In-law problems?

[RRMummy]

duriz:

Then I smsed him:\"To avoid tension between you and I in future, please do not let your mother make any decisions when it comes to our dotter.\" :x

Alamak.. now I know where those MIL jokes were coming from..

I trust your DH heard you loud and clear.. So will it be 50 / 100 guests?

Share with you something that makes our blood boil...My sis has a very MCP husband and horrible MIL. She was not given a chance to decide her daughter's name!! :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: That MCP BIL of mine went to have it from the fengshui master, discussed it with her MIL and she only got a call from him to say okay chose and make birth cert already!! :x :x :x

Needless to say my poor sis cried her heart out behind closed doors.. worst thing is she is very far away from us all..

[RRMummy]

janet_lee88:

Hi Duriz,

I think you have every right to decide, since you are mummy.
This reminds me of the time when my son was born. Told me she didn't like the name SIL gave to her daughter. I asked her if she was the one who named her 4 kids...and she said YES. So I asked her, 'why can't the mother name her own kid ?'

:salute:

[Funz]

Names and ILs.


I insisted that DH go get a Master to 'devine' DD's name cos I dun want some funny sounding name to come from my ILs. After paying all that money, the 1st thing that stupid brainless DH of mine collected the list of possible names and headed straight to his parents to show them the list. So needless to say, this cannot that cannot, and by the time he came back and showed me what was left, I hit the roof. I actually shocked myself cos I was screaming and crying and slamming doors. Those hormones are scary. Anyways, after all their elimination, the the name they decided was nice in canto, Yu Yan, 如茵 in Chinese characters (I think) which to me is also pretty, but in hanyupinyin, it is ru yin which sounded like RUIN. :faint:

I think my dramatic expression shocked DH as well and after I pointed out that I dun want my DD to be RUIN, he decided to ignore all his parents' imputs and we went through the list ourselves and decided on DD's name. After that, when it came to DS's time, he clever oredi, went a step further, did not even peek at the list until he came home. HAHA.

Actually it wasn't so much the name that was shortlisted, it was that DH went to ILs first instead of me. That was the sore point.

Sometimes the issues with ILs is not the problems with the ILs themselves but how our other half handle the whole situation.

[janet88]

Hi RRMummy,

Your poor sis is really poor thing…horrible MIL not enough, still have a MCP hubby. To think that women of today are still suffering.
Hubby’s grandfather is from a typical generation of having ‘pre-set’ names for each generation. I must thank my SIL who doesn’t believe in this. As such, I get to choose son’s name.

At youngest BIL’s wedding years ago, hubby’s elderly uncles and empress dowager grand-aunt was lamenting on my son’s name and no one following the tradition :x What tradition ? Isn’t my son continuing with the surname ?

[RRMummy]

duriz:

From now on, I will practise tough love (with restraint on harsh words) in our home. I have decided that I'm DD's mom and my word is king (although I will discuss with DH, I will make the final decision). And if anyone doesn't like it, they can jolly well STFU.

:ugogirl:

[RRMummy]

duriz:

Imagine this, she lived in a \"banana-plantation\" (FIL, BIL and DH) for 30 years.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[auntieM]

RRMummy:

duriz:

From now on, I will practise tough love (with restraint on harsh words) in our home. I have decided that I'm DD's mom and my word is king (although I will discuss with DH, I will make the final decision). And if anyone doesn't like it, they can jolly well STFU.

:ugogirl:

Happy for you too duriz!
jia you! :celebrate:

[RRMummy]

janet_lee88:

Hi RRMummy,

Your poor sis is really poor thing...horrible MIL not enough, still have a MCP hubby. To think that women of today are still suffering.
Hubby's grandfather is from a typical generation of having 'pre-set' names for each generation. I must thank my SIL who doesn't believe in this. As such, I get to choose son's name.

At youngest BIL's wedding years ago, hubby's elderly uncles and empress dowager grand-aunt was lamenting on my son's name and no one following the tradition :x What tradition ? Isn't my son continuing with the surname ?

Yalor.. my poor sissy.. and to think that is something that will stick for the rest of her life and bears a constant reminder that she has no say..

women take in all this nastiness it in the name of love and peace for the family but really the suffering is only worth it if the hubs appreciates it.. in her case..not..

Thankfully my Darling Dad is a very reasonable and wise man. :love: He told my bro to forgo the traditional middle name coz really obiang and difficult to come up with a nice name.. :love:

[hapydino]

Funz:

Names and ILs.


I insisted that DH go get a Master to 'devine' DD's name cos I dun want some funny sounding name to come from my ILs. After paying all that money, the 1st thing that stupid brainless DH of mine collected the list of possible names and headed straight to his parents to show them the list. So needless to say, this cannot that cannot, and by the time he came back and showed me what was left, I hit the roof. I actually shocked myself cos I was screaming and crying and slamming doors. Those hormones are scary. Anyways, after all their elimination, the the name they decided was nice in canto, Yu Yan, 如茵 in Chinese characters (I think) which to me is also pretty, but in hanyupinyin, it is ru yin which sounded like RUIN. :faint:

I think my dramatic expression shocked DH as well and after I pointed out that I dun want my DD to be RUIN, he decided to ignore all his parents' imputs and we went through the list ourselves and decided on DD's name. After that, when it came to DS's time, he clever oredi, went a step further, did not even peek at the list until he came home. HAHA.

Actually it wasn't so much the name that was shortlisted, it was that DH went to ILs first instead of me. That was the sore point.

Sometimes the issues with ILs is not the problems with the ILs themselves but how our other half handle the whole situation.

Funz

my MIL wanted a name that sounds Bright and Shiny which is GOOD is her opinion..

she suggested 亮晶 or did she mean 亮金??

me, DH, DH's sister all go HUH???

[RRMummy]

An ex-colleague of mine used to tell us youngsters long ago, "When you choose your husband/wife, make sure that they are either orphans or their mom has already passed away!!"


Sounds nasty eh…but at that time, he was happily married for 40 over years to his childhood sweetheart… and they were so very loving… so go figure…