Extra Marital Affair

[verykiasu2010]

duriz:

chatelaine:

Isn't it sad to end life in this manner just becoz of a mistake?

very sad.

WHATEVER mistake it might have been, there is no need to die. Tragic!

[DesertWind]

Xmasbaby:

...he was about 25 years old then, having a GF of >5years, a plain Jane girl. He got to know a rich man's daughter, dumped his current GF, and be with the rich man's daughter. ....After some investigations, I found out that he was having EMA..... At that point of depression, when his wedding is just next month, I guessed he could not take it anymore........

Sounds like quite a nice guy, your friend, but I cannot really understand why after going through the above ie. dump gf after 5 yrs for a rich girl, going to marry that rich girl but still had EMA? :idea:
Then after he was found out, choose to leave this world? Perhaps the only person who can answer would be his fiance then.
It is a tragic end to a young life....

[verykiasu2010]

Lady to her maid: Oh Kanta, I have reason to suspect that my husband is having an affair with his secretary."


Kanta : I don’t believe it! You are just saying that to make me jealous!"

[peterch]

verykiasu2010:

Lady to her maid: Oh Kanta, I have reason to suspect that my husband is having an affair with his secretary.\"


Kanta : I don't believe it! You are just saying that to make me jealous!\"

:rotflmao:

[kiddo]

peterch:

verykiasu2010:

Lady to her maid: Oh Kanta, I have reason to suspect that my husband is having an affair with his secretary.\"


Kanta : I don't believe it! You are just saying that to make me jealous!\"

:rotflmao:

my DH will love this cos u all think alike ...took me more
than a second to catch this

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[kingster]

kiddo:

peterch:

[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]Lady to her maid: Oh Kanta, I have reason to suspect that my husband is having an affair with his secretary.\"


Kanta : I don't believe it! You are just saying that to make me jealous!\"

:rotflmao:

my DH will love this cos u all think alike ...took me more
than a second to catch this

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:[/quote]haha good one! i took a while to catch it too!

[peh-boo]

be honest: which couple here have EMA before? :?

no need to answer if u feel shy or if too private can pm lah.

[Willows]

Hi,

I am new to this forum.

My husband has EMA too. We have a child who is 14 months old. I wanted to walk out of our marriage but my hb wanted to continue trying to work out on our marriage. I found out his EMA 6 months ago but until now I am still emotionally u stable.
Although he is trying hard to work on the marriage by coming back Homs early, paying more attention to our child but I find that my emotion needs and sexual needs are not fulfilled. I would say he can’t perform in bed with me for months already. So I am totally desperate and depress.

I am at a lost now how to bring our relation and sexual life back together. He kept saying that he got no control on the sexual non performance part. So how to move on with such a situation?

I need some advice and I also like to hear more sucessful stories of those who went thru EMA and happily living with their spouse as an encouragement.

I have read others stories but all are negative one, which I don’t find much help to me.

[3Boys]

Willows:

Hi,

I am new to this forum.

My husband has EMA too. We have a child who is 14 months old. I wanted to walk out of our marriage but my hb wanted to continue trying to work out on our marriage. I found out his EMA 6 months ago but until now I am still emotionally u stable.
Although he is trying hard to work on the marriage by coming back Homs early, paying more attention to our child but I find that my emotion needs and sexual needs are not fulfilled. I would say he can't perform in bed with me for months already. So I am totally desperate and depress.

I am at a lost now how to bring our relation and sexual life back together. He kept saying that he got no control on the sexual non performance part. So how to move on with such a situation?

I need some advice and I also like to hear more sucessful stories of those who went thru EMA and happily living with their spouse as an encouragement.

I have read others stories but all are negative one, which I don't find much help to me.

Sorry to hear about that.....

I am not a sex counsellor, but here is my 2 cents.

Sex is about intimacy and trust. I can only surmise that his guilt about betraying you is messing up his mind. For a man, if the mind is messed up and distracted, the performance certainly suffers.

What he may need from you is a clear sign of forgiveness. Its not to say that he deserves it or that you necessarily want to forgive so quickly, but my guess is that is feels he is getting into bed with a hostile spouse, he is unlikely to be able to perform.

Perhaps when you are ready, you and he need to take some time away together. Plan a short vacation somewhere away from the children. Take some time to have a frank discussion, completely unload and tell him how much he had hurt you, and then, if you can bring yourself to, perhaps forgive and draw a line under it.

I have no personal experience with this, just sharing my perspective.

Good Luck!

[tankee]

likewise, I am no sex counsellor nor experienced in EMA.


But I do agreed with 3Boys on the mind being messed up, performance suffers. This would take time to resolve and the first step is to solve the emotional issue first.

Lessen the pressure, stay off the act for a while. Just cuddle, hugs and kisses. Get over the trust issue, address the emotional needs first and the sexual life will come back naturally.