Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?

[markfch]

DesertWind:

Hi markfch,

I think you are a \"24-filial-piety\" parent leh! Also only son izzit? That's why so kan cheong lor.
And I read somewhere you are already trying to match-make for him izzit? :!:
Still \"heng\" meh ie. arranged marriage from young? :shock:
:celebrate:

Erm, he's not only son, he's the only child (jialet, I put all my eggs into one basket). And first grandchild on both sides. So ds better have broad shoulders to carry the expectations from both families

Have you seen the PILs thread? Can't remember if you are one of the main contributors there . Choosing DIL is more impt than choosing pri sch you know. Choose correctly, next time grandchildren will still retain good gene pool. Choose wrongly, next time I can only do this ==> :stupid:

Of course I'm just joking lah. As long as next time ds brings a gal & not a boy home, and she doesn't have facial tattoos/piercing I would be grateful liao

[markfch]

Blobbi:

I do love the working with your kids and the math/science/language threads. That's why I'm on KSP :lol:, aside from the company of course. Was telling a friend of mine - I'd love for my son to reap the benefits of XYZ classes. But I don't get past the thought because it just won't work with my son's personality. Some people tell me to just stick him in, but the complaints I get, I tell you!

So long as he's happy and learning, I just have to accept it. Besides once he started school, and for him, he's got a whole bunch of therapy to go to, there's a lot less time for what he wants to do anyway. So we have no time for enrichment.

Doesn't stop me from thinking about it sometimes though. :lol:

hi Blobbi,

For a moment I thought you like to work with my kid, keke. May I ask a qn? Does your ds suffer from short attention span or something?

For me, I can be pretty greedy. I always wonder how nice if ds is truly smart, you know the type that is matured beyond his years. Then I looked at myself in the mirror, and I'm glad my parents did not have this kind of ridiculous expectation on me :oops: .

And so, I count my blessings and life goes on ....

[MMM]

markfch:

[Choosing DIL is more impt than choosing pri sch you know.

:lol: My hubby was the only son but even then I felt that I went through a \"rigorous\" process. Fil looked and scrutinised me from head to toe for the 1st few time we meet. He literally sit facing me and look at me from head to toe :!: Thought I can only see that in the drama.

Told my only son that next time, daddy will also do that to his potential girlfriends.

[duriz]

MMM:

Told my only son that next time, daddy will also do that to his potential girlfriends.

This reminds me of the first time DH brought me home to meet his parents. When DH went to get me a drink and left me alone with PILs: MIL asked do I cook (yes); do I like to clean (yes); do I love children (yes).

When DH was driving me home, he asked me what we talked about. I told him his Mom was interviewing for a maid :faint:

[Blobbi]

markfch:

For me, I can be pretty greedy. I always wonder how nice if ds is truly smart, you know the type that is matured beyond his years. Then I looked at myself in the mirror, and I'm glad my parents did not have this kind of ridiculous expectation on me :oops: .

And so, I count my blessings and life goes on ....

Yeah! Mine too! As in not have high expectations of me. Ain't that great? :celebrate: I'm quite sure I turned out alright.

My son ah. Attention span - when I think about it, not really lah. Maybe hyperfocus cos sometimes think until cannot sleep, which can be pretty bad. Anyway, nature has a way of taking care of that - like he'll knock out after a few continuous days like that, keke. What I mean is very poor muscles, that sort of thing. I don't mean becoming a world class athlete - just getting to normal will do. :love: It's happening, but slowly.

[DesertWind]

No, I did not contribute much (if at all) to the PIL thread that's why lor, dunno whether you joking or not! If you are serious, then you got to start a new thread call \"All about Matchmaking\" or something like that! Then KSP will REALLY be very very KS! Not only choose schools but also choose daughters and son-in-laws! :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

markfch:

Choosing DIL is more impt than choosing pri sch you know. Choose correctly, next time grandchildren will still retain good gene pool. Choose wrongly, next time I can only do this ==> :stupid: Of course I'm just joking lah. As long as next time ds brings a gal & not a boy home, and she doesn't have facial tattoos/piercing I would be grateful liao

[minnie2004]

duriz:

MMM:

Told my only son that next time, daddy will also do that to his potential girlfriends.

This reminds me of the first time DH brought me home to meet his parents. When DH went to get me a drink and left me alone with PILs: MIL asked do I cook (yes); do I like to clean (yes); do I love children (yes).

When DH was driving me home, he asked me what we talked about. I told him his Mom was interviewing for a maid :faint:

Haha! Wonder why most MILs expect their DILs to be like a maid :?
Instead of focusing on how smart, educated they are and how compatible they are with their sons, they only look at maid-like attributes.
Getting :offtopic: . Should move over to the PIL thread

[corneyAmber]

minnie2004:

Haha! Wonder why most MILs expect their DILs to be like a maid :?

Instead of focusing on how smart, educated they are and how compatible they are with their sons, they only look at maid-like attributes.
Getting :offtopic: . Should move over to the PIL thread

I know I know...in the older generation, they can only compare such skills they have to their DIL, since DIL more educated, that cannot compare mah.... Typically people only measure what they are familiar with....then they can monitor better how well the person is doing those tasks.

Now moving forward in the new gen MIL, I think asking about primary schools, what PSLE results will be the trend lor..... kekekekekekekeke

[minnie2004]

ksi:

Now moving forward in the new gen MIL, I think asking about primary schools, what PSLE results will be the trend lor..... kekekekekekekeke

heehee, that's what we will be doing to our DILs. Those potential DILs and SILs from top primary schools will be in high demand :love: .

[MMM]

minnie2004:

Haha! Wonder why most MILs expect their DILs to be like a maid :?

Instead of focusing on how smart, educated they are and how compatible they are with their sons, they only look at maid-like attributes.
Getting :offtopic: . Should move over to the PIL thread

I already told my son casually the pre-requisite of being my IDEAL dil subjected to changes.

Someone with strong family values (eg. those who believe in harmony and building a strong family relationship with pils, sils, etc...), educated, ability to think and operate independently (eg. not those who depend the hubby on every single thing and cannot make up their own mind/ decision), able to help and support him (in any way).

Told him not to paste stamps on his eyes. Definitely a big NO NO to girls who are asking him to buy branded stuff for them and only dreams about being a tai tai even before they are married. Told him the girl need not be beautiful. Just need to be presentable and importantly a good character.

Daddy said... .preferably a cash cow too.