is it possible to make it without tuition

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jedamum:

Jennifer:

I think parents must learn to let go.

I always tell my hubby we must let the child fails at some pt in time so that he learns to pick himself up. IMO the earlier we let go, the better since the stakes are not so high yet.

:goodpost:

agree totally. And thanks for the reminder, Jennifer.

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jedamum:

Jennifer:

I think parents must learn to let go.

I always tell my hubby we must let the child fails at some pt in time so that he learns to pick himself up. IMO the earlier we let go, the better since the stakes are not so high yet.

:goodpost:

Well Said! and may I add .. Learn to Catch them when they Fall too.
No one will go through through life without failure or disappointment. The important thing is to pick themselves up and continue to move forward.
That's one main principle I wanted most to inculcate into my child's life.

[prancingpony]

Jennifer:

I think parents must learn to let go.

I always tell my hubby we must let the child fails at some pt in time so that he learns to pick himself up. IMO the earlier we let go, the better since the stakes are not so high yet.

I agree absolutely! I didn't let go earlier and went into a frenzy when psle approached for fear he would be 'lost'. I leave him on his own more in sec 1 now partly because I can't help much :lol: and it's different than in primary school. So now my p2 dd will have to learn to cope!

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prancingpony:

Jennifer:

I think parents must learn to let go.

I always tell my hubby we must let the child fails at some pt in time so that he learns to pick himself up. IMO the earlier we let go, the better since the stakes are not so high yet.

I agree absolutely! I didn't let go earlier and went into a frenzy when psle approached for fear he would be 'lost'. I leave him on his own more in sec 1 now partly because I can't help much :lol: and it's different than in primary school. So now my p2 dd will have to learn to cope!

I let my P2 decides what to revise for exam. How much 'extra' she's willing to put in. Not by choice though, because she anti-extra work so I've to let go, can't be breathing down her neck & I don't want to spoil our relationships.

Hence, this entire year, she didn't do a single set of top school exam papers. She identifed her own weaker areas and practiced a few comprehension in addition to revising her school worksheets. After that, she has to accept her results based on her assessment :lol:

I agreed the stakes are not that high yet. As long as she maintains her high band 1, I will let her have her autonomy. If grades start to slip, of course I will step in. I'm afterall a kiasu mama

[Lock]

I really enjoyed reading all the posts here. Allow me to gather my thoughts here and do a conclusion. Feel free to feedback and comment and learn together.


Here it goes:
Learning has 2 aspects: learning the content and learning how to learn. The ideal is the latter. Motivation has 2 kinds; external and internal. Again, the ideal is the latter.

Tuition provides learning of content but does little on teaching kids how to learn and it may be the external motivation for kids. It does little on internal motivation.

CONCLUSION: if the kid is weak in foundation and needs to learn content knowledge at an accelerated speed, then tuition is necessary. BUT it must not be the end. There's still a gap in between. We should see tuition as a means to an end which is towards learning how to learn and being internally motivated to do well. With that then we can be assured of an independent and self motivated kid. Hence, our job as parents is to fill the gap, right?

[Jennifer]

Lock:

Tuition provides learning of content but does little on teaching kids how to learn

Some good tutors can teach how to learn, some cannot. Just like sch teachers.

Lock:

an end which is towards learning how to learn and being internally motivated to do well. With that then we can be assured of an independent and self motivated kid.

Agreed. Bear in mind every child is different, some mature earlier, some later. Like my two boys. I dun know if my P3 boy can be let go next year I might hv to be prepared he will get a nastier fall than my elder boy.