Share your experience of first time meeting PILs

[Funz]

markfch:

sleepy:

Off topic. My relationship with MIL wasn't all smooth afterall. The trigger was I left my job to be SAHM. She felt extremely bitter that I 'snatched' her granddaughter away from her since I would be taking care of dd full time & she also felt slight injustice that I didn't share her son's burden in bringing home the bacon. She insisted I should return to work！

I think PILs must learn to let go once their children got married. They must understand and accept that once married, the children's spouse should ideally be the most impt person in their children's life. Definitely not an easy thing to do, I know. I hope that when my turn comes, I can do what I preached.

I think not only that, the spouse themselves need to place their partner 1st. If the spouse understands that, there is no way any PIL can interfere with their marriage.

That said, we also have to understand that both parties will still have our obligation towards our respective parents that we need to fulfill. Cannot totally disregard them just cos we have our own family now.

[janet88]

Spouses must communicate with one another once they are married. It’s not easy for 2 individuals to live together. Their respective parents should not interfere in the new lives as it can cause marital disharmony.

[Andaiz]

Funz:

markfch:

[quote=\"sleepy\"]Off topic. My relationship with MIL wasn't all smooth afterall. The trigger was I left my job to be SAHM. She felt extremely bitter that I 'snatched' her granddaughter away from her since I would be taking care of dd full time & she also felt slight injustice that I didn't share her son's burden in bringing home the bacon. She insisted I should return to work！

I think PILs must learn to let go once their children got married. They must understand and accept that once married, the children's spouse should ideally be the most impt person in their children's life. Definitely not an easy thing to do, I know. I hope that when my turn comes, I can do what I preached.

[/quote]easier said then done! My MIL sees me as \"mother of my grandchildren\" not \"wife of my son\". Maybe that is why she doesn't have a grandson till now...so all the things she's done to her two DIL's (my SIL is really wary of her :roll: ) won't have the opportunity (thankfully!) to exact what she has done on the next generation :celebrate:

[concern2]

The first thing that came to my mind when I met my FIL was:


\"Oh dear, why hadn't I checked how how he looks like earlier?\" :clubmyself:

I had forgotten the old saying, \"If you want to know how he'll look like when he's older, check out his father first.\"

[MMM]

concern2:

The first thing that came to my mind when I met my FIL was:


\"Oh dear, why hadn't I checked how how he looks like earlier?\" :clubmyself:

I had forgotten the old saying, \"If you want to know how he'll look like when he's older, check out his father first.\"

Err.... I thought that applies to the woman's figure too. If you want to know what shape your wife will end up, look at her mother.

[markfch]

MMM:

concern2:

The first thing that came to my mind when I met my FIL was:


\"Oh dear, why hadn't I checked how how he looks like earlier?\" :clubmyself:

I had forgotten the old saying, \"If you want to know how he'll look like when he's older, check out his father first.\"

Err.... I thought that applies to the woman's figure too. If you want to know what shape your wife will end up, look at her mother.

And may I add. If you want to know how your dh looks like when he's balding, look at fil :lol:

[duriz]

markfch:

MMM:

[quote=\"concern2\"]The first thing that came to my mind when I met my FIL was:


\"Oh dear, why hadn't I checked how how he looks like earlier?\" :clubmyself:

I had forgotten the old saying, \"If you want to know how he'll look like when he's older, check out his father first.\"

Err.... I thought that applies to the woman's figure too. If you want to know what shape your wife will end up, look at her mother.

And may I add. If you want to know how your dh looks like when he's balding, look at fil :lol:[/quote]Actually some men inherit the balding gene from their mothers :roll:

[MMM]

markfch:

And may I add. If you want to know how your dh looks like when he's balding, look at fil :lol:

Heng ah..., at 76, my fil still has his head full of hair.

I hope he don't inherit his father's super careful and super naggy genes. Otherwise we willl :?:

[Funz]

markfch:

MMM:

[quote=\"concern2\"]The first thing that came to my mind when I met my FIL was:


\"Oh dear, why hadn't I checked how how he looks like earlier?\" :clubmyself:

I had forgotten the old saying, \"If you want to know how he'll look like when he's older, check out his father first.\"

Err.... I thought that applies to the woman's figure too. If you want to know what shape your wife will end up, look at her mother.

And may I add. If you want to know how your dh looks like when he's balding, look at fil :lol:[/quote]My FIL still has a full head of hair whereas DH is already bald. But boy am I glad DH does not look like his father.

I will be totally gross out if DH were to check out my mum's figure. My mum was one hot babe in her haydays. Boobsy and leggy with a tiny waist. Now she is an expanded version, still boobsy, still leggy, in proportion to the rest of her body, her waist is still tiny. Me I am nowhere near boobsy or leggy so definitely will not end up looking like my mum.

[duriz]

Funz:

I will be totally gross out if DH were to check out my mum's figure. My mum was one hot babe in her haydays. Boobsy and leggy with a tiny waist. Now she is an expanded version, still boobsy, still leggy, in proportion to the rest of her body, her waist is still tiny. Me I am nowhere near boobsy or leggy so definitely will not end up looking like my mum.

That's a great post, cracked me up, thanks for the smile, Funz