how to improve wife and my parents relationship
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qms:
There must be an underlying reason why her behavior is so.Actually, seems to me that thread starter's wife wasn't that polite to his parents before they married.
Could thread starter have married the wife, thinking that she would change? :scratchhead:
As the saying goes, you don't marry a woman hoping that the woman will change.....
You need to sound your wife out, w_y_chung.
And IMHO, this is no grounds to consider divorce. -
I feel that there could be a reason behind this hostility. Could there be some argument or unhappiness between your wife and parents that you don’t know of ?
My hubby doesn’t and will never see the true colours of his mother. Because she is an angel in front of him. When I am in the kitchen with his mother, her horns appear when he is not around but the moment he walks into the kitchen, she is very demure. :x
I’m sure there were good times after marriage that both of you share. Honestly, my hubby and I enjoy each other’s company and we communicate (anything OTHER than his parents)…his mother caused us unhappiness when we were newly married and even now.
Find out why your wife is unhappy. -
Really should sit down with your wife and talk things over… …
Don’t mean to be rude but I think your ‘story’ is rather incomplete… -
Sheesh ladies,
aren’t you all being a little one-sided here? It doesn’t much for all of you to pile in with sympathy when one of your ilk cries ‘in-laws!’ in the other thread, but when you have a bloke here who cites a misbehaving wife, suddenly its all back on the bloke’s parents!
w y chung,
yep you got to understand what’s eating your wife. But if it hurts you and your parents, at the very least she as your spouse needs to recognise that. Unless there had been a major falling out, your parents are deserving of respectful behaviour from your wife. Ask her, how would she feel if her future children-in-law basically cold-shouldered her?
Don’t reconsider this marriage on account of this, but nonetheless, don’t allow her to use that posture to bully and intimidate you, and stop you from confronting the issue. -
3Boys:
I don't think anyone of us maligned his parents, him nor his wife :?Sheesh ladies,
aren't you all being a little one-sided here? It doesn't much for all of you to pile in with sympathy when one of your ilk cries 'in-laws!' in the other thread, but when you have a bloke here who cites a misbehaving wife, suddenly its all back on the bloke's parents! -
I do not blame w_y_chung for being upset and considering a divorce.
Quite frankly, parents continue to be very important part after marriage. I will not tolerate any insults / negative comments to my family members from my spouse.
But I do think we need to find out the reason from his wife’s cold response to his parents before we can offer any advise. -
duriz:
Tongue in cheek, my dear....
I don't think anyone of us maligned his parents, him nor his wife :?3Boys:
Sheesh ladies,
aren't you all being a little one-sided here? It doesn't much for all of you to pile in with sympathy when one of your ilk cries 'in-laws!' in the other thread, but when you have a bloke here who cites a misbehaving wife, suddenly its all back on the bloke's parents!
....but if you check the in-laws thread, I don't think many folk had to justify that their ILs were ogres, unlike our dear friend chung here who is being interrogated about whether HIS parents had somehow transgressed on his poor darling DW. -
3Boys:
Orrrr.....Tongue in cheek, my dear....
....but if you check the in-laws thread, I don't think many folk had to justify that their ILs were ogres, unlike our dear friend chung here who is being interrogated about whether HIS parents had somehow transgressed on his poor darling DW.
No lah.
My MIL is not an ogre.
She's a great Mom to DH and BIL.
A good wife to FIL.
And a great cook.
It's just she covets and mollycoddles DD too much.
But I do empathise with those who have very serious and upsetting IL problems.
People are people, it's tough call to say who's right or wrong.
But we can listen and share. -
I only have 1 comment.
As potential MIL one day, I hope that we don't lose our son the moment he is married.
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duriz:
Completely agree......and if I may add, not pass judgement too quickly too.
But I do empathise with those who have very serious and upsetting IL problems.
People are people, it's tough call to say who's right or wrong.
But we can listen and share.
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