In-law problems?

[mrswongtuition]

I have ILs but I don’t have ILs.

So reading all the nonsense they give makes me appreciate hubs even more.

I don’t hate mine. I just don’t enjoy being around them.
And I would prefer to leave it as things are:
They only know my boy’s name and I don’t have to see them at all.
In fact, after getting married 4 years ago, I only saw them twice.
Once at my hub’s sis’ wedding, once at his granny’s funeral.
They don’t call, we don’t call.
Our family events/holidays/parties don’t involve them.

As my hubs say, "You can choose your wife but you can’t choose your parents. So I chose you, I must stick by you. They wanna be funny with you, I will make them disappear."
And ‘disappear’ they did.

The only time we talked about them during our marriage is just before his sis’ wedding. I asked my hubs what should I be calling them when I see them. That’s it. We never talk about them ever since.


Mummies who are having probs with ILs, my maternal granny used to tell me "one ear in, the other ear out - it’s like cleaning your ears". That’s how my mum survived living with my disciplinarian paternal grandma. In fact, my mum is the only one who can cook my grandma’s ‘famous dish’. Even my aunt doesn’t get it right.

[hapydino]

Buds,


can feel from your post u really had gone thru more than u can bear… seldom see u post negative stuff… and yes, i hope u will get wat u wan… jiayou!!

[buds]

hapydino:

Buds, can feel from your post u really had gone thru more than u can bear.. seldom see u post negative stuff.. and yes, i hope u will get wat u wan.. jiayou!!

Guess it's the hormones talking ba.. :lol: A bit sappy hor. Niwaes, thanks
for providing your emotional support. You guys are my strength now... I
am actually visualizing all of us here holding our hands together in one
big circle now. :lol: Yes, I pray i WILL get what i want. Heck. I waited so
long for it... patiently too may i add. Yup, i am in actual fact and in
real life very kai lang... a very happy and cheerful person. I seldom post
negative stuff cos i try to be as positive in my posts as i am in real life.

[buds]

LKVM:

Buds almost the tears started rolling after reading ur post (I have been sitting in the open office so need to quickly grab the napkin).. I will surely pray for ur happiness

:snuggles: Thank you LKVM.. :snuggles: Sorry to have made you cry.
I heaved one giant sigh after i posted that last long post. I felt better
already now that's out..... this is one place i know i can pour my heart
out.

[buds]

:love:


:snuggles:

[RRMummy]

buds:

Enuf of me being an un-dutiful wife who bulllies :whut: her husband and wears
the pants in the house and me again the un-respectful daughter in law... who can
never seem to listen to her... :whut: ... the fat whale who cannot please her son
aesthetically and sexually .... the incapable mother who doesn't know better
when it comes to raising my own children :whut:.... the ill-bred child who wasn't
raised properly by my parents...
..
I truly pray that hubs will do us right... for once.

God, wherever you are..... please ...... carry me with you if you think i deserve to...
if you find i have done it right by you...
*Tks RRMummy 4 reposting that piece... it provides me comfort and solace... i sure needed that...*.

Gosh dear... i so wanna give you a very big hug right now... :snuggles: i'm tearing as I write.. all the insults that you have had to put up with..and you could still have stayed with them for 10 whole years!! My heart aches for you dear..

It's great news that baby is now stable. Dear GOD, as you gave buds and family a new hope, a new baby and a new home to make it all well again.. please carry her through this tall and strong

Buds, if your DH is sensitive towards lyrics, let him listen to \"The Winner Takes it All\". Althou it's abt the losing her husband coz of adultery, I still find the words aptly describes the hurt of a 'betrayal'...

I don’t wanna talk
About the things we’ve gone through
Though it’s hurting me
Now it’s history
I’ve played all my cards
And that’s what you’ve done too
Nothing more to say
No more ace to play

The winner takes it all
The loser standing small
Beside the victory
That’s her destiny

I was in your arms
Thinking I belonged there
I figured it made sense
Building me a fence
Building me a home
Thinking I’d be strong there
But I was a fool
Playing by the rules

The gods may throw a dice
Their minds as cold as ice
And someone way down here
Loses someone dear
The winner takes it all
The loser has to fall
It’s simple and it’s plain
Why should I complain.

But tell me does she kiss
Like I used to kiss you?
Does it feel the same
When she calls your name?
Somewhere deep inside
You must know I miss you
But what can I say
Rules must be obeyed

The judges will decide
The likes of me abide
Spectators of the show
Always staying low
The game is on again
A lover or a friend
A big thing or a small
The winner takes it all

I don’t wanna talk
If it makes you feel sad
And I understand
You’ve come to shake my hand
I apologize
If it makes you feel bad
Seeing me so tense
No self-confidence
But you see
The winner takes it all
The winner takes it all......


:grphug:

[buds]

I'm the one sensitive babe.. not him. :lol:

While that worked on me aptly, it won't work on him.

[RRMummy]

haiz... wonder what can knock some senses into him... :idea:

[buds]

Dunno if this might work.. :clubmyself:


:rotflmao:

[RRMummy]

buds:

Dunno if this might work.. :clubmyself:


:rotflmao:

okay, tell me where and when he can be whacked, i wanna go 'clubbing'... :rubhands: