Parental control tool for child web surfing

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Exam is over & my dd asked me if she is allowed to join FaceBook if her results are good. Most of her classmate are and she wanted very badly to join the fun.


I’m very hesitant to allow her to join FB. I have my own reason but it’s quite difficult to explain to a 10 year old why I object.

Am I making a right decision?

[acforfamily]

EN:

Exam is over & my dd asked me if she is allowed to join FaceBook if her results are good. Most of her classmate are and she wanted very badly to join the fun.


I'm very hesitant to allow her to join FB. I have my own reason but it's quite difficult to explain to a 10 year old why I object.

Am I making a right decision?

my own opinion is that some of the games are quite addictive, but then again, you can get these games on other sites too. It may help if you are one of her 'friends' on fb too, then you can monitor what she does since it publishes your 'friends' activities.

[Ivanlew]

[quote]It may help if you are one of her 'friends' on fb too, then you can monitor what she does since it publishes your 'friends' activities.[/quote]
Hi,

This is a very good suggestion. YOu can't stop your child because this is what every child is doing now but yet to certain extend it is dangerous
so the best way is to join their community and be one of the friend to monitor and guide them

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

In FB, it allows to create grouping which only those members in the group to interact and those outside not able to see. Another is to write to the person using private message where no one will see it too. I have funny people writing to me or friends of colleague or friends of friends, working customer etc. However, Ivanlew, you got a point there.


There is no way of stopping my dd to join in FB. If she can’t do it at home, she can do it in school. It’s just a matter of time.

The only way I can allow her is that she allows me to sit besides her occassionally when she logs in. Just to monitor her activities besides becoming one of her contacts. Or ensure that she includes me in her groups. Wonder if she gets older, will she gets defiance over me checking on her.

[Ivanlew]

I think the other way is to educate them, try to talk to them about the dangerous of internet though they might not understand but at least they are more aware.

My daugther is just primary, one of this day I will face the same problem.
I would understand your concern.

[mckenzy]

my son has been on facebook for more than a year already…


it is something he looks forward-to almost everyday… but access is only granted under supervision and more loosely on weekends.

i have his account security and privacy configured so as to prevent spam and unwanted messages.

i control this daily and reject invitations and remove applications. its very strict i know… but i believe my steps are not unwarranted.

facebook has lots of stuf that is fun for the kids… my son and i challenge each other alot on Mousehunt… very clean fun…

need constant monitoring for social web sites… things like blocking profile searches are all part and parcel of the restrictions you should put into place for them.

dun forget though… theres actually a minimum age requirement… ; ]

[schellen]

mckenzy:

dun forget though.... theres actually a minimum age requirement... ; ]

Yup, my DD jokes that I have to make her \"an old lady\" before she can register. And yes, like mckenzy, I make her account as private as possible. Anyone other than friends cannot see her profile pic and I don't even use a pic that shows her face, even though she is in the pic alone, just in case. I explained to her about how people can lie easily on the internet and she agreed.

Basically, she just wants to see the photo albums of her mommy and daddy and close friends and relatives. And also to play with the more cutesy applications. She hasn't touched her account in ages but I think she may get interested again once she and her friends reach a certain age. (Currently, she's 7.)

[bishanman]

full agreed with ivanlew. That why i think we should attend the cyberwellness training… think they have it in school for children but parents we need some training ourselves.

[mishamisha]

bishanman:

full agreed with ivanlew. That why i think we should attend the cyberwellness training.. think they have it in school for children but parents we need some training ourselves.

There's a thread for this here : http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=59000#59000

Maybe if we go in groups there is a discount ? Perhaps some of us can contact the organiser for this ?

[kaydenbrown]

Anyway in the UK, many schools conduct cyber wellness course for free for parents and it is really useful as they teach practical lessons.

Maybe singapore should do the same.