What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf?

[Trapwithin]

Nowsaday .. getting married is very very \"cheong\"

During my time, no proposal, no engagement, just get married.

Now .. No Diamond = No Proposal, then must have engagement, then must go oversea to do photoshoot, then must ...... etc AND before all that
the future PIL \"QUESTIONAIRE and INTERVIEW\" ...

[verykiasu2010]

Trapwithin:

Nowsaday .. getting married is very very \"cheong\"

During my time, no proposal, no engagement, just get married.

Now .. No Diamond = No Proposal, then must have engagement, then must go oversea to do photoshoot, then must ...... etc AND before all that
the future PIL \"QUESTIONAIRE and INTERVIEW\" ...

oooi, correction : it is panel interview

[duriz]

verykiasu2010:

I am very 'chin-chai' one


was just compiling the list based on what was said by fellow forumers on this thread :rotflmao:

I was only jumping on the fun bandwagon.
I don't think having a list of ideals is ideal.

[duriz]

Realistically, it’s a long ways before I will meet with DD’s beau.


She is only one year young.

As her mother, I’ll be happy that she is loved and cherished by this man.

All the other things will be between him and her, and rightfully so.
It’s their lives.

If they are old enough to marry, they’ll know how to do the rest.

Allow them to "live and learn" like the rest of us.

And because we live in a real world, I would ask him "Can you afford to marry/her? How do you know?"

But most importantly, I would ask the both of them "When things are not going well, do you know any penny-pinching methods? Can you advocate and stick to them (and eachother) until things get better?"

I think adversity quotient is more important than emotional quotient.

[Quintessential Mum]

Here goes (in jest but may be for real, i will never know till i have to ask):


Qn1: Are you the only son? If yes, proceed to Qn2.
Qn2: Is your mother still around? If yes, proceed to Qn 3.
Qn3: Is your mother the matriach in your family? If yes, Thank you for your interest! I am sorry to inform you that you have not been selected. Wishing you all the best in your future endeavours!

He he he he :lol:

[krazy]

hmmm.... when i was getting married and doing the preps for the wedding, my mum told my hub to be, that he would have to do the tea ceremony at her place first, not after i returned in the later part of the day.

then she also requested that at the wedding banquet, both sets of parents to sit at the same vip table.

initially, my hub was like \"huh? but the rule is not like that one. tea ceremony at the bride's home only happens after she returns. and there are 2 vip tables for 2 sets of parents. \"

my mum went on to explain that it is only respectful to serve tea before taking her daughter away and to sit both sets of parents together at one vip table is to show that the 2 families are now one. the other vip table is for the elders of both families.

i realised then that yeah, its respect more than anything else.

i married the \"only son\" and of course, i have my moments with my in laws (i live with them) but it is important that parents know their place too.

given how things look these days - families having 1 boy and 1 girl structure, how many of our daughters will have to marry the \"only son\"?

i have an uncle and he has 1 son and 1 daughter. Once over some family gathering, he mentioned that if his son's gf comes over and help out often in his family eg: during festive seasons or family gatherings. it means that she is fr a good family and his son can marry her. then i asked, what abt your daughter? will she do the same? and his reply was \"how can? if my daughter has to be the maid of her bf's family, i will never let her marry him.\"

moment of truth! what we receive, we must be prepared to give.

right?

[Eagle-Ladybird]

When I asked permission for my wife’s hand, my PIL never asked any questions. Instead they gave their blessings but took the opportunity to share what they thought was the "most important" thing in our lives going forward - to have common faith !


I’m one of those fortunate ones to have PILs, whom I have tremendous respect for. As a matter of fact, I’m very grateful to them, for what they stand for, for what they believe, and how they conduct their lives.

[Quintessential Mum]

Eagle-Ladybird:

When I asked permission for my wife's hand, my PIL never asked any questions. Instead they gave their blessings but took the opportunity to share what they thought was the \"most important\" thing in our lives going forward - to have common faith !


I'm one of those fortunate ones to have PILs, whom I have tremendous respect for. As a matter of fact, I'm very grateful to them, for what they
stand for, for what they believe, and how they conduct their lives.

You are truly Blessed! It is hard to come across such PILs.

[sleepy]

krazy:

if his son's gf comes over and help out often in his family eg: during festive seasons or family gatherings. it means that she is fr a good family and his son can marry her.


then i asked, what abt your daughter? will she do the same? and his reply was \"how can? if my daughter has to be the maid of her bf's family, i will never let her marry him.\"

:rotflmao:

[KSP]

\"which primary school were u from?\"


so that they will not have to worry of getting their children to a good primary next time.......