What you do want or hope your child to work as next time?

[corneyAmber]

KSP, I cannot find your dream for your child even though you started this thread.

[KSP]

ksi:

KSP, I cannot find your dream for your child even though you started this thread.

I hope she can spend time with me when I get old. Something not too time committed or need frequent traveling. Teacher or lecturer would be ideal. Principal, university dean or chancellor even better.

This is only what I hope. But I don't think it will happen. She now started to listen more to her friends than us. I think her study and career path are more lightly depending on her circle of friends choose.

[corneyAmber]

KSP:

ksi:

KSP, I cannot find your dream for your child even though you started this thread.

I hope she can spend time with me when I get old. Something not too time committed or need frequent traveling. Teacher or lecturer would be ideal. Principal, university dean or chancellor even better.

Oh they can be posted to work overseas too...but thanks for sharing though.

[KSP]

ksi:

KSP:

[quote=\"ksi\"]KSP, I cannot find your dream for your child even though you started this thread.

I hope she can spend time with me when I get old. Something not too time committed or need frequent traveling. Teacher or lecturer would be ideal. Principal, university dean or chancellor even better.

Oh they can be posted to work overseas too...but thanks for sharing though.[/quote]Hopefully she can work in the local schools or universities.

[ImMeeMee]

autumnbronze:

tree nymph:

[quote=\"ImMeeMee\"]

Well said about the bow and arrow
For the bow being strong and stable
Wishes to support the arrow to fly far with might

But the archer bends the bow way too much
Causing it to lose its focus and its sight
As much as the bow wants the arrow to fly
The bow feels lost and needs the archer back

The arrow is waiting for the bow
To bring it strength to set upon the mark
The bow struggles with the archer
To find that unknown mark

One day the bow will find the mark
But until then it continues to fight with the archer
And meanwhile tries with all its might
To give the arrow the strength to stay on track.

this is so beautiful too! and aptly describe our role as a parent.

The ksparents here got a lot of ink!

:goodpost: :goodpost:
:celebrate:[/quote]thanks.

my piece was written with great grief in my heart. Our dear daughter 3 has just been assessed to be autistic. This has pretty much turned our lives upside down, as its a whole lot of new things for us - therapy sessions, early intervention school, more assessments on hearing, not the mention the emotional turmoil.

dh has clammed up because of this - i dont know whether i am to be blamed for this, as I have been equally emotional and temperamental myself. where we used to share joy and laughter between us, it is now silence and anguish. I dont know which is worse - dd3's situation or the fact that this may have changed my marriage. and it breaks my heart.

while there are friends that i can confide in, i cant seem to talk to anybody on this. it is just too emotional for me. i know this is not the worst, as there are others with worse plights than me, and they have been able to get through. one day i will look back and see that we have passed the worst stage. but at this point here and now, it is just too overwhelming for me.

so when i saw the piece on 'On Children', i suddenly had the urge to seek solace in words, hence my piece. yes, the archer is the 'supreme being' who has set the path for my daughter, a path that is unknown to me, and therefore I feel anguish. As much as I like to nurture my dd3, I am equally lost in what her future holds for her. while i believe one day we will walk out of this darkness, i tread with uncertainty now, with a great sense of loss and grief.

my piece is amateurish, and but an expression of thoughts within immense inner turmoil. 见笑了.

[Pen88n]

ImMeeMee:

autumnbronze:

[quote=\"tree nymph\"]
this is so beautiful too! and aptly describe our role as a parent.

The ksparents here got a lot of ink!

:goodpost: :goodpost:
:celebrate:

thanks.

my piece was written with great grief in my heart. Our dear daughter 3 has just been assessed to be autistic. This has pretty much turned our lives upside down, as its a whole lot of new things for us - therapy sessions, early intervention school, more assessments on hearing, not the mention the emotional turmoil.

dh has clammed up because of this - i dont know whether i am to be blamed for this, as I have been equally emotional and temperamental myself. where we used to share joy and laughter between us, it is now silence and anguish. I dont know which is worse - dd3's situation or the fact that this may have changed my marriage. and it breaks my heart.

while there are friends that i can confide in, i cant seem to talk to anybody on this. it is just too emotional for me. i know this is not the worst, as there are others with worse plights than me, and they have been able to get through. one day i will look back and see that we have passed the worst stage. but at this point here and now, it is just too overwhelming for me.

so when i saw the piece on 'On Children', i suddenly had the urge to seek solace in words, hence my piece. yes, the archer is the 'supreme being' who has set the path for my daughter, a path that is unknown to me, and therefore I feel anguish. As much as I like to nurture my dd3, I am equally lost in what her future holds for her. while i believe one day we will walk out of this darkness, i tread with uncertainty now, with a great sense of loss and grief.

my piece is amateurish, and but an expression of thoughts within immense inner turmoil. 见笑了.[/quote]ImMeeMee,

Fret not, for your gal has her place in this world and will find her way. The archer has a purpose for her. It may not be the bull's eye target, but she will find her path and her final destination. As the bow, both you and your hubby (different parts of the bow?) should do your part to support her in guiding her on her path to the destination. Be a strong bow, for the sake of the arrow and trust in the archer to guide the bow and arrow and show you the way!

All the best to you and your family!

[autumnbronze]

ImMeeMee:

autumnbronze:

[quote=\"tree nymph\"]
this is so beautiful too! and aptly describe our role as a parent.

The ksparents here got a lot of ink!

:goodpost: :goodpost:
:celebrate:

thanks.

my piece was written with great grief in my heart. Our dear daughter 3 has just been assessed to be autistic. This has pretty much turned our lives upside down, as its a whole lot of new things for us - therapy sessions, early intervention school, more assessments on hearing, not the mention the emotional turmoil.

dh has clammed up because of this - i dont know whether i am to be blamed for this, as I have been equally emotional and temperamental myself. where we used to share joy and laughter between us, it is now silence and anguish. I dont know which is worse - dd3's situation or the fact that this may have changed my marriage. and it breaks my heart.

while there are friends that i can confide in, i cant seem to talk to anybody on this. it is just too emotional for me. i know this is not the worst, as there are others with worse plights than me, and they have been able to get through. one day i will look back and see that we have passed the worst stage. but at this point here and now, it is just too overwhelming for me.

so when i saw the piece on 'On Children', i suddenly had the urge to seek solace in words, hence my piece. yes, the archer is the 'supreme being' who has set the path for my daughter, a path that is unknown to me, and therefore I feel anguish. As much as I like to nurture my dd3, I am equally lost in what her future holds for her. while i believe one day we will walk out of this darkness, i tread with uncertainty now, with a great sense of loss and grief.

my piece is amateurish, and but an expression of thoughts within immense inner turmoil. 见笑了.[/quote]Hi ImMeeMee,

Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts with us.

Your piece is not amateurish at all. It reflects alot about you as a mother - strong, unyielding and on the contrary, very focused in trying to help your DD3 (see highlighted stanza) - my interpretation at least.

ImMeeMee, I can understand when you say that you can't seem to talk to anyone about it. But I'd like to assure you that in KSP here, there will be someone who can respond to your queries or lend you a 'shoulder' to lean on in times of need.

I am not sure if you have perused the \"All About Autism thread.\" If you have the time, please try to read the postings there. There are mummies there who will gladly provide support. That thread itself has provided me with much enlightenment.

I chose to read up on the topic because I know of some who are in the same situation as you and who simply refuse to give up on their child. To follow up, I also read up on Jenny McCarthy's \"Louder than Words: A Mother's Journey in Healing Autism\" and \"Mother Warriors.\" Very inspiring books.

A word of encouragement - I know you are feeling down at the moment. But I'd like to sincerely add that I do believe that you are also a \"Mother Warrior\" (based on your poem), and that you WILL pull through out of this.

Try to get some support from family and friends. You will need it. And your DD3 as well as your 2 elders ones need you too.

I will PM you in a short while.

Do take care and loads of :hugs: :hugs:

[Blobbi]

Gosh. First time I chanced upon this thread.


So sorry to hear about how things are, IMM. You brought a lump to my throat. It’s so easy to look back and start pointing fingers, but there is no-one to blame, good or bad.

All the best to you and your family. I know you won’t lose hope.

[Way2GO]

Thx for d sharing, ImMeeMee.

I now understand your piece better.
U n your DH need to be strong for your kids.
Best wishes.

[RRMummy]

Dear ImMeeMee,


I'm not good with words but please come to us here if you need friends to hear you out, shoulders to cry on and support to hold on to..we are here for you dear..

:snuggles: