MARRIAGE

[carebear]

happysheltie:

what is marriage? marriage is tiring. marriage is about sacrificing and compromising. marriage is not about changing others. but why do men expect women to be different?

If a marriage is tiring, and you have to constantly sacrifice and compromise, then don't get married.
No, we should not change after marriage.
Most people change for the worse after marriage, or their true colours come out after marriage.
So be yourself during courtship days, do nothing extra to impress the other party.

happysheltie:

if you have children, you can't break a marriage. one has to continue pretending nothing happen and go on becos of children. we can't choose our own life any more. whatever we do is to show and do for others. we have no more dignity. if one to choose to break up, fingers will be pointing at you. but why has it always be one sided? why when problem arise, the other party will keep saying will try to make it better. if you don't give him chance, he and others will say you are unfair, you are not giving him chance. how many chances are we suppose to give? how long do we have to endure? by giving one too many chances, nothing will improve. we will be immune towards it. by giving him chances to say \"will try\", it's become a habitual to use it after quarrel. if one try, I'm sure the same issue will not happen again. if one say for the sake of saying, definately the same problem will keep coming back.

If the marriage is irreparable, even with children, sometimes it is better to go separate ways.

happysheltie:

Am I asking for too much for spouse to understand your needs and expectation after 10 yrs together?

why can't a man reads woman's mind after so long?

why a man can only focus one thing at a time? why woman is like an octopus having so many hands?

After 10 years of marriage, your spouse should have fully understood your needs and expectations.
A man can't read a woman's mind cos the woman does not want him to find out what she is thinking!
So telepathy is the best, provided you have the signal to do that.

Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing.

[KS_me]

MMM:

:offtopic:


But I managed to convert our wedding and ROM day video from VCR to DVD. I laid my hands on it yesterday evening.

We spent the entire evening with the kiddos watching the 1.5 hours video and it was really great. Seeing ourselves in younger and slimmer days. The oaths that we took, the things we did, the people who attended our wedding, etc... it was just great :love:

Err... off Topic... how did you conver? able to share??

[jedamum]

KS_me:

MMM:

:offtopic:


But I managed to convert our wedding and ROM day video from VCR to DVD. I laid my hands on it yesterday evening.

We spent the entire evening with the kiddos watching the 1.5 hours video and it was really great. Seeing ourselves in younger and slimmer days. The oaths that we took, the things we did, the people who attended our wedding, etc... it was just great :love:

Err... off Topic... how did you conver? able to share??

am interested too! but how to ensure that the VCR 'tape' is not mouldy?

[jedamum]

carebear:

Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing.

sure or not?
whenever i drive, i have to place my two hands on the steering wheel and keep my eyes on the road condition; whenever my dh drives, he can use one hand, drink water, see traffic, and look at other minor stuff happening by the roadside aka

http://postimage.org/image/14dv3p738/

[Mrs Ang]

jedamum:

carebear:

Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing.

sure or not?
whenever i drive, i have to place my two hands on the steering wheel and keep my eyes on the road condition; whenever my dh drives, he can use one hand, drink water, see traffic, and look at other minor stuff happening by the roadside aka

http://postimage.org/image/14dv3p738/

When I drive I can talk to DH but he can't. He has to concentrate lol.

[carebear]

jedamum:

carebear:

Heee....women can multi- task most of the time. Men are more focussed on what they are doing.

sure or not?
whenever i drive, i have to place my two hands on the steering wheel and keep my eyes on the road condition; whenever my dh drives, he can use one hand, drink water, see traffic, and look at other minor stuff happening by the roadside aka

http://postimage.org/image/14dv3p738/

Oops, forgot about driving part.
I don't suggest that we multiple task while driving, like the men!
It's dangerous.
I mean most women can multi task, eg buy groceries while picking kids up, shopping while kids go for tuition.

[Mrs Ang]

carebear:

Oops, forgot about driving part.

I don't suggest that we multiple task while driving, like the men!
It's dangerous.
I mean most women can multi task, eg buy groceries while picking kids up, shopping while kids go for tuition.

One thing I cannot multi task is while watching my TV programme :oops:

[chatelaine]

Hi


I had the same marriage concept as carebear

As for multi-task, we women are much more better than man
That's what I have been telling my hubby. Always doing one thing at a time.

I can cook brown rice for milk, boil water, clean up the water bottles, etc at the same time while he can't.

[buds]

jedamum:

am interested too! but how to ensure that the VCR 'tape' is not mouldy?

The mould can be cleaned first prior to conversion.