Self tutor or Outsource??

[kids_r_innocent]

bebe:

As they are very different learners, I have learnt to work with them differently.

Same here!! Tats y pple always say that no two peas are alike.

[kids_r_innocent]

duriz:

My friend who is a psychiatrist and life coach says:\" No one takes a greater interest in your child more so than yourself.\"


She has 3 children, 2 DDs and a new baby DS, her DDs are both autistic and she tutors them herself.

I think this is because she knows their personalities best and also because they proved to be a challenge for \"regular tutors\".

I have also heard of another saying \"The whole world can give up hope on your child but not you!\".

[Trapwithin]

janet_lee88:

Trapwithin:

I think the Tripartite-effort is important - Parents-Tutors-Teachers ( as in the school teacher)


Even with outsourcing, if parents do not monitor or follow up on the enrichment/tuition classes .. it would be a waste of effort.

So Teacher Teaches .. Tutors Enriches .. Parents Monitors .. :celebrate:

Couldn't agree more. Parents must take active involvement in children's studies.

May I add ... parents as in both Dad and Mom.
Many daddies do the ferrying and mummy the monitoring.
Actually, it can be quite fruitful for parents to do this together.

During ferrying/waiting for their classes to end, parents can take the opportunity to spent time together.
For monitoring, it can be quite a wonderful experience to see your children learns and you will discover how unique they are.

I understand sometimes they drive us up the wall when we are monitoring/teaching them ... but weighing that over the pleasure to be involved in their growing up process .. it might be worthwhile.

[janet88]

Trapwithin,

Self tutor is a very satisfying job.
I coach kids in subjects which I’m more confident and get hubby to do the ones I’m weak in. We know what he is weak/strong in. Yes, we get driven up the wall bcos as parents we are very concerned.

My 2 kids are poles apart…maybe bcos one is a girl who tends to be more driven while son is bochap. But then again, not every boy is like mine. My psychiatrist told me girls tend to 要面子, so they will want to strive and have inner motivation. As for some boys, they mature much later.

[Trapwithin]

Janet, good to hear that both of you are involved.


For me I have only 1 child. So do not have another child to compare their personality. But I heard boy tends to pick up quickly in Upper Pri … after they "settle down".

For coaching, recently I was inspired by Tamarind’s article on teaching Chinese and started to pick up reading Chinese with my dd again.

It was tough at first but yet very fulfilling teaching my girl to embrace Chinese reading. Though we do coaching and montinoring, we still send her for enrichment classes, because group dynamics learning and some of the centre’s rich cirruculum.

[jedamum]

Any parents can share stories of children (your own or those that you know) who did well in PSLE without tuition/enrichment?

I have a nagging feeling that majority of those who did well has the advantage of external coaching other than school’s and own hardwork.

[debbieW]

I will still coach my child personally although I send her for tuition for some of the subjects. To me, tuition is a supplement.

[meiah]

My DS1 is taking PSLE this year. He does not have any external tuition at all. All he has is his school teachers. How well he would do for the PSLE, I do not know. But he seems to be coping ok and found E,M and CL easy so far. I must also say that his sch teachers are putting in a lot of effort and he seems to be taking them seriously. In fact, maybe because he feels that he has no other help so that’s why he’s more serious at school. I certainly hope that he would do well.

[kids_r_innocent]

jedamum:

Any parents can share stories of children (your own or those that you know) who did well in PSLE without tuition/enrichment?

I have a nagging feeling that majority of those who did well has the advantage of external coaching other than school's and own hardwork.

Wow.. this is a HOT topic for this period!!

Personally, i have relatives whose children did well in their PSLE (went to schools like Dunman High etc) solely on their own efforts. They come from middle-income group and humble background; neighbourhood primary school

Perhaps it depends on the nature of the children, and the family upbringing???

[jedamum]

meiah:

My DS1 is taking PSLE this year. He does not have any external tuition at all. All he has is his school teachers. How well he would do for the PSLE, I do not know. But he seems to be coping ok and found E,M and CL easy so far. I must also say that his sch teachers are putting in a lot of effort and he seems to be taking them seriously. In fact, maybe because he feels that he has no other help so that's why he's more serious at school. I certainly hope that he would do well.

hi meiah,
good to hear that your boy is coping well without external tuition!
my boy currently has CL enrichment; i am thinking if it continues until P6 will it probably mean that he'll still need to rely on external help even when he goes to Sec 1?! if so, should i cut it off now and let his 'innate potential' leads the way?

kids_r_innocent:

Wow.. this is a HOT topic for this period!!

Personally, i have relatives whose children did well in their PSLE (went to schools like Dunman High etc) solely on their own efforts. They come from middle-income group and humble background; neighbourhood primary school

Perhaps it depends on the nature of the children, and the family upbringing???

i guess my question will be, is it possible to do well in PSLE without external help? lolz. i think genes, character, school teachers played a part too; so many factors.
while although one's diligence goes a long way, the materials from enrichment is the accumulation of the tutors/centres experiences (this 'hit' me when i read somewhere that some one commented that the PSLE compo is similar to the revision compo that some tuition centres provides).

you see, i so kiasi to let go of external help leh. lolz. :oops:

thinking back to my own schooling days, i realised that while there are some of my classmates who did well on their own (actually i can only think of 1 in my P6 class, and while her parents are illiterate, she has an elder sister home to turn to for help; she is now a teacher :)), a large portion of them who went on to VS, SCGS etc, have tuition/enrichment (considered a luxury at my time ba?).

sorry for my ramblings... :oops: