What you do want or hope your child to work as next time?
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cherrygal:
As for my kids, they can do anything they want as long as it's legal and rolls in the dough. They also gotta be filial. :lol:
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janet_lee88:
My wish for my kids - grow up happy, have moral values, healthy and pursue their dreams and working hard to achieve them.
Same here!
On my kids' aspirations, at one point, my little girl wanted to be an elephant when she grows up... now my 3 yr old wants to be a tiger! -
Actually, parental expectation in one’s career is one of the single biggest obstacles in a person’s career strategy…
While most parents genuinely want their children to not "suffer" in what they think are lousy jobs with low prospects, sometimes deep down in their hearts, factors like social status, ability to bring in more money, image, good ROI play a big role in expectations…
I encounter these in my own mother’s expectations of me and to a much bigger extent, my MIL’s expectation of my wife.
I did some reflection on what I want my son to do when he grows up.
While his personality is very similar to mine (of course, since half of his genes are mine), I realize that his interests are very different.
I catch myself sometimes portraying my own expectations on him, and have to step back.
So now, my conclusion is this.
Those in brackets are thoughts, not words…
"Son, pursue your interests in life. If it doesn’t make sense to me, I’ll tell you why. (After all, I have lived 30 more years than you). I hope to fully understand your choices, but at the same time (because I’ve seen more than you do), I really like to advise you if I think your choice is not pragmatic in Singapore, inflexible, insecure, just a passing phase, and not using your full potential. Hopefully, you can tap on my years of experience when you make your choices, at the same time looking deep into what you really want." -
cherrygal:
As for my kids, they can do anything they want as long as it's legal and rolls in the dough. They also gotta be filial. :lol:
:goodpost: from a Mummy
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jellybelly:
That is too cute jellybelly, too cute :love:janet_lee88:
My wish for my kids - grow up happy, have moral values, healthy and pursue their dreams and working hard to achieve them.
Same here!
On my kids' aspirations, at one point, my little girl wanted to be an elephant when she grows up... now my 3 yr old wants to be a tiger! -
qizai:
:goodpost: from a DaddyThose in brackets are thoughts, not words...
\"Son, pursue your interests in life. If it doesn't make sense to me, I'll tell you why. (After all, I have lived 30 more years than you). I hope to fully understand your choices, but at the same time (because I've seen more than you do), I really like to advise you if I think your choice is not pragmatic in Singapore, inflexible, insecure, just a passing phase, and not using your full potential. Hopefully, you can tap on my years of experience when you make your choices, at the same time looking deep into what you really want.\"
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cherrygal:
Planes these days are hard to crash; i'm well-known throughout the flight sim and the civil flight communities... now, before i start going offtopic, yes, the income is less, but i prefer to have a job which i enjoy, not because i can earn a gazillion dollars a year. I think everyone here agrees that you choose a job because you enjoy it,and like it, not cus of the huge salary... My interest has been in planes ever since i took my first flight from singapore to guangzhou... i'm not very interested in a finance-related career, although i can't disagree that a little bit of financial quotient is crucial... when i can, i read the money section of the newspaper...snowman.697:
My mum wants me to start a business, but I want to pursue my dream of becoming an SIA pilot.
Your mom has business sense and not many parents encourage this. She's right actually. The rich are mostly business owners. SIA pilots look cool in their uniforms and earn a respectable income but will never reach the level of income of a successful business owner. But of coz, there are risks involved. Well, pilots have occupational risks as well!
Read \"Rich Dad, Poor Dad\" by Robert Kiyosaki. Go for your dreams!
My 2 cents
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snowman.697:
Good that you have dreams and willing to work towards it! Then make sure you are strong in maths as pilots need to do a lot of calculations. I have 4 friends who are SIA pilots. It's fun having them onboard when I take SIA flights.Planes these days are hard to crash; i'm well-known throughout the flight sim and the civil flight communities... now, before i start going offtopic, yes, the income is less, but i prefer to have a job which i enjoy, not because i can earn a gazillion dollars a year. I think everyone here agrees that you choose a job because you enjoy it,and like it, not cus of the huge salary... My interest has been in planes ever since i took my first flight from singapore to guangzhou... i'm not very interested in a finance-related career, although i can't disagree that a little bit of financial quotient is crucial... when i can, i read the money section of the newspaper...
My 2 cents -
Heyya snowman.697... you CAN have a bit of both.
With the $ from being a pilot, you can put some aside
for business. Mebbe since ur mom sees the business
acumen in u (since she brought it up), u may engage
her as your consultant... discuss what biz area is
lucrative to go into.
So while you continue doing what u love to do...
flying .... :salute: ... you can also make that extra $
from doing biz with mom. I'm sure she won't nag u
much after that... cos you my dear can achieve the
best of both worlds.
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ImMeeMee... :snuggles: ... hugs for you, sweetie. :love:
Only the bearer of the torch will know how it truly feels.
I am sure it has indeed changed your life and turned it
upside down for awhile until you are more in tuned to
the intervention & therapies available.
A close friend who's a nurse and has a husband who is
a doctor... being in medical line themselves so to speak..
their child's well-being is one thing they can never seem
to agree and come to terms with. It is too emotional to
speak of; (as each have their own interpretations of their
objectives for their child) but yet, they cannot avoid not
talking about it as decisions have to be made to ensure
their child is taken care of in the best way they can both
compromise to...
Men have a different way of communicating how they feel
and women too have contrasting ways of delivering what
they feel is the right thing to do..
It has been really trying for them.
I've worked with all their children and all of them are
beautiful to me... all in their own way...
All i know is that no matter how a husband & wife work
out the kinks when it comes to a special child in their life,
all they want is the best for the child and nothing less...
and they don't give up.
Things will be rough for awhile... while everyone adjusts...
I pray things will work out for you in time to come & that u
can soon see that if there is anything that comes out very
strong out of all this.... is that as a family, you will be stronger.
The other friends here have spoken... you are welcome to find
solace in sharing and off loading in the relevant threads here..
so that you can go back to taking care of your family better.
Everybody needs support some time or another... we are just
humans. So come KSP-ing anytime you need re-charging!
U take care of yourself too... for YOU are the support that your
family needs. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of
the rest.
:hugs:
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