Living with Depression

[Funz]

Hate to say this but I am back here again.


Anyone here engaged the service of a life coach before? I dunno whether to find a life coach or drag DH to a counsellor. Any recommendations or referrals for either?

If DH still does not want to go for counselling, think I will go. I need it to be able to cope.

[kaitlynangelica]

Funz:

Hate to say this but I am back here again.


Anyone here engaged the service of a life coach before? I dunno whether to find a life coach or drag DH to a counsellor. Any recommendations or referrals for either?

If DH still does not want to go for counselling, think I will go. I need it to be able to cope.

Dear Funz,

Have you ever thought of getting hubby to take some herbal remedies that will help him to calm down? And even for yourself, might be useful? Otherwise if this goes on, you are the one that will need to see a psychaitrist and take med.

[Funz]

kaitlynangelica:

Funz:

Hate to say this but I am back here again.


Anyone here engaged the service of a life coach before? I dunno whether to find a life coach or drag DH to a counsellor. Any recommendations or referrals for either?

If DH still does not want to go for counselling, think I will go. I need it to be able to cope.

Dear Funz,

Have you ever thought of getting hubby to take some herbal remedies that will help him to calm down? And even for yourself, might be useful? Otherwise if this goes on, you are the one that will need to see a psychaitrist and take med.

Herbal remedies, like marijuana?

What do you have in mind?

Admittedly, I am a bit off kilter, emotionally, now. DH was spoiling for a fight last night and I refuse to get sucked in. This morning he left for his trip without saying goodbye to me or the kids. He'll be back only end of this week.

I feel that, 心病需要心药 but hey, I am open to any suggestions that might help.

[autumnbronze]

Hey Funz,


Just chanced upon your post.

BIG :hugs: to ya.

Hope you find a way soon to sort out whats going on in your life right now ....

[Sun_2010]

Funz,


Hang in there.

Have you tried Meditation?
By far this is one thing we need to do irrespective of whether we go for medication/remedies or not.

After all its in the mind. And the only way to pamper it is thru meditation.
The problem with depression is , we tend to be skeptical, and you know in that mood of \"whatever...\"
And we start losing hope, and life is hope isnt it?

For meditaion please check out the thread
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=13983

I will try to post something more there now.

And would it help to know that many of us are swimming in the same boat. :hugs:

[kaitlynangelica]

Funz:

kaitlynangelica:

[quote=\"Funz\"]Hate to say this but I am back here again.


Anyone here engaged the service of a life coach before? I dunno whether to find a life coach or drag DH to a counsellor. Any recommendations or referrals for either?

If DH still does not want to go for counselling, think I will go. I need it to be able to cope.

Dear Funz,

Have you ever thought of getting hubby to take some herbal remedies that will help him to calm down? And even for yourself, might be useful? Otherwise if this goes on, you are the one that will need to see a psychaitrist and take med.

Herbal remedies, like marijuana?

What do you have in mind?

Admittedly, I am a bit off kilter, emotionally, now. DH was spoiling for a fight last night and I refuse to get sucked in. This morning he left for his trip without saying goodbye to me or the kids. He'll be back only end of this week.

I feel that, 心病需要心药 but hey, I am open to any suggestions that might help.[/quote]
I think there is something sold in GNC like St John's Worts or Valerian. These things are supposed to calm and relax the mind.

[Funz]

Thank you all. I was looking back at what I have posted and realised that the cycle has really been twice yearly. The other thing I have noticed was how it has affected my DD. This time again she is very emotional, clingy to the point of sitting outside my toilet each time I go, be it to pee or shower. She has always been a very sensitive and highly intuitive girl who is also very susceptible to external stimuli and I guess she is picking up all the negative vibes. Since DH is away, I bunked with the kids in their room last night and her sleep was very disturbed. She was crying and talking a lot as well in her sleep. It pains me to see her like that.


Sun2010, I use to do yoga and I did drag DH along with me a few times as I find it beneficial to help relieve stress and tension. At the end of the session, there will always be a 10min exercise to clear the mind. We were told to visualise ourselves suspended, be it in water or the sky or in the middle of lush greenery. Then to slowly visualise that with every breath, the tension in use will slowly flow out of our fingertips and toes. Then to feel our muscles from head to toe, bit by bit relaxing and therefter, just focus on our breathing. B4 the yoga teacher can get to the tension flowing out, DH was snoring oredi. Haha. So relaxing that he fell asleep.

I called a couple of counselling centres and life coaches. Got a few dates for possible 1st sessions, but most of the dates are like 3 weeks to a mth away. Life coaches are costly and they may deploy methods like NLP and Hypnotherapy, not sure about these things. Well I guess finding a counsellor or a programme that suits takes time, so I may just push DH to explore both to see which he finds more comfortable and since this is such a personal thing, the rapport/connection with the counsellor or life coach himself/herself is important.

Thing is, I think that things have reached a point where we need intervention, we are no longer able to work things through on our own.

[autumnbronze]

Hey Funz,



I was reading The Finder (magazine) and I came across some names - counselling services and life coaches.

If you'd like to have the info, I'll be happy to post them here.

[Funz]

autumnbronze:

Hey Funz,



I was reading The Finder (magazine) and I came across some names - counselling services and life coaches.

If you'd like to have the info, I'll be happy to post them here.

Yup, definitely like to have them. Many thanks.

Anyway, learned something from the life coach I was talking to or rather he reminded me about something. Better not to be formally diagnosed as suffering from any form of mental illness. Especially if it is something that can be resolved through therapy and counselling. Cos once formally diagnosed, you will have problems with your insurance. Definition of formally diagnose, I guess will be if there is a record in IMH or any govt linked psych clinics.

[DesertWind]

Dear Funz,


I read this thread all the way through. You mentioned you are an RC? Any possibility of getting help from your church or pastor to do counselling and prayer for you and your DH? Your DH may be more receptive of this than going for other professional help?

I strongly believed in the Christian faith which will provide the spiritual nourishment to our soul and give us peace with God. Also we need a miracle here for God to touch and transform our lives. Also seems that your DD is feeling very insecure and fearful. If you are attending a church or is open to attending one, perhaps can put your girl into Sunday school. Prayer to God is like a life-line in times of helplessness.

I would like to give you a link to my church's website which has a crisis helpline and also which you can obtain some spiritual encouragement like right now because it is just a click away. Will PM you.
:hugs: