In-law problems?

[buds]

Angel is a bit much for me. So paiseh now. :siam:

Nah, i try to live and let live. While i try to fathom
why i'm always ill-treated and seemed to be on her
verbal abuse favourites, i can't come to much x-cept
for the fact that she thought i stole her son from her
which after that i think again... eh.. can't be oso wat,
cos her son is still here with her regardless of the fact
the DIL is suffering the first few years. She robbed me
of what should be the first few years of a blissful
marriage by coming btwn hubs and i a lot, on top of all
the intrusions as to how we or rather how \"I\" raise the
children.

But i refuse to allow these instances to ruin my life so
i try to find happiness in any way i can. It doesn't help
that i do not get to leave the house for full time work
outside, but through the years of n-service i guess the
toughening up was kinda good for me. I dun think i can
fall deeper into the pit more than what i have already
gone through.. the life she gave me only made me even
stronger.

I suppose i'd be seen as an angel by her and FIL when i
can finally give birth to a boy for my #3. This is the sole
reason why i don't think a gender scan halfway through
the pregnancy (est.. 5-6mths) is a good idea. I'm all for
the 'surprise' factor this time round... or else i think i'd
be quite stressed. ... if it weren't a boy. :faint:

[Andaiz]

buds:

I suppose i'd be seen as an angel by her and FIL when i
can finally give birth to a boy for my #3. This is the sole
reason why i don't think a gender scan halfway through
the pregnancy (est.. 5-6mths) is a good idea. I'm all for
the 'surprise' factor this time round... or else i think i'd
be quite stressed. ... if it weren't a boy. :faint:

haha! That's exactly what I said to DH. Too bad for MIL, we have three girls! But they are wonderful enough for me! :celebrate:

Don't fret, buds, BABY's a life and a precious gift...boy or girl, eh?

[markfch]

buds:

I suppose i'd be seen as an angel by her and FIL when i
can finally give birth to a boy for my #3. This is the sole
reason why i don't think a gender scan halfway through
the pregnancy (est.. 5-6mths) is a good idea. I'm all for
the 'surprise' factor this time round... or else i think i'd
be quite stressed. ... if it weren't a boy. :faint:

Actually which gender depends on the dad's chromosome mah. Nothing to do with mummies. Pity those woman of olden times who were prejudiced by ILs cos didn't give birth to male heir. :roll:

Buds, now that you've ds, you are awarded the 免死金牌 from ILs, so now talk also louder lor, see whether got difference in treatment or not

My ILs got 4 girls and no son. So when ds (their one and only extremely precious grandchild) came, they were so happy with my 'performance'. Appraisal that year was A+, got special PB wan ok. Buy things also give to me only. My other BILs (who are childless) just pretend not to notice. Mum also got this mindset that boys can do no wrong. *faint*

Luckily ds didn't turn out too pampered. Otherwise I will :stupid:

[buds]

Andaiz:

haha! That's exactly what I said to DH. Too bad for MIL, we have three girls! But they are wonderful enough for me! :celebrate:

You can't be more right, Andaiz sista! :celebrate:
I cannot imagine life without my two angels.. i even bought them both a
tee that said, \"Girls are better than boys!\" much to the :roll: of my ILs. :lol:

Andaiz:

Don't fret, buds, BABY's a life and a precious gift...boy or girl, eh?

Yes. Definitely that wor.. :hugs:

Being an old mommy now, i'm quite freaked out by horror stories of ya know..

So for me ultimately, a normal healthy baby is the ONLY thing i pray for
this #3. I cannot imagine being such an old mommy really... kinda :oops:
really...

[markfch]

buds:

Have you read this? > http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/magic-children

Your dd2 is simply wonderful. Wah, this type of DIL cannot be too bad wan. Want to matchmake or not :rotflmao: My ds not bad you know. Is very well trained since young, got piano, got swimming, got learn fractions (the one that I got from you lor), got this and that (and I cannot stop laughing already) :laugh:

[markfch]

LKVM:

wah wat a matchmaking markfch :shock:


btw is it ok with u cause ur DS is younger to the buds DD2

No prob, no prob. For the sake of having a good DIL, anything also can. Btw, this grandpa very modern thinking wan. Grandson or daughter also nevermind but at least try to have one lah

[Andaiz]

markfch:

Actually which gender depends on the dad's chromosome mah. Nothing to do with mummies. Pity those woman of olden times who were prejudiced by ILs cos didn't give birth to male heir. :roll:

markfch, try telling that to a Western educated MIL who BTW is a certified nurse down under as well. :stupid: :stupid:

After DD1 arrived (oso horror stories AFTER we told her gender - check my previous threads), she started cooking strange stuff - hoping that my pH scale would be more alkaline - and then the grandSON she hopes for would materialize...same thing for DD3!


It's nothing to do with the education of the MIL, it's every thing to do with deepseated prejudice.

