How old were you when you had your first child?

[Gecko]

I speak for my wife here....


1st pregnancy when my wife was 30 ended in a miscarriage

My 1stDD was born when my wife was 32

DS when my wife was 34; and

2nd DD @ 39 ...about 2 months ago!

I suppose that pregnancies for older women are bound to have some difficulties.

My wife was warded from week 31-35 for some bleeding. There went my tax rebate for next year

Thankfully, 2DD came at 37.5 wks (normal pregnancy) and considering what the DW went through, healthy. Praise the lord.

Many friends ask if thats it. I always say that because we are catholics, no contraception. And with NFP, anything can happen!!

I guess thats why I signed up for the marathon at the end of the year!

Gecko

[jansonirene]

I have 3 kids, 6 years old, 4 years old and 18 mths old.


Had my 3rd child even with IUD - which is supposedly 99.9% effective. Amazing isn’t it?

[myWQ]

I had my first kid at 30. My mum had her first at 25.


I think the relationship between a parent and her kid depends on many factors and the effort the parent puts in in raising her child. A ‘closer’ generation gap does not mean anything, in my humble opinion.

[janet88]

Times have changed…many women now are going for career even when married and then have kids.


I had my first child at 28 right after getting married the year b4…didn’t want to ‘test’ my biological clock and regret later.
Had my 2nd one at 32 and CLOSED FACTORY bcos we couldn’t afford any more energy and time for more kids.

First one born with cleft lip/palate and the number of times going to see this and that doctor made us (ESPECIALLY me) scared of having another one. So when I had #2, gender did not matter to me at all. During the detailed scan at 5 months, the sonographer did a very detailed scanning and even called in her supervisor for confirmation. Even though scan was perfect, I still worried another 4 months until her birth.

[duriz]

janet_lee88:

Times have changed...many women now are going for career even when married and then have kids.


I had my first child at 28 right after getting married the year b4...didn't want to 'test' my biological clock and regret later.
Had my 2nd one at 32 and CLOSED FACTORY bcos we couldn't afford any more energy and time for more kids.

First one born with cleft lip/palate and the number of times going to see this and that doctor made us (ESPECIALLY me) scared of having another one. So when I had #2, gender did not matter to me at all. During the detailed scan at 5 months, the sonographer did a very detailed scanning and even called in her supervisor for confirmation. Even though scan was perfect, I still worried another 4 months until her birth.

Kudos to you janet_lee88, for being a strong and loving Mom :celebrate:

[janet88]

duriz:

janet_lee88:

Times have changed...many women now are going for career even when married and then have kids.


I had my first child at 28 right after getting married the year b4...didn't want to 'test' my biological clock and regret later.
Had my 2nd one at 32 and CLOSED FACTORY bcos we couldn't afford any more energy and time for more kids.

First one born with cleft lip/palate and the number of times going to see this and that doctor made us (ESPECIALLY me) scared of having another one. So when I had #2, gender did not matter to me at all. During the detailed scan at 5 months, the sonographer did a very detailed scanning and even called in her supervisor for confirmation. Even though scan was perfect, I still worried another 4 months until her birth.

Kudos to you janet_lee88, for being a strong and loving Mom :celebrate:

I guess all mothers here will do the same

[kwokwc]

I had my 1st baby at 25yr, 2nd at 27yrs and 3rd at 33yrs, then closed factory. to say the truth, having babies at younger age is much easier. When I looked after my 2 kids before 30yr, I don't feel so tired. Now with my 3rd one, I am tired quite often.


Even during pregnancies, feel different too. For the 1st 2, don't really have much problem as compared to the 3rd one. For me, if I would to recommend, I would still get my sisters to give birth before 30yrs. For my 3rd one, if not for 'accident', I will just have 2 kids. imagine when my 1st kid is 20yrs, I am just 45yr, hmm, almost time to enjoy already.

However, I must say, having kids at an early age, can't give much to the kids, as finance is still not very good. So have to see what you want in life.

[mrswongtuition]

kwokwc:

I had my 1st baby at 25yr, 2nd at 27yrs and 3rd at 33yrs, then closed factory. to say the truth, having babies at younger age is much easier. When I looked after my 2 kids before 30yr, I don't feel so tired. Now with my 3rd one, I am tired quite often.


Even during pregnancies, feel different too. For the 1st 2, don't really have much problem as compared to the 3rd one. For me, if I would to recommend, I would still get my sisters to give birth before 30yrs. For my 3rd one, if not for 'accident', I will just have 2 kids. imagine when my 1st kid is 20yrs, I am just 45yr, hmm, almost time to enjoy already.

However, I must say, having kids at an early age, can't give much to the kids, as finance is still not very good. So have to see what you want in life.

I encourage all my friends to have kids YOUNG. Money will come in when you need it, serious. With kids, the motivation much higher. I work hard not only for myself but for my family.

I have friends who don't think that they want to have kids young, but after seeing how I'm 'surviving' with my boy & earning more than them, they realised that having a kid does not hinder them if they know how to manage.

Sometimes they need to see and understand how DOABLE it is before they realise that they can do it too!

[kwokwc]

mrswongtuition:

I encourage all my friends to have kids YOUNG. Money will come in when you need it, serious. With kids, the motivation much higher. I work hard not only for myself but for my family.
I have friends who don't think that they want to have kids young, but after seeing how I'm 'surviving' with my boy & earning more than them, they realised that having a kid does not hinder them if they know how to manage.

Sometimes they need to see and understand how DOABLE it is before they realise that they can do it too!

Yes, agree, with kids. the motivation is much higher. And truely, I work hard not only for myself but also for my family.

[Blue Pearl]

agree too but nowadays young people prefer to wait very long.