Club SAHM
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Hi Puzzle,
Choosing whether to stay at home or otherwise is really a personal choice. If your financial does permit, and hubby is supportive (IMPORTANT), it will be much easier to decide.
But a SAHM is a 24/7 job… I have done it for last 8 years and still have to do it for at least next 6 years (target is till the last one finishes PSLE).
The initial period was chaotic…madness…and low self-esteem.
The greatest benefit (or privilege) is you get first hand information on - be it academic or character or social behaviours/problems that your child is experiencing, and not through a third party relating them to you.
I think I have made the right choice so far…[/quote] -
pinkixora:
Me ditto that pinkixora!Hi Puzzle,
Choosing whether to stay at home or otherwise is really a personal choice. If your financial does permit, and hubby is supportive (IMPORTANT), it will be much easier to decide.
But a SAHM is a 24/7 job... I have done it for last 8 years and still have to do it for at least next 6 years (target is till the last one finishes PSLE).
The initial period was chaotic...madness...and low self-esteem.
The greatest benefit (or privilege) is you get first hand information on - be it academic or character or social behaviours/problems that your child is experiencing, and not through a third party relating them to you.
I think I have made the right choice so far.....
Cheers!
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pinkixora:
being a sahm for 14 years...will be really difficult to go back to work.I have done it for last 8 years and still have to do it for at least next 6 years (target is till the last one finishes PSLE).
The initial period was chaotic...madness...and low self-esteem.
i was tempted to go back to work when i see stat boards recruiting. i told my husband that since i'm using my poly cert to apply, the workload/responsibilities shouldn't be as hectic as a degree holder as mostly poly grad will be doing assisting work (ie no need to run jobs etc). then my husband said if the salary is worth the time away from the kids :roll: .
men....on one hand asked if the added work responsibilities that comes with being in a higher post will result in more OT and on the other hand said that the lower responsibilities translate to lower pay and not worth to take up the time :roll: -
jedamum:
..... then my husband said if the salary is worth the time away from the kids :roll: men....
Humph. MEN..
And their mind games.
I'd prefer they play paper dolls, when it comes to this. :lol: -
jedamum:
men....on one hand asked if the added work responsibilities that comes with being in a higher post will result in more OT and on the other hand said that the lower responsibilities translate to lower pay and not worth to take up the time :roll:
see the trap there?
buds:
:rotflmao: I expect to see more :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: anytime soon... :lol:Humph. MEN..
And their mind games.
I'd prefer they play paper dolls, when it comes to this. :lol: -
RRMummy:
Cannot... bang too much liao. My mommy told me long time ago that too much banging of head on walls will really make me stupid....
:rotflmao: I expect to see more :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: anytime soon... :lol:buds:
Humph. MEN..
And their mind games.
I'd prefer they play paper dolls, when it comes to this. :lol: -
flim:
Hi Flim and every other SAHM who may have some spare time on their hands,hi puzzle,
i would keep my job if i were you... the children will spend most of their days in school anyway. it all depends on what your concerns are. in my opinion, ideally the children can stay at their grandparents' before/after school, and you can see them when you come back from work, so no need for maid.
i'm a SAHM and i'm hoping that i can go to work once my daughter enters primary school. i'm concerned that i would have a lot of free time (besides doing housework) while she's in school. working will give me an opportunity to utilize my talents (altho i'm not sure what they are... but i'm pretty sure i have one!) and give my daughter a chance to be more independent. at least that's what i hope.
having been a SAHM for 4 years, i have to admit things can get very boring...
It doesn't have to get boring at all! Have you ever considered volunteering? There are many children-related non-profit organisations in Singapore who would welcome an extra pair of hands / brains!
I've taken a year off work and been a SAHM for 4 months and loving it, and even with my 3 boys, I find time in between to volunteer at World Vision (http://www.wvi.org). Their focus is on the under-privileged children around the world and dedicate efforts to raise awareness on poverty, famine, HIV etc. I'm now helping them with their 24-hr famine camp that will take place this June. Depending on what your interests and skill set are, you can contribute as you deem fit - just meet and chat with the staff there.
It's entirely voluntary and you can choose to work at home or go into their office (of course depending on what needs to get done). You can offer time once a week or more - all flexible. Bottomline, they very much appreciate your effort and hence, the flexibility. Exmaples of other children related causes are Make-A-Wish Foundation, Children's Society etc.
Have a thot about it. It's very self-fulfilling for me personally, and a great example you're setting for your children! -
Twins:
I've taken a year off work and been a SAHM for 4 months and loving it, and even with my 3 boys, I find time in between to volunteer at World Vision (http://www.wvi.org)... It's very self-fulfilling for me personally, and a great example you're setting for your children!
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ChiefKiasu:
Cannot... bang too much liao. My mommy told me long time ago that too much banging of head on walls will really make me stupid.
haiz.. guess I need to throw my 'weeja' board also.. not accurate wan...
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Many years ago when I had only one child, I was working fulltime, had a maid and sent my child to childcare centre. I used to lament how little time I had with my child and felt that SAHM had all the time in the world to teach their children fruitfully. I used to think that SAHM has lots of free time, (you know, like my maid who was quite “eng” when my girl was in childcare with nobody at home). In fact, many of my working friends also have that misconception. Now that I’m a SAHM, I feel that it’s even worse off than when I was working! (This sentiment was shared by quite a number of my friends who turned SAHM.) I was actually more disciplined in teaching my DD1 when I was working. You know, just concentrate on teaching and leave the cooking and cleaning, (ie. maintaining the house, which can take up quite a lot time) to maid.
Now with 2 children with diverse needs due to large age gap, there’re 101 things to do, esp without having a maid around (frankly I don’t like having maids as I value my privacy more). I was actually quite depressed and took some time to adjust to being a SAHM. Now, “home" work tends to get more physically demanding and not mentally stimulating. I dislike repetitive and boring chores, preferring to work my brains than my muscles. Am still trying to find ways to be more productive, as my children developmental needs change ever so quickly at different stages of growing up. I really need to adapt and adjust very quickly and be attuned to their very diversified and different stages of growing up, which sometimes disrupt my planned schedules and routines.
I guess to be an effective SAHM, you need to be very disciplined and has lots of energy to be on call 24 hrs a day (esp with a baby).
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