Coping with PSLE for parents

[Joy]

My nephew never likes to study, good in math and sci, languages are on the weaker side.


Just this year, his mum send him to private tuitions and enrichment centre for each subject,eventhough he is good in math and sci.

Probably that is the way the mum see as running for the last lapse.Not sure mummy did the same thing here.

I see him very relax for coming psle…still play games, go outings with parents, can off whole sunday.His parents not able to manage him, so leave him with the tutors and enrichment centre.Now, as it is, schools also gives lots of papers.I guess the fittest survive.

[Brenda10]

Joy:

My nephew never likes to study, good in math and sci, languages are on the weaker side.


Just this year, his mum send him to private tuitions and enrichment centre for each subject,eventhough he is good in math and sci.

Probably that is the way the mum see as running for the last lapse.Not sure mummy did the same thing here.
I see him very relax for coming psle...still play games, go outings with parents, can off whole sunday.His parents not able to manage him, so leave him with the tutors and enrichment centre.Now, as it is, schools also gives lots of papers.I guess the fittest survive.

Hi Joy

It’s quite difficult to say now and most probably we will have answer when our children are on P6 next year.

[Joy]

Hi Brenda ,


True and its very interesting to see how his mum told me about her investment.

Not many people dare to do it this way tho.


Joy

Brenda10:

Joy:

My nephew never likes to study, good in math and sci, languages are on the weaker side.

Just this year, his mum send him to private tuitions and enrichment centre for each subject,eventhough he is good in math and sci.

Probably that is the way the mum see as running for the last lapse.Not sure mummy did the same thing here.
I see him very relax for coming psle...still play games, go outings with parents, can off whole sunday.His parents not able to manage him, so leave him with the tutors and enrichment centre.Now, as it is, schools also gives lots of papers.I guess the fittest survive.

Hi Joy

It’s quite difficult to say now and most probably we will have answer when our children are on P6 next year.

[underthesea]

My DS keep waking up in the night. I asked him why but he couldn’t give me a reason. I asked whether he worries for his exam, he said no. Asked is it the room too warm or too cold, he said no. He said he just wake up for no reason. Any idea how I can help him to sleep well. I give him Chicken Essence everyday, scare he may feel tired during the day.

[caroline3sg]

underthesea

Your son is stressed, his mind still active, thinking of exams so can’t sleep.

I only give chicken essence on exam day or weekends. I am afraid too much essence will be heaty as well as can’t sleep at night.

[pecalis]

wings98:

Can understand how you feel The greatest satisfaction of a mother is to see her child grow and taste the fruits of her own labour. Is she working very hard for the coming exam and is she very stressful now? How do you avoid adding to her stress?

I made sure I don't give her too much stress. In fact, she invited just 2 good friends to celebrate her birthday last wk. The 2 friends mentioned tt their parents have very high expectations of them - be top in sch or even top the psle! Huh!?! Realised and told dd tt her parents don't stress her - she should be thankful. She said she wished we stress her - so she got things to complain abt us! I know I'm far from perfect but it was good to hear tt she got nothing to complain abt us! - that's what I chose to believe

As far as I'm concern, she's not working very hard - just doing work tt sch tr gives, which is tons. But I didn't bother to buy prelims paper for her and even with the soft copy from Mrs Wong, will not ask her to do too.

She has no tuition except for Berries.

For stress relieve, when she puts in the no. of hrs of work as agreed, she can do whatever she wants - usually reading books, play piano, drums (she discovered she could play the recorder using her piano books) or going online. Btw, she's a book worm and she rather read books than study. I stopped her from borrowing any more story books fro the sch but she received some for her birthday. We still keep our weekly swimming for exercise. No matter how they plead, still have to exercise - good for health. Told her she could only skip the Sunday b4 the Sc paper, since swimming ends late on Sunday.

Am also thinking of bringing her shopping this Fri when 2 younger ones having Chinese enrichment - but I'll leave it to her - to go or to stay at home.

[atutor2001]

underthesea:

My DS keep waking up in the night. I asked him why but he couldn't give me a reason. I asked whether he worries for his exam, he said no. Asked is it the room too warm or too cold, he said no. He said he just wake up for no reason. Any idea how I can help him to sleep well. I give him Chicken Essence everyday, scare he may feel tired during the day.

Maybe too much Chicken Essence, it's like coffee. I give my kids Chicken Essence only during exam weeks so that its effect will be greater. I feel that continuous consumption during normal time may cause the body to depend too much on it and thus losing its effect. Just my opinion.

Some kids are more egoistic and would not admit that they are worried, especially those hardworking ones. They don't want to talk about their study because of their pride. I have one kid like that, very hardworking and self-motivated. However, they don't take direct advice or suggestions; always thinking that we don't understand and they know best. What to do, I stop giving direct comments and can only give my support indirectly.

[Joy]

Hi Pecalis,


I hope I can be the same like you when my dd turns.
Oh yes, I have just pm you.Pls check.

Joy

pecalis:

wings98:

Can understand how you feel The greatest satisfaction of a mother is to see her child grow and taste the fruits of her own labour. Is she working very hard for the coming exam and is she very stressful now? How do you avoid adding to her stress?

I made sure I don't give her too much stress. In fact, she invited just 2 good friends to celebrate her birthday last wk. The 2 friends mentioned tt their parents have very high expectations of them - be top in sch or even top the psle! Huh!?! Realised and told dd tt her parents don't stress her - she should be thankful. She said she wished we stress her - so she got things to complain abt us! I know I'm far from perfect but it was good to hear tt she got nothing to complain abt us! - that's what I chose to believe

As far as I'm concern, she's not working very hard - just doing work tt sch tr gives, which is tons. But I didn't bother to buy prelims paper for her and even with the soft copy from Mrs Wong, will not ask her to do too.

She has no tuition except for Berries.

For stress relieve, when she puts in the no. of hrs of work as agreed, she can do whatever she wants - usually reading books, play piano, drums (she discovered she could play the recorder using her piano books) or going online. Btw, she's a book worm and she rather read books than study. I stopped her from borrowing any more story books fro the sch but she received some for her birthday. We still keep our weekly swimming for exercise. No matter how they plead, still have to exercise - good for health. Told her she could only skip the Sunday b4 the Sc paper, since swimming ends late on Sunday.

Am also thinking of bringing her shopping this Fri when 2 younger ones having Chinese enrichment - but I'll leave it to her - to go or to stay at home.

[wings98]

My ds is the one who asked for xtra lessons for Maths & Sci. I asked him if the xtra lessons will make him more stressful or will it boost up his confidence? He says as he is targeting on these 2 subj, the xtra lessons will boost up his confidence. On the other hand, the free tuition from my relative for his CL2 will further add on stress to him. So I decided to stop

the free tuition & insert 1 more session for his Maths & Sci.

As for chicken essence, he has been taking once a week since Jun. I'm still thinking if I shld increase to twice but I'm not very comfortable in changing his lifestyle at this critical moment. Afraid his body may not be able to take it.

He just told me tis morning that he woke up last night twice ard 1am & 3am. I'm also worried that he is too stressful but whenever I ask him to rest & relax, he will say this is the last week to zoom into his weak areas and he won't have a 2nd chance after the exam... Really heart pain to see him like this Spore education system is really cruel

[Nebbermind]

caroline3sg:

underthesea

Your son is stressed, his mind still active, thinking of exams so can't sleep.

I only give chicken essence on exam day or weekends. I am afraid too much essence will be heaty as well as can't sleep at night.

hmmm...my boy doesn't seem stressed. And having spoken to other psle parents, it seems like they are more stressed by the moms' constant nagging than the actual exams!!