How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr back?

[loner]

mrswongtuition:

I normally chose B.

& I did just that recently to a close friend cum neighbour.
2 faced monster who tried to dig info fm me to gossip.

What if she denies and acts like a poor lamb going around claiming u have accused her :stupid:

[buds]

loner:

PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?

Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:

[loner]

buds:

loner:

PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?

Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:

Of course lah! Mine not just deny but instead go round the \"whole world\" to tell relatives that I \"bully\" old woman :x

[24by7mum]

loner:

buds:

[quote=\"loner\"]PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?

Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:

Of course lah! Mine not just deny but instead go round the \"whole world\" to tell relatives that I \"bully\" old woman :x[/quote]Well, if it is your MIL, it may be best to confront her once and for all with your FIL and husband present if you are concerned with what other people think about you. Or if you don't care, just let her ramble till people start to wonder if she is talking sense. In short, never let anyone control how you feel. You and you alone have control over your life!

[daisyt]

buds:

loner:

PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?

Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:

Hahahahahahaha!!!!!! :rotflmao:

[buds]

24by7mum:

In short, never let anyone control how you feel. You and you alone have control over your life!

Feelings are one thing... how we deal with it is another.
The tricky thing about marriage is we're not just marrying
the fella... it is also about the union of two families. It will
always be a sensitive issue, especially if the husband is
utterly close to the family.... he will take offence that u
claim his family is the one carrying tales.

[loner]

I personally prefers to practice (A) initially but if that fella gets overboard I will choose (C).

Not that I'm a coward but more like experiences tells me that too many times the culprit will deny and there is nothing much u can do... This is especially true if she is \"supposingly\" :roll: yr close one

[snowman.022851697]

I will ignore, but if it offends or reveals secrets i’ll choose (b), and when i do that, it’s not really the dude’s best day…

[maisy]

Depends on who is the "someone".


I am (usually) non-confrontational. So, if the someone is a "friend or acquaintance", i will keep a distance. Afterall, people who gossip behind your back can’t be regarded as "friends" so stop loss, stop the friendship!

If the someone is MIL, this is tricky. Worse when it comes to MIL+SIL (deadly concoction!!!)
I guess the best way to avoid friction with ILs is still to stomach their nonsense & maintain a distance. No point confronting & souring relations further. Hubby will be caught in-between & in the longer term, this will strain the marriage. And no way am I gonna allow my ILs to sow "discord" in my marriage!

[Angelight]

maisy:

Depends on who is the \"someone\".


I am (usually) non-confrontational. So, if the someone is a \"friend or acquaintance\", i will keep a distance. Afterall, people who gossip behind your back can't be regarded as \"friends\" so stop loss, stop the friendship!

If the someone is MIL, this is tricky. Worse when it comes to MIL+SIL (deadly concoction!!!)
I guess the best way to avoid friction with ILs is still to stomach their nonsense & maintain a distance. No point confronting & souring relations further. Hubby will be caught in-between & in the longer term, this will strain the marriage. And no way am I gonna allow my ILs to sow \"discord\" in my marriage!

Agree with Maisy. I'm a victim of MIL's slander and gossip too. No point confronting the MIL. She would deny anyway. Since I cannot stop her mouth from uttering 'rubbish' or 'poison', I have to change the way I would react to her gossip so that it won't affect me too much. Yeah, not easy. I'm still learning.