how to improve wife and my parents relationship

[jedamum]

i would like to say…leave your parents out of your decision on whether to stay married with your other half. what’s life like without the ‘parents-rejection-issues’ that is as highlighted in your posts? if your grouse is for your other half’s unwillingness to compromise on important issues without understandable reasons, you both’s constant bickering over petty stuff, breakdown in communications etc, etc, try to examine what went wrong and work it through. And think about all the good times you both had had before pulling the plug.

good luck.

[dolphinsiah]

Good moring Chung,


After reading what you have written....I can imagine what you are going through.... :stupid:
especially now you have a child...
But it seems that your story is not complete...leh...
why does your spouse behave like that towards your parents...
Was there any misunderstanding between them... :?
Or you did something very wrong...like have an affair....
and now she is holding everything against you....

So what is the other side of the story....just KPO a bit :roll:

[carebear]

Parents should not be the reason why one should part in a marriage. I grew up in an environment where there was hostility between my mother and her in-laws and it was one of the major reasons for arguments between my parents. So when i got married, i made sure that this would not be a cause of argument between me and my spouse.

Yes, you should discuss with your wife regarding her unhappiness and cold shoulder to your parents. My husband does not have the habit to greet my parents when they come to my place. I was unhappy initailly and mentioned to him before. I have also discussed it with my parents, and we concluded that my hubby is a man of few words, as he is also the same towards his parents. So now no one is offended.

[qms]

Actually, seems to me that thread starter's wife wasn't that polite to his parents before they married.


Could thread starter have married the wife, thinking that she would change? :scratchhead:

As the saying goes, you don't marry a woman hoping that the woman will change.....

[duriz]

qms:

Actually, seems to me that thread starter's wife wasn't that polite to his parents before they married.


Could thread starter have married the wife, thinking that she would change? :scratchhead:

As the saying goes, you don't marry a woman hoping that the woman will change.....

There must be an underlying reason why her behavior is so.
You need to sound your wife out, w_y_chung.
And IMHO, this is no grounds to consider divorce.

[janet88]

I feel that there could be a reason behind this hostility. Could there be some argument or unhappiness between your wife and parents that you don’t know of ?


My hubby doesn’t and will never see the true colours of his mother. Because she is an angel in front of him. When I am in the kitchen with his mother, her horns appear when he is not around but the moment he walks into the kitchen, she is very demure. :x

I’m sure there were good times after marriage that both of you share. Honestly, my hubby and I enjoy each other’s company and we communicate (anything OTHER than his parents)…his mother caused us unhappiness when we were newly married and even now.
Find out why your wife is unhappy.

[auntieM]

Really should sit down with your wife and talk things over… …

Don’t mean to be rude but I think your ‘story’ is rather incomplete…

[3Boys]

Sheesh ladies,

aren’t you all being a little one-sided here? It doesn’t much for all of you to pile in with sympathy when one of your ilk cries ‘in-laws!’ in the other thread, but when you have a bloke here who cites a misbehaving wife, suddenly its all back on the bloke’s parents!

w y chung,
yep you got to understand what’s eating your wife. But if it hurts you and your parents, at the very least she as your spouse needs to recognise that. Unless there had been a major falling out, your parents are deserving of respectful behaviour from your wife. Ask her, how would she feel if her future children-in-law basically cold-shouldered her?

Don’t reconsider this marriage on account of this, but nonetheless, don’t allow her to use that posture to bully and intimidate you, and stop you from confronting the issue.

[duriz]

3Boys:

Sheesh ladies,

aren't you all being a little one-sided here? It doesn't much for all of you to pile in with sympathy when one of your ilk cries 'in-laws!' in the other thread, but when you have a bloke here who cites a misbehaving wife, suddenly its all back on the bloke's parents!

I don't think anyone of us maligned his parents, him nor his wife :?

[kaitlynangelica]

I do not blame w_y_chung for being upset and considering a divorce.


Quite frankly, parents continue to be very important part after marriage. I will not tolerate any insults / negative comments to my family members from my spouse.

But I do think we need to find out the reason from his wife’s cold response to his parents before we can offer any advise.