toddler staying overnight at other's place?

[janet88]

Where kids’ discipline is concerned, BOTH husband and wife must agree with one another and never fight in front of them or else the kid will know whose head he/she can climb on. This applies to maids as well.


My kids never stay overnight at my parents place all these years without hubby & I…son is very close to parents as we stayed at parents place for 3 years before moving back to own place.

[duriz]

EASON MAGPIES:

All the best to you.Sometimes I feel so tired and think perhaps I should just let them do what they want. I would then remind myself to persist because if I don't then who else is going to? So even if you feel tired, do persist and communicate with your wife.

Always good to read and learn from a Daddy's point of view. Thank you Daddy EASON MAGPIES :celebrate:

[buds]

duriz:

Always good to read and learn from a Daddy's point of view.

I share your thoughts, duriz. :hi5:

Since more challenge to get mine to open up or crack up rather... :politebleah:
good to hear from those who are so nice and willing to share a man's perspective..

Useful and insightful.

[duriz]

buds:

I share your thoughts, duriz. :hi5:

Hiya Mummy buds :hi5:

[w_y_chung]

LOLMum:

reading your comments about your mil, i couldnt help but wonder if she has a hand in the way your wife is treating your parents as stated in your other thread.

I hope not. So far I do not see much evidence on this. In fact I start to notice she is asking my DD to interact with me when I am visiting their place. Maybe she sensed I am not happen with them 'taking' my DD away from me

LOLMum:

meanwhile back to the issue of staying overnite at a relative's house which i think is a great idea. both dd and ds have had sleepovers at our relatives' house and so far both kids have slept in the same bed/room with only the female relatives. none of the male (except for a younger boy) have shared a bed with my kids.

cheers

Recently my DD refused to have bath/showers.
DW mentioned this to me and I immediately felt that something happened to DD when she was at BIL's place (stayed there a few days ago).
I didn't say anything and just ask DW what could be the cause but she cannot figure out.

A few days later when DW mentioned to MIL this problem. MIL said it could be DW of BIL put shower on full strength or water too hot/cold and therefore frightened DW, leaving behind this fear in her. Note DW of BIL has not experience looking after toddler. My DW is a guinea-pig for her!!!!! :stupid: :x

Again I did not immediately jumped on it but concurred with MIL that this could be the reason.

During weekend, DW good mood and she brought up the shower problem. I told her then I suspected this right from the start but did not bring it up to avoid her thinking I have something against BIL/DW of BIL.
I expanded to explain to her if shower can go wrong, there could be other things that happened and even harder for DD to recover hence no overnight stay.

Hope this thought stays with her.

[janet88]

w_Y_chung,

I think you really need to sit down and have a good talk with your wife over your daughter.

It’s strange that your BIL’s wife, who has no experience looking after a child would be bathing your daughter. My sister-in-law only carried my daughter to wash her hands.

[Eagle-Ladybird]

duriz:

Always good to read and learn from a Daddy's point of view. Thank you Daddy EASON MAGPIES :celebrate:

Wah, this is ego boosting man !!

OK, daddies don't waste time at Super Daddy Club. Jam here and feed comments, the ladies are patiently waiting :evil: :siam:

[chatelaine]

I totally agree with carebear opinion.


I wouldn't want my girl to spend the night sleeping with err... man/couple. Who knows what they will do to her.

carebear:

hi wy chung, i personally do not like my kids to spend the night at anyone's house even if it is a relative's. I would definitely disapprove of a toddler staying overnight at someone's place as it is unlikely that the decision is hers and for all the reasons that you have mentioned, especially she is a girl! It is definitely unappropriate for her to share the bedroom with the married couple as you won't know what the couple did in the room, even if they did nothing to her.

[duriz]

Eagle-Ladybird:

duriz:

Always good to read and learn from a Daddy's point of view. Thank you Daddy EASON MAGPIES :celebrate:

Wah, this is ego boosting man !!

OK, daddies don't waste time at Super Daddy Club. Jam here and feed comments, the ladies are patiently waiting :evil: :siam:

:rotflmao:

[duriz]

janet_lee88:

w_Y_chung,

I think you really need to sit down and have a good talk with your wife over your daughter.

It's strange that your BIL's wife, who has no experience looking after a child would be bathing your daughter. My sister-in-law only carried my daughter to wash her hands.

On a serious note, I second that.