IVF baby mix-up - TMC
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deminc:
Mummy sleepy: What a terrible experience for you!
Omigod! Your story freaked me out! I would scream blue murder! What if I take the wrong baby home??! Didn't the nurses tag the baby right after birth? I still remember at Mt Alvernia, the mum and baby will be immediately given matching tags after birth.sleepy:
By the way, TMC ever brought me the wrong baby for feeding. Fortunately I discovered the mixed up just before I fed the baby :x
And how did I discover the mistake? Thanks to my dh. He was commenting how beautiful our baby looked, with such thick eye brow... WAIT A MINUTE, even though I only took one brief glance of her right after delivery, I remembered she was an ugly baby and quite bald in the eye brow department. I scrutinized the baby in my arms more carefully and declared to dh - WRONG BABY !
Question is did the other mum fed my new born baby? The nurses swore she didn't
Mummy deminc: That's right. When I had DD at MAH last Oct, we were given ,matching tags, one on my left wrist, one on her left wrist and an extra one on her left ankle. I told the nurses to tag the one on her ankle tight tight (terrible Mummy) because she had such tiny ankles, and I was afraid the tag would slip off.
But there will be no mistaken identity for this KS mom. I saw her face for the first time and it's imprinted in my heart and brain. If they brought me the wrong baby, heads will roll :x -
Side track abit.. just saw the news..
Mum finds metal in milk powder
Thu, Nov 04, 2010
The Star/Asia News Network
In Singapore, a mother complained of a thin piece of metal found in her baby's milk powder, reported China Press.
The tour guide, 32, said her maid saw the metal shining in the milk powder when she went to mix the milk for the 22-day-old boy.
She said she was not sure how long the metal had been in the powder and how tainted the powder was by it. -
Asiaone poll:
52% sue the clinic
30% keep the baby
12% locate the person with matching DNA
4% give up for adoption -
duriz:
Mummy sleepy: What a terrible experience for you!
Omigod! Your story freaked me out! I would scream blue murder! What if I take the wrong baby home??! Didn't the nurses tag the baby right after birth? I still remember at Mt Alvernia, the mum and baby will be immediately given matching tags after birth.deminc:
[quote=\"sleepy\"]By the way, TMC ever brought me the wrong baby for feeding. Fortunately I discovered the mixed up just before I fed the baby :x
And how did I discover the mistake? Thanks to my dh. He was commenting how beautiful our baby looked, with such thick eye brow... WAIT A MINUTE, even though I only took one brief glance of her right after delivery, I remembered she was an ugly baby and quite bald in the eye brow department. I scrutinized the baby in my arms more carefully and declared to dh - WRONG BABY !
Question is did the other mum fed my new born baby? The nurses swore she didn't
Mummy deminc: That's right. When I had DD at MAH last Oct, we were given ,matching tags, one on my left wrist, one on her left wrist and an extra one on her left ankle. I told the nurses to tag the one on her ankle tight tight (terrible Mummy) because she had such tiny ankles, and I was afraid the tag would slip off.
But there will be no mistaken identity for this KS mom. I saw her face for the first time and it's imprinted in my heart and brain. If they brought me the wrong baby, heads will roll :x[/quote]I delivered my kids at Thomson Medical. Excellent service and care for both mum and the new-born. I remember they tag the mum and the baby at the operation table itself. Baby got tag on hand and ankle. Mum got a tag on her hand. So the possibility of an identity crisis is almost nil.If in a doubt , you could always check the tag. -
caroline3sg:
Actually I don't feel that the couple is in as bad a situation as the hospital for their negligence and I don't think they feel they are either.Asiaone poll:
52% sue the clinic
30% keep the baby
12% locate the person with matching DNA
4% give up for adoption
I believe the first 2 will happen together:
1. get compensation which would have more than funded the IVF process
2. keep the baby....this is a lucky baby who brings them money luck.
