Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?

[sleepy]

verykiasu2010:

well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

I will stay away from type 4, 5 & 6, very stressful talking to them I suppose

[Brenda10]

verykiasu2010:

well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

New 百科全书

[MMM]

cantbearit2:

jtoh:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

That is really scary!!!! :scared:

Luckily I have not met such parents. So far, all the parents are quite supportive and gave me geniune advice. They are also not shy to admit their reasons for choosing one sch over another. eg. academic results

This person do it too obvious... So LAME. :spank: Steer clear of her and don't talk to her too much.

[snowz]

Brenda10:

verykiasu2010:

well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

New 百科全书

kiasuparents 百科全书 :lol:.

[Brenda10]

snowz:

Brenda10:

[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

New 百科全书

kiasuparents 百科全书 :lol:.[/quote]Yes. You're right and this is the new generation of .降龙十八掌 but yet to find another 9 掌 :celebrate:

[kiddo]

jtoh:

powerpuffmum:

I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.

At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

Wah this type of people also have ahhhh....... :? need to :spank: :spank: :spank:

totally agree Imparting values is more important than marks :celebrate:

[Picolo]

kiddo:

jtoh:

[quote=\"powerpuffmum\"]I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.

At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

Wah this type of people also have ahhhh....... :? need to :spank: :spank: :spank:

totally agree Imparting values is more important than marks :celebrate:[/quote]Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.

This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.

Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:

[vicki]

Picolo:

Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.

This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.

Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:

U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"

Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again.

[Picolo]

vicki:

Picolo:

Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.

This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.

Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:

U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"

Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again.

Have not met her recently, so cannot 'embarrass' her yet. Furthermore, she said that to me last year, so she can feign ignorance ' got meh? did i say that?' in return. She also bad-mouthed about the top kid and the parents, so you know, she must have a lot of 'hatred' for those who win her kiddo... cannot share too much info here, else she track me down and hantem me... :!:

[jtoh]

Picolo:

vicki:

[quote=\"Picolo\"]
Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.

This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.

Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:

U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"

Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again.

Have not met her recently, so cannot 'embarrass' her yet. Furthermore, she said that to me last year, so she can feign ignorance ' got meh? did i say that?' in return. She also bad-mouthed about the top kid and the parents, so you know, she must have a lot of 'hatred' for those who win her kiddo... cannot share too much info here, else she track me down and hantem me... :!:[/quote]Yes, people like that will deny everything if called out on it. Can you imagine the pressure their poor children are under? Parents like that will not accept second best from their children. Unfortunately I've seen a lot of stressed out kids crying their hearts out after receiving their results saying their parents will cane them because they're not #1. Sad, but true.