Club SAHM

[buds]

puzzle:

Hi need advises here.. My twins will be going P1 soon. Should i give up my job as an accountant and be a SAHM.....

If your twins are sufficiently ready for Primary 1, just continue with
your accountant's position. From experience, assuming the position
SAHM position right away especially if one has been in the workforce
for quite a number of years, it will not be easy. When children have
good basic foundation during pre-school years - P1 syllabus should
not be too much of a problem for them to adapt to.

Being the SAHM...

Seriously, the first few weeks will be absolute bliss..

Getting to wake up late or even sleep in..
Not requiring to iron business suits for work..
No need to make up..
Catch up on TV series and movies..
Catch up playing with the kiddies..
Receiving hubby at the door when he comes back from work..
Having family dinners together.. (etc)

Eventually, the following weeks will be..

Lazy to wake up..
Wearing shorts and crop tops at home..
Contented looking the way we are..
Dunno what else to watch on tele..
Tired playing with the kiddies..
Oh, darn... where did hubby go? Not back yet at this time..?
(Looking at the clock every few minutes..)
Oh.. what to cook today...?

Office work is 9-5.
\"Home\" work is 24 hrs.

Each designation has its pros and cons if we learn how to
make full positive use of it and learn to quickly adapt to
the new environment without the need for comparison..
Then, whatever it is we do, we will be happy.

puzzle:

..... or go for other alternatives ie before/after school care... Any good and reliable before/after care near Bt Panjang to recommend?

Not sure which part of Bt Panjang you're in but there's Adelfibel and
Little Professors within Bt Panjang, you can check out. Amazing Star
Montessori @ Jelapang (Greenridge Shopping Centre) also provides
BASC services the last time i checked.. ie. few years ago. Good to
check again.

puzzle:

Or maid ??

If there isn't an elder to be home to provide supervision, better not lah.
Some yours are twins.

puzzle:

Maybe i should pick up part time job ???

This can be Plan B, depending on how your twins perform after their
SA1 exams next year. If they may need extra help, working half day
gives you good time to do something for yourself and your talent, but
yet have time to chill and be there for your twins..

As of now, if their care giving is fine all this time you have been working,
it would be good to stick to your cushy job for awhile.

Just my sharings!
Cheers.

:celebrate:

[pinkixora]

Hi Puzzle,


Choosing whether to stay at home or otherwise is really a personal choice. If your financial does permit, and hubby is supportive (IMPORTANT), it will be much easier to decide.

But a SAHM is a 24/7 job… I have done it for last 8 years and still have to do it for at least next 6 years (target is till the last one finishes PSLE).
The initial period was chaotic…madness…and low self-esteem.

The greatest benefit (or privilege) is you get first hand information on - be it academic or character or social behaviours/problems that your child is experiencing, and not through a third party relating them to you.

I think I have made the right choice so far…[/quote]

[buds]

pinkixora:

Hi Puzzle,


Choosing whether to stay at home or otherwise is really a personal choice. If your financial does permit, and hubby is supportive (IMPORTANT), it will be much easier to decide.

But a SAHM is a 24/7 job... I have done it for last 8 years and still have to do it for at least next 6 years (target is till the last one finishes PSLE).
The initial period was chaotic...madness...and low self-esteem.

The greatest benefit (or privilege) is you get first hand information on - be it academic or character or social behaviours/problems that your child is experiencing, and not through a third party relating them to you.

I think I have made the right choice so far.....

Me ditto that pinkixora!
Cheers!

:celebrate:

[jedamum]

pinkixora:

I have done it for last 8 years and still have to do it for at least next 6 years (target is till the last one finishes PSLE).

The initial period was chaotic...madness...and low self-esteem.

being a sahm for 14 years...will be really difficult to go back to work.
i was tempted to go back to work when i see stat boards recruiting. i told my husband that since i'm using my poly cert to apply, the workload/responsibilities shouldn't be as hectic as a degree holder as mostly poly grad will be doing assisting work (ie no need to run jobs etc). then my husband said if the salary is worth the time away from the kids :roll: .
men....on one hand asked if the added work responsibilities that comes with being in a higher post will result in more OT and on the other hand said that the lower responsibilities translate to lower pay and not worth to take up the time :roll:

[buds]

jedamum:

..... then my husband said if the salary is worth the time away from the kids :roll: men....

Humph. MEN..
And their mind games.

I'd prefer they play paper dolls, when it comes to this. :lol:

[RRMummy]

jedamum:

men....on one hand asked if the added work responsibilities that comes with being in a higher post will result in more OT and on the other hand said that the lower responsibilities translate to lower pay and not worth to take up the time :roll:

see the trap there?

buds:

Humph. MEN..
And their mind games.

I'd prefer they play paper dolls, when it comes to this. :lol:

:rotflmao: I expect to see more :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: anytime soon... :lol:

[ChiefKiasu]

RRMummy:

...

buds:

Humph. MEN..

And their mind games.

I'd prefer they play paper dolls, when it comes to this. :lol:

:rotflmao: I expect to see more :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: anytime soon... :lol:

Cannot... bang too much liao. My mommy told me long time ago that too much banging of head on walls will really make me stupid.

[Twins]

flim:

hi puzzle,


i would keep my job if i were you... the children will spend most of their days in school anyway. it all depends on what your concerns are. in my opinion, ideally the children can stay at their grandparents' before/after school, and you can see them when you come back from work, so no need for maid.

i'm a SAHM and i'm hoping that i can go to work once my daughter enters primary school. i'm concerned that i would have a lot of free time (besides doing housework) while she's in school. working will give me an opportunity to utilize my talents (altho i'm not sure what they are... but i'm pretty sure i have one!) and give my daughter a chance to be more independent. at least that's what i hope.

having been a SAHM for 4 years, i have to admit things can get very boring...

Hi Flim and every other SAHM who may have some spare time on their hands,

It doesn't have to get boring at all! Have you ever considered volunteering? There are many children-related non-profit organisations in Singapore who would welcome an extra pair of hands / brains!
I've taken a year off work and been a SAHM for 4 months and loving it, and even with my 3 boys, I find time in between to volunteer at World Vision (http://www.wvi.org). Their focus is on the under-privileged children around the world and dedicate efforts to raise awareness on poverty, famine, HIV etc. I'm now helping them with their 24-hr famine camp that will take place this June. Depending on what your interests and skill set are, you can contribute as you deem fit - just meet and chat with the staff there.

It's entirely voluntary and you can choose to work at home or go into their office (of course depending on what needs to get done). You can offer time once a week or more - all flexible. Bottomline, they very much appreciate your effort and hence, the flexibility. Exmaples of other children related causes are Make-A-Wish Foundation, Children's Society etc.

Have a thot about it. It's very self-fulfilling for me personally, and a great example you're setting for your children!

[RRMummy]

Twins:

I've taken a year off work and been a SAHM for 4 months and loving it, and even with my 3 boys, I find time in between to volunteer at World Vision (http://www.wvi.org)... It's very self-fulfilling for me personally, and a great example you're setting for your children!

:ugogirl:

[RRMummy]

ChiefKiasu:

Cannot... bang too much liao. My mommy told me long time ago that too much banging of head on walls will really make me stupid.

haiz.. guess I need to throw my 'weeja' board also.. not accurate wan...