Recently at CHurch she made a comment \"oh, their Sunday school class only 3 girls!?\" To which I answered in my most angelic voice \"yeah, mum....our girls are really precious hoh?\"

[buds]

buds:

I suppose i'd be seen as an angel by her and FIL when i

can finally give birth to a boy for my #3. This is the sole reason why i don't think a gender scan halfway through the pregnancy (est.. 5-6mths) is a good idea. I'm all for the 'surprise' factor this time round... or else i think i'd
be quite stressed. ... if it weren't a boy. :faint:

markfch:

Actually which gender depends on the dad's chromosome mah. Nothing to do with mummies.

Yes, i've been countlessly supported by all the ladies in this thread that it's
not my fault... er.. in fact.. :idea: .. never my fault, anytime. :rotflmao:

I'm also being reminded here that i shouldn't even demean myself to
depression over the accusations or indications from others that it's all me...
the devil wife who ascended from hell to steal hubs and then cannot give
them a son. :lol:

markfch:

Pity those woman of olden times who were prejudiced by ILs cos didn't give birth to male heir. :roll:

Pity me lor.. cos i oredi saw the prejudice since SIL gave birth to the
family's first grandson last year. Even my SIL felt awkward with too
much sudden attention... and affection from ILs that to her seemed a lil
fake lor. I just told her, lucky you lor.. just enjoy the bliss sista. She felt
a lil bad for me each time a clear tinge of praise came her way or each
time MIL poses with her bb & declares that it is this DIL who just gave
me my 1st grandson.

My filial yet pretty dense (somtimes.. sorry hun) hubs like you prefers to
set that antenna straight lor and not think of negative vibes. He'd just
prob go .. \"Just ignore lor.\" But after too many occasions, he did
stand up for us. Or rather stand up for himself. :lol: Cos he's the *sissy
( FIL's exact words hor.. :siam: ) with the new SR gun or somethin' (new
gun issued to the NS army boys) as compared to FIL's M-16 that shot out 3 boys/sons.

Niwae, if it ain't a boy...
It's all HIS fault! :laugh:

markfch:

Buds, now that you've ds, you are awarded the 免死金牌 from ILs, so now talk also louder lor, see whether got difference in treatment or not

Wei! I cannot be discharged from it yet orh!
I'm only like 13wks on... still long way to go.

I betcha no difference wan lar.. once from hell always
from hell wan lar. Condemned liao. :lol: Not that i bother
much though... these days i know how to switch off oredi.
Just like hubs. One antenna requires less fixing when spoilt.

markfch:

My ILs got 4 girls and no son. So when ds (their one and only extremely precious grandchild) came, they were so happy with my 'performance'.

You crack me up lar! :rotflmao:
I can get dependent on these
crack-ups of yours ya know...
Keep it coming!

markfch:

Appraisal that year was A+, got special PB wan ok.

Wuuuuaaah! Steady pom pi pi leh you! Straight As! That's what... :idea:
1.5 mths extra? No joke leh. Seriously good.. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

markfch:

Buy things also give to me only. My other BILs (who are childless) just pretend not to notice. Mum also got this mindset that boys can do no wrong. *faint*

:faint:

Boys can do no wrong! Yeah.. right! :cheeky:

markfch:

Luckily ds didn't turn out too pampered. Otherwise I will :stupid:

Better not arh! :celebrate:

[buds]

markfch:

Your dd2 is simply wonderful. Wah, this type of DIL cannot be too bad wan. Want to matchmake or not :rotflmao: My ds not bad you know. Is very well trained since young, got piano, got swimming, got learn fractions (the one that I got from you lor), got this and that (and I cannot stop laughing already) :laugh:

http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.phphttp://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.phphttp://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.phpGawd, my tummy aches so bad! But i'm lovin' it!http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.phphttp://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.phphttp://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

You're now declared the official crack pot! Dun worry how that sounds..
It just means you're good! http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

[Sun_2010]

buds:

But i refuse to allow these instances to ruin my life so

i try to find happiness in any way i can.
....the life she gave me only made me even stronger.

Thats what made me call u an angel. Instead of getting all worked up and making things bad for all, u can look at the big picture, can have that attitude...
I wish i could do thta, so far have been able to for all others relations-
Maybe more so bcos i cant forgive my mil . when she around i am waiting for the next disaster between mum and son - and it occurs soon (no it ususlly doesnt involve me directly). If there is once person in the whole world i can bring out the worst in me - its her. I mean it when i say i could be a bit more forgiving of the attention she demands, of all the interfering things she wants us to do for 'your-own-good' , right from what should be the shade of dress i wear, to what i should eat, where we should go ... :roll:

Anyway I think, bcos u dont let ur mil get the better of u by reacting adversely, she gets more upset. Easier for her if you give her a reason to hate... Imagine how had it is to have a a good and nice person for an enemy, hehe

buds:

I suppose i'd be seen as an angel by her and FIL when i
can finally give birth to a boy for my #3.

really, i found it hard to believe that the compulsio to have a grandson is so high here. When i heard it about irst from my neighbour , abt 14-15 yrs ago I was shocked. Since then i have become quite used to hearing this complaint abt MILs. In todays world its more abt mind set oly.

Neways congratulations - baby is such a beautiful phenomena .