In-law problems?

[janet88]

duriz:

markfch:

Yalor yalor, this is the 2nd time I kena from duriz today

Well, you know us girls.
Pissed off all the time.
It's our birth right

Hey markfch,
You are in the wrong place. I strongly advise you to avoid this thread or else be V V V diplomatic and avoid offending any woman here. To quote, 'e) verykiasu2010's suaning talent' :cheeky:

[janet88]

LKVM,

Since markfch has been hanging around here so often, he should admire the traits of some of the forumers here QUIETLY. Women, when pissed off, need an avenue to :spank: :rant: , so be quiet.

[Mrs Ang]

janet_lee88:

Hi Mrs Ang,
Husband's parents do not remember my kids' birthdays...never have I seen a red packet for my kids, so I also conveniently forget lah.

I like this! :ugogirl:

[buds]

Mrs Ang:

buds, I can understand how you feel and admire how u can tolerate this for 10 years. I that your ILs will not stay with you. All the best and no matter what happen please be strong.

Thank you Mrs Ang. :snuggles: I pray for the same too. Not that i'm
trying to be a worse daughter in law... if i agree to take them in, i'm
gonna re-live the next 10yrs just like the last which means sacrificing
my happiness all over again despite living in my own place. If i don't
agree, i'd be seen as the horrible daughter in law, which i already am
in the first place. So, it's like damned if i do and damned if i don't.

It would not have been so bad had hubs only observed beyond what
he sees... listened with his heart... believed me for who i represent &
not some evil daughter in law who was out to malign his parents all
the time. To believe me for what i was worth... for what our marriage
was worth... Guess i wasn't worth that much.

It has been a trying and sad journey for me. While i'm reali hoping to
finally see the light at the end of my seemingly long tunnel, i am
scared at the same time at the possibility the unknown will bring.

[buds]

tree nymph:

Can your hubs and your BIL contribute some money for your PIL to buy a flat for them to stay on their own? very jialat if this is the case, reverting back to the original status!!!!!!!!!

We cannot afford to buy them one for all the time we've been financing
their stay with us on top of the other financial issues they bring in as
well. It has been a burden reali. BIL arh? He hardly visits, SIL lagi
absent most times. So wat $? He never contributes even when his folks
have been with us all this while, but we don't blame him cos they've had
$ issues with BIL as well... we can understand. Yup, if this really becomes
an official case, it WILL be reverting back to the original status.

But hubs promised this will be OUR home... oh well, we'll see how won't
we? :scared:

[buds]

LKVM:

If they tag along with u wats the use of u having new home :?

Yes LKVM... no use. It's wasted effort trying so hard to get out of the rut
and all that packing... all that house hunting.. all those promises that
kept me hoping for the last 10yrs...

Actually i am wondering, if i am such a lousy DIL why still wanna live with
me, right? :siao: Aah... :idea: ... cos hubs believes them wholeheartedly
and they think i'm easy to makan that way since the son is ALWAYS on
their side.

[buds]

hquek:

hi buds,


Good luck. I hope you all can find a solution that works and that does not involve you having to stay with them.

I hope so too, hquek. Thank you for your strength. :snuggles:

hquek:

You have gone through 10 very trying years. It's time to take a break.

Yah.. cos kit-kat didn't work.

hquek:

Just kp, can they not apply for those elders studio flats? If they are able, they should stay on their own first. Whatever it is, a break will be good for all around.

They've exhausted all options and not having any retirement plans or
nest, since all this time they've been solely dependent on hubs. Choices
are to rent a space or go stay with BIL for a change. Yes, a break would
be nice.

[buds]

mummy of 2:

Dear buds


Hope all will end well, and that your suffering will come to an end soon. 10 years is a long time, and it's not easy to even get to this stage. Hope your DH will understand and appreciate your scarifices, and DO something about it.

Yes, suffering IS definitely the word. They're hard to see through so
hubs can never understand what i have had to go through. It definitely
wasn't easy to get to this stage... as for hubs appreciating the sacrifices
i honestly don't know. Saying but not believing and showing is really no
use. Actions speak louder than words...

[buds]

duriz:

I'm praying for you Mummy buds :hugs:

Tks, i need all the prayers and good luck charms i can get right now.. :hugs:

[buds]

auntieM:

My goodness! I can imagine loads must be going thru your mind now.. ..

Yes, really a lotta stuff. But trying to keep it cool cos i do not want to
jump to conclusions and make hubs angry. I'm just really tensed cos
time is running out for them. They need a plc to stay asap.

auntieM:

It will really be taxing for you with a new baby and new home.. I too agree that your ILs should look for a place and stay on their own.. Do sit down with your hubby and have a good chat..how can he go back on his words so soon.. Please take good care buds
:hugs:

Unfortunately, they have zero consideration for others auntieM. And they
have given me so many empty promises they never ever kept. It's
beyond sitting down and discussing stage liao, it's already crunch time.
Hubs technically \"has not gone back on his words\" for they're not with
us right now. It's just that there hasn't been an affirmative confirmation
on their living arrangements and it's driving me insane, though i try not
to show it. I will try to take good care of myself, auntieM. Thanks for your
concern and kind thoughts. :hugs: