DILs will suffer in their hands. :spank:
-
Muahahaahaa! Good one ksi! :celebrate:
-
ksi:
yah hor! I better tell my sons to stay far far from these potential MILs too!
Only DILs will suffer? Son-ILs won't? If so, you better ensure your son doesn't go anywhere near their dds too!markfch:
I know that there're extremely nasty PILs around. How I know? I just imagine some of my belligerent colleagues becoming grannies. And I know for sure that their DILs will suffer in their hands. :spank: -
buds:
Muahahaahaa! Good one ksi! :celebrate:
:celebrate: maybe I more kiasu in this area...the moment I sense something amiss in the parents....I hope my dd know how to :siam: such ILs in future.........kekeke -
HyperKiasu:
Just wondering, what if parents told the child upfront that the money for university/overseas education is a loan, but the child does not repay after graduation? What can the parents do in that case? :?
... even if we can afford for overseas study, we can lend the money to children and be repaid after they graduate.
i believe by doing this they will better know life is not easy (though our parents don't want them to repeat hardship we have gone through) and they can learn to lead an indepent life. this will have long life impact...
DH supported his brother thru uni... but the brother never graduated... and I was so angry about that cos' I honestly believed it was due to his brother spending more time playing computer games or watching soccer. The money oso never returned although he did tell the brother it was a loan... what can you do? Fortunately, the brother is nice in his other ways (hence explains the spoiling/indulgence from DH), and he is having a good career now. Otherwise, we could have requests for more things in future...
My own sister had also asked my mom for help for some things she wanted to buy for her first home. Was supposed to be a loan, but she never returned. My mom kept harping about it, but what else could she do? So, even in the same family, different kid can have different mindset too... -
tree nymph:
If my PILs stay with us, I'll be in same position as you... except that it would be my maids doing the groceries... lol (so can imagine my :? when she came to stay with us during my maternity... only adding more work and stress). Not everyone is blessed with PILs or event parents who can help out in taking care of grandchildren. :roll:
same here. In fact, my MIL can go out for tea, gatherings, and golf almost everyday and is really living it up as a true blue tai tai. While I was pregnant, she also didn't specially boil anything for me to drink or things like that. during my confinement, she does not lift a finger to help out to look after the kids, or go to market to buy fresh ingredients or did anything small thing like what most MIL will do.
For the record, and i can really stand up here and say it out for everyone to see, I have to buy everything in the house, from the toilet paper to replacing the washing machine. Even we i was 39 weeks pregnant, I still have to go to the wet market to get stuff for the dinning table, not to mention buying bags of 10kg of rice and bringing them back from the supermarket. So I drive, but i still need to lift the heavy stuff up and put into the car right. Even the fishmonger in the market told me how come i'm still doing all these stuff, how come my MIL didn't even help out? On the third day after giving birth, I'm back to supermarket and the wet market getting stuff liao!
In my case, I really think that my PIL benefit from us staying with them MORE. -
ksi:
Gals got extremely sensitive satelite dish antennas rotating 360 deg daily so gals can easily detect PILs criticism miles away. Guys antennas are made up of a single wire pointing upwards. Sometimes wire also pointing wrong direction but we just don't bother to fix. So even if PILs are directly scolding SILs, some SILs will still think that it's the other people that are making PILs upset.
Only DILs will suffer? Son-ILs won't? If so, you better ensure your son doesn't go anywhere near their dds too!markfch:
I know that there're extremely nasty PILs around. How I know? I just imagine some of my belligerent colleagues becoming grannies. And I know for sure that their DILs will suffer in their hands. :spank:
Me? I'm keeping my single wire antenna, thank you :cheeky:
Hello! It looks like you're interested in this conversation, but you don't have an account yet.
Getting fed up of having to scroll through the same posts each visit? When you register for an account, you'll always come back to exactly where you were before, and choose to be notified of new replies (either via email, or push notification). You'll also be able to save bookmarks and upvote posts to show your appreciation to other community members.
With your input, this post could be even better 💗
Register Login