Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?
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jtoh:
The strangest incident is a mum from dd2's kindy can identify my dd1 and told her daughter my dd1's name :shock: Oh, I found out subsequently that mum is SIL's friend. However, I've not met her prior to that & I don't have the slightest clue how she managed to recognise dd1.
I think it depends on how the parent with the child who's doing better behaves. Even if your child is topping the school etc, you don't have to go around bragging. If you don't brag, no one will know the details and no one will feel pressurised by you. I know of parents whose children are exceedingly smart, topping the school, doing very well in Math Olympiads etc, who never bring up the subject. And when asked, they just give a vague answer like she's doing okay. In fact, this particular parent dislikes it when people ask her how her child did because she doesn't like the attention.
I have also received phone call from one of dd1's classmates mum asking how I coach my dd even though I've never met her. Somehow the kids talk among themselves.[/quote]
Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year! -
sleepy:
your DD1 very good with her study?
I have also received phone call from one of dd1's classmates mum asking how I coach my dd even though I've never met her. Somehow the kids talk among themselves. -
sleepy:
homeschool or hothouse?
:goodpost:Lock:
I struggled with the pressure for her to do well academically and pressure from my own set of belief in what education should be. Finally, after numerous struggles and tensions (with my dd), I try to strike a balance between preparing my dd n ds for the exams and getting them to enjoy learning. My view is that a little competition and push is fine, as long as the kids still have the joy in learning. However, we should stop pushing once kids show signs of hating to learn, cos that will not do them any good in the long run.
I run my own syllabus at home too, independent of my dd's P2 school syllabus. The next best thing to homeschooling her entirely
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jtoh:
Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year!
:rotflmao: wow, this is ultimate!
Being stalked?
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sleepy:
Wow. Don't think anyone can top that. She should be given an award.jtoh:
Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year!
:rotflmao: wow, this is ultimate!
Being stalked? -
keroppi:
Wow. Don't think anyone can top that. She should be given an award.[/quote] :lol: I hope I wasn't being stalked. But I did see her in two different shopping centres subsequently. Oh dear!!sleepy:
[quote=\"jtoh\"]Hahaha! Kiasu mothers are very resourceful. I've had a mother I've never seen before come up to me in a shopping centre (not even in school) and ask me if so-and-so is my dd and how she managed to do well in her studies etc. She knew ALOT about my dd. And her daughter's not even in the same year!
:rotflmao: wow, this is ultimate!
Being stalked? -
Orchid_SG2010:
homeschool or hothouse?sleepy:
I run my own syllabus at home too, independent of my dd's P2 school syllabus. The next best thing to homeschooling her entirely
How to hothouse :? -
sleepy:
homeschool or hothouse?Orchid_SG2010:
[quote=\"sleepy\"]
I run my own syllabus at home too, independent of my dd's P2 school syllabus. The next best thing to homeschooling her entirely
What is hothouse? How to hothouse :?[/quote]Kiasu parent dunno what is hothouse :shock:
Ok hot house is the kind of house where in the parents have an entire curriculum for the 24 hrs in a day to meet the ultimate goal of being extremely ahead of all other kids. Like every activity the child does has a very definite purpose, and has been researched. What books to read, what books to do, the deadlines, the targets ....
even the What the child eats is also specific to that.
In short a very focused , highly controlled, very very intensive training .
Hothoused kids can be very very high achievers, but are they happy, well adjusted, kids with good self esteem is the more imp question...
From what i see here, sleepy u are far from it kind of mummy (u r a mummy right?). I think u r the kind who stimulates ur kids and let them take it at their own pace. -
Sun_2010:
I think sleepy was not a hothouse mummy, until you planted this idea into her head, kekeke
From what i see here, sleepy u are far from it kind of mummy (u r a mummy right?). I think u r the kind who stimulates ur kids and let them take it at their own pace.
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Sun_2010:
Oops, paiseh paiseh
Kiasu parent dunno what is hothouse :shock: .Sun_2010:
Oh I see. Haha, in that case my house must be freezing cold :rotflmao:
Ok hot house is the kind of house where in the parents have an entire curriculum for the 24 hrs in a day to meet the ultimate goal of being extremely ahead of all other kids. Like every activity the child does has a very definite purpose, and has been researched. What books to read, what books to do, the deadlines, the targets ....
even the What the child eats is also specific to that.
In short a very focused , highly controlled, very very intensive training .
Hothoused kids can be very very high achievers, but are they happy, well adjusted, kids with good self esteem is the more imp question...
Actually this hothousing business sounds very tough to me. To hothouse, parents must firstly be super disciplined themselves!
That's mean I would have no time for shopping, watch å¶åå§, surf kiasu parents.... in order to implement that kind of timetable :faint:Sun_2010:
Yes yes. Just happen that her 'thinking' pace is quite fast although her physical movement is like a slow snail. Must give credit for trying though, I've recently promoted her to tortoiseFrom what i see here, sleepy u are far from it kind of mummy (u r a mummy right?). I think u r the kind who stimulates ur kids and let them take it at their own pace.
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