Would You Let Your Kids Skip School

[Busymom]

RRMummy:

Actually, reunion dinner at guy's family is a rule in our family.. my dad said always must cater to DH side first..

But hor.. since I have 2 DDs, wonder if our CNY will be a lonely affair when they are married.. . :roll:

As parents, we love our children equally (or try to ), and there is no such thing as in the past where daughters are 泼出去的水.

RRMummy:

A few options that my friends are doing:

Family 1: Work in Singapore, Husband's parents & Wife's parents in different part of Malaysia
Spend eve and 1 - 2 days at Husband's side followed by 2 days Wife's side. Then rotate the next year, first Wife then husband's.

Family 2: Work in Singapore, Husband's parents & Wife's parents in different part of Malaysia
Spend eve and 2 - 3 days at Husband's side. Following year, at Wife's side.

Family 3: Husband Singaporean, Wife's family in Malaysia
Since all the time in Singapore, Wife already got the deal since before marriage that all eve and CNY are spent in Malaysia with her folks

Family 4: Husband Singaporean, Wife's family in Malaysia
After Reunion dinner, they drive at night and spend CNY in Malaysia with folks.

Family 5: Wife Singaporean, Husband's family in Malaysia
Since all the time in Singapore, CNY are spent in Malaysia with his folks

Family 1 and 2 - very fair.
Family 3 - nothing to say, and usually Singaporean men are easy on such things, no? :idea: what does it imply about Singaporean generally...?
Family 4 - how long is the drive?
Family 5 - same comment as Family 3 above... :faint:

[Busymom]

RRMummy:

Busymom:

[quote=\"RRMummy\"]Ah.. yes the make-up classes will be a bummer...

she will have to go for make-up on the 3rd and 4th day.

double bummer!! If talk about :moneyflies: will your hubs budge? [/quote]unfortunately, no.

[Busymom]

janet_lee88:

Hi Busymom,

It's a bone graft op...to fill up the gap in the upper jaw caused by cleft.
Thanks for your well wishes. Hope this op is the end of it all...it's been 10 years.

Good luck! :xedfingers:

[Busymom]

RRMummy:

Busymom:

Or a local oso can lah, just need to \"negotiate\" properly before marriage.


Never marry a foreign Chinese :x

local not foreign Chinese, or else nego before marriage... okay list inside the criteria for Son-In-Law liao. This goes after the \"Check which Primary School he studied in\" Criteria

chill, chill Busymom :snuggles:

Foreign Chinese some more cannot fulfil any \"which primary school he studied in\" criteria :lol:

Thanks for your :hugs:

[Busymom]

janet_lee88:

My son-in-law criteria will be more stringent than my daughter-in-law criteria. HaHaHa..sure got double standard bcos one is my daughter and the other is a boy.

:? why leh?

[janet88]

Hi Busymom,

I would like my daughter to stay closer to me when she gets married. As for my son, it may not be a good idea…would like to maintain a cordial relationship with my future daughter-in-law.

If possible, pls marry a LOCAL Singaporean and from a school with legacy…so that there is no worry of balloting for P1.

[Busymom]

BlueBells:

RRMummy:

But hor.. since I have 2 DDs, wonder if our CNY will be a lonely affair when they are married.. . :roll:

We are in the same boat : 2 princesses only.

The way we do it:
CNY Eve : lunch at PILs, dinner at my parents
1st day CNY : Hubby's side of family until 3pm, the rest is my family side
Rest of CNY : anywhere we feel like it

My reasoning to my ILs (parents / aunties / uncles / etc) is : we only have 2 daughters, if we don't do this, hubby and myself will be very lonely during CNY in future. So far, no disputes.

Good forward thinking that you have! *clap clap*

Well, even though I have a DD and DS, I still don't want to give them the impression that only sons are important, not daughters.

Or worst, son also marries foreign Chinese and becomes like family 3 in RRMummy's post, double whammy!

The problem is, my ILs do not live here and we can't do this half day here and half day there arrangement. But they do stay at our place for certain time(s) of the year (pretty long hor), so that more than make up for the fact that they don't live here...

[Busymom]

janet_lee88:

Hi Busymom,

I would like my daughter to stay closer to me when she gets married. As for my son, it may not be a good idea...would like to maintain a cordial relationship with my future daughter-in-law.

If possible, pls marry a LOCAL Singaporean and from a school with legacy...so that there is no worry of balloting for P1.

Sound advice!

[Busymom]

In my case, we need to take a plane...


- first year after marriage, went 2 days before CNY and came back on 2nd day, ended up only seeing my parents and sisters for dinner on 2nd day. 3rd day, went back to work. Very sad, told DH that we need to come back on 1st day so that I could at least see my parents on 2nd day morning.

- 2nd year, came back on 1st day as planned.

- 3rd year, my mom became terminally ill. That year, we didn't go back.

- 4th year, I was a month from DD's due date... plus my mom was in serious condition.

- thereafter, more or less back to routine except for the year DS was born and another when DH changed job.

:roll:

Anyway, back to the topic, should kids miss school to visit their grandparents just before CNY? :lol:

[RRMummy]

janet_lee88:

Son-in-law list ? Wow, at kiasu parent also no need to be SOOOO kiasu.

:lol: :lol:

janet_lee88:

HaHaHa..sure got double standard bcos one is my daughter and the other is a boy.

:evil: I can see your double standard liao!!