Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?

[corneyAmber]

jtoh:

ksi:

It just occured to me....what if you are one parent that others feel pressured with simply because your kid is doing well....then how ah?


Interesting to know people on the other side too....

I think it depends on how the parent with the child who's doing better behaves. Even if your child is topping the school etc, you don't have to go around bragging. If you don't brag, no one will know the details and no one will feel pressurised by you. I know of parents whose children are exceedingly smart, topping the school, doing very well in Math Olympiads etc, who never bring up the subject. And when asked, they just give a vague answer like she's doing okay. In fact, this particular parent dislikes it when people ask her how her child did because she doesn't like the attention.

Thanks for sharing.

[sleepy]

ksi:

It just occured to me....what if you are one parent that others feel pressured with simply because your kid is doing well....then how ah?


Interesting to know people on the other side too....

I posted on page 4. Nowsaday, I only shared with immediate family members. My brothers do not have kids in the same age group, should not feel any pressure. In fact they are quite amused.

jtoh:

I think it depends on how the parent with the child who's doing better behaves. Even if your child is topping the school etc, you don't have to go around bragging. If you don't brag, no one will know the details and no one will feel pressurised by you. I know of parents whose children are exceedingly smart, topping the school, doing very well in Math Olympiads etc, who never bring up the subject. And when asked, they just give a vague answer like she's doing okay. In fact, this particular parent dislikes it when people ask her how her child did because she doesn't like the attention.

The strangest incident is a mum from dd2's kindy can identify my dd1 and told her daughter my dd1's name :shock: Oh, I found out subsequently that mum is SIL's friend. However, I've not met her prior to that & I don't have the slightest clue how she managed to recognise dd1.

I have also received phone call from one of dd1's classmates mum asking how I coach my dd even though I've never met her. Somehow the kids talk among themselves.

[jtoh]

jtoh:

I think it depends on how the parent with the child who's doing better behaves. Even if your child is topping the school etc, you don't have to go around bragging. If you don't brag, no one will know the details and no one will feel pressurised by you. I know of parents whose children are exceedingly smart, topping the school, doing very well in Math Olympiads etc, who never bring up the subject. And when asked, they just give a vague answer like she's doing okay. In fact, this particular parent dislikes it when people ask her how her child did because she doesn't like the attention.

The strangest incident is a mum from dd2's kindy can identify my dd1 and told her daughter my dd1's name :shock: Oh, I found out subsequently that mum is SIL's friend. However, I've not met her prior to that & I don't have the slightest clue how she managed to recognise dd1.

I have also received phone call from one of dd1's classmates mum asking how I coach my dd even though I've never met her. Somehow the kids talk among themselves.[/quote]

Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year!

[Orchid_SG2010]

sleepy:

I have also received phone call from one of dd1's classmates mum asking how I coach my dd even though I've never met her. Somehow the kids talk among themselves.

your DD1 very good with her study?

[Orchid_SG2010]

sleepy:

Lock:

I struggled with the pressure for her to do well academically and pressure from my own set of belief in what education should be. Finally, after numerous struggles and tensions (with my dd), I try to strike a balance between preparing my dd n ds for the exams and getting them to enjoy learning. My view is that a little competition and push is fine, as long as the kids still have the joy in learning. However, we should stop pushing once kids show signs of hating to learn, cos that will not do them any good in the long run.

:goodpost:


I run my own syllabus at home too, independent of my dd's P2 school syllabus. The next best thing to homeschooling her entirely

homeschool or hothouse?

[sleepy]

jtoh:

Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year!

:rotflmao: wow, this is ultimate!

Being stalked?

[keroppi]

sleepy:

jtoh:

Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year!

:rotflmao: wow, this is ultimate!

Being stalked?

Wow. Don't think anyone can top that. She should be given an award.

[jtoh]

keroppi:

sleepy:

[quote=\"jtoh\"]Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year!

:rotflmao: wow, this is ultimate!

Being stalked?

Wow. Don't think anyone can top that. She should be given an award.[/quote] :lol: I hope I wasn't being stalked. But I did see her in two different shopping centres subsequently. Oh dear!!

[sleepy]

Orchid_SG2010:

sleepy:

I run my own syllabus at home too, independent of my dd's P2 school syllabus. The next best thing to homeschooling her entirely

homeschool or hothouse?

How to hothouse :?

[Sun_2010]

sleepy:

Orchid_SG2010:

[quote=\"sleepy\"]


I run my own syllabus at home too, independent of my dd's P2 school syllabus. The next best thing to homeschooling her entirely

homeschool or hothouse?

What is hothouse? How to hothouse :?[/quote]Kiasu parent dunno what is hothouse :shock:

Ok hot house is the kind of house where in the parents have an entire curriculum for the 24 hrs in a day to meet the ultimate goal of being extremely ahead of all other kids. Like every activity the child does has a very definite purpose, and has been researched. What books to read, what books to do, the deadlines, the targets ....
even the What the child eats is also specific to that.

In short a very focused , highly controlled, very very intensive training .
Hothoused kids can be very very high achievers, but are they happy, well adjusted, kids with good self esteem is the more imp question...

From what i see here, sleepy u are far from it kind of mummy (u r a mummy right?). I think u r the kind who stimulates ur kids and let them take it at their own pace.