If their IVF has been unsuccessful,
1. they will hv to adopt a child totally without their DNA - all kinds of sicknesses that comes with the baby also has to be accepted.
2. also without this mix-up, there is a possibility that the IVF is totally unsuccessful
So no need to be overly upset.
In fact if don't believe in point 2 in bold, use the compensation money to do IVF again to see if the probability of success is that high. If I remember what someone shared with me, the success rate is less than 20%. So this is in fact a double TOTO strike. If we know how to see optimism in every adversity, life is really not so bad.
Last resort, if still cannot cross emotional barrier, then get the compensation money, give up the child for adoption and go buy a pet. -
Sad sad tragedy due to human error. Now I’m even more convinced I would never go for IVF, no matter how much I long for a second child.
Just hope the couple will choose to keep the baby, who is really the innocent one in this saga. after all, he or she didn’t ask to be born. -
ksi:
Easy for you to say.
Actually I don't feel that the couple is in as bad a situation as the hospital for their negligence and I don't think they feel they are either.
I believe the first 2 will happen together:
1. get compensation which would have more than funded the IVF process
2. keep the baby....this is a lucky baby who brings them money luck.
If their IVF has been unsuccessful,
1. they will hv to adopt a child totally without their DNA - all kinds of sicknesses that comes with the baby also has to be accepted.
2. also without this mix-up, there is a possibility that the IVF is totally unsuccessful
So no need to be overly upset.
In fact if don't believe in point 2 in bold, use the compensation money to do IVF again to see if the probability of success is that high. If I remember what someone shared with me, the success rate is less than 20%. So this is in fact a double TOTO strike. If we know how to see optimism in every adversity, life is really not so bad.
Last resort, if still cannot cross emotional barrier, then get the compensation money, give up the child for adoption and go buy a pet.
But difficult for the father to accept that the child is not his and he has to bring up somebody's child which he may not be willing.
Mother definitely will feel for the child cos she carried the child for 9 months.
If it were not the mother's DNA then it may not be so bad....... -
pupilview:
I delivered my kids at Thomson Medical. Excellent service and care for both mum and the new-born. I remember they tag the mum and the baby at the operation table itself. Baby got tag on hand and ankle. Mum got a tag on her hand. So the possibility of an identity crisis is almost nil.If in a doubt , you could always check the tag.[/quote]Yah Sleepy. I read about your situation and wanted to laugh, but that's inappropriate.
Mummy sleepy: What a terrible experience for you!duriz:
[quote=\"deminc\"]
Omigod! Your story freaked me out! I would scream blue murder! What if I take the wrong baby home??! Didn't the nurses tag the baby right after birth? I still remember at Mt Alvernia, the mum and baby will be immediately given matching tags after birth.
Mummy deminc: That's right. When I had DD at MAH last Oct, we were given ,matching tags, one on my left wrist, one on her left wrist and an extra one on her left ankle. I told the nurses to tag the one on her ankle tight tight (terrible Mummy) because she had such tiny ankles, and I was afraid the tag would slip off.
But there will be no mistaken identity for this KS mom. I saw her face for the first time and it's imprinted in my heart and brain. If they brought me the wrong baby, heads will roll :x
I'm shocked this sort of thing can happen in this day and age when all the nurses have to do is snap on the plastic tags. Maybe its harder to ensure that the nurses actually read the tags before trundling the baby out to the mother. :x -
sorry to be blunt about it …
it is like the wife was being raped to produce the child, and for the father, it will take a long while to cross the emo barrier that the child is not his
can sue for how many million $$ ??
okay, fine, it is just a mix up in the lab ? easier said than done
in actual fact, it is not easy to mix up if they have set up a proper protocol in the lab -
carebear:
surrogate mother ? will the owner of the baby please put your hands up ??
Easy for you to say.
But difficult for the father to accept that the child is not his and he has to bring up somebody's child which he may not be willing.
Mother definitely will feel for the child cos she carried the child for 9 months.
If it were not the mother's DNA then it may not be so bad.......
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