Missing stationeries

[Luvkid]

sigh......recently my dear son came back with 2 missing item,ie eraser and THERMOMETER (given by the school at the start of this year). Due to swine flu, school is conducting actively on temperature taking exercise. But he came back with the thermometer missing.


me: \"where's yr eraser?\"
my son: \"in school.\"
me: \"where's the thermometer?\"
my son: \"in school.\"
me: \"WHY DUN U LEAVE YRSELF IN SCHOOL TOO?\" :x
my son: ......... :shock: (keep quiet,thinking why mummy said this)

I ended this by saying \"Go back to school and find back the items on tmr, th thermometer is critical for the temp taking exercise, u ought to find it, if not answer to yr teacher by yrself!\" And there goes his . \"Is yr responsibility to take care of yr stuff! Stop and off u go!\" (On that day, he has taekwando training)

After he went off, I checked his bag 1 more time. :booboo: I found the thermometer. Me, what to do now??? :imsorry: Apologise when his taekwando training ended. He replies \"Dun do that again hor\" (Scolding him with nothing) I'm sorry too, but not keeping my belongings properly....\" :snuggles:

[acforfamily]

Guess what? When my son was in kindergarten, he lost…not an eraser, a pencil or whatever but… his schoolbag!


It was an artbag and all of them had to carry to school on art day. Everyone’s was the same and he someone must have taken his. Was nonchalant about it. After a big lecture about taking care of his things, he learned to start looking for his things and trying to remember where he left them.

[yjj]

acforfamily:

Guess what? When my son was in kindergarten, he lost...not an eraser, a pencil or whatever but.......... his schoolbag!


It was an artbag and all of them had to carry to school on art day. Everyone's was the same and he someone must have taken his. Was nonchalant about it. After a big lecture about taking care of his things, he learned to start looking for his things and trying to remember where he left them.

I find it useful to personalize the standard issue bags by drawing a picture with a slightly different shaded permanent marker, incorporating the initials as part of the design. Something simple like a flower with initials in the leaf for a girl.

This helps DD to locate her bag quickly and prevent others from taking hers.

Especially since DD is in a girls school and 95% of all the kids carry a PINK school bag, and 50% of those bought the same model in the school store when it was on discount.

I dont like to add other stuff like key chain/ dolls as they add to the weight of the already heavy bags.

[schellen]

yjj:

Especially since DD is in a girls school and 95% of all the kids carry a PINK school bag, and 50% of those bought the same model in the school store when it was on discount.


I dont like to add other stuff like key chain/ dolls as they add to the weight of the already heavy bags.

My DD goes to a co-ed school and all the girls in her class had pink bags! That's what I saw on the first day. The keychain I attached to her bag loop has her name in very big letters and I think it helps that her name is unique.

[Luvkid]

buds:

For every pencil lost, put 10 cents

in special petty cash box. Make it
ala donation box! Ahahaa! :lol:

Can't name the special petty cash box as donation box. Cos ds is too kind hearted, said \"let's DONATE to ah gong (grandpa-already left us), even i dun have anything missing, just put 10cent/20cent to the donation box and DONATE to ah gong\" I changed the petty cash box as \"PUNISHMENT BANK\"(not only for missing item, but also applies for unfulfil duty) cos he has 1 PIGGY BANK for his saving. Earlier on we had a count for his saving and i showed him his PUNISHMENT BANK, and asked him
\"is it a big amount here?\"
He answered \"not at all\" :x
\"If u dun miss out any thing or fulfill your duties, these will be yours\"
He looked at me and gave me a silly smile

Let's forward to term 3 and see any result then..

[Andaiz]

buds:

For every pencil lost, put 10 cents

in special petty cash box. Make it
ala donation box! Ahahaa! :lol:

Luvkid:

For Can't name the special petty cash box as donation box. Cos ds is too kind hearted, said \"let's DONATE to ah gong (grandpa-already left us), even i dun have anything missing, just put 10cent/20cent to the donation box and DONATE to ah gong\" I changed the petty cash box as \"PUNISHMENT BANK\"(not only for missing item, but also applies for unfulfil duty) cos he has 1 PIGGY BANK for his saving. Earlier on we had a count for his saving and i showed him his PUNISHMENT BANK, and asked him
\"is it a big amount here?\"
He answered \"not at all\" :x
\"If u dun miss out any thing or fulfill your duties, these will be yours\"
He looked at me and gave me a silly smile

Let's forward to term 3 and see any result then..

Heyhey, so to boost his \"PUNISHMENT BANK\", does DS add to it?

We've set up a Mummy's Stationeer...has normal stationery, and some fancy ones (like coloured pens etc). If DD loses any stationery item, she's to buy the replacement from her own pocket.

So far, so good. I'm happy with it since I need to stock up on spares anyway, no skin off my back.

[Luvkid]

Andaiz:

Heyhey, so to boost his \"PUNISHMENT BANK\", does DS add to it?


We've set up a Mummy's Stationeer...has normal stationery, and some fancy ones (like coloured pens etc). If DD loses any stationery item, she's to buy the replacement from her own pocket.

So far, so good. I'm happy with it since I need to stock up on spares anyway, no skin off my back.

Err...... things still go wrong...... This evening, ds came back with \"unfulfil duty\"-TO SOAK HIS SOCKS. :nunchuk: I showed him the bucket where he placed his socks and asked \"What's this?\"
He answered,\"Opps, minus 10 cts from my pocket money lor....\"
I said,\" If u remember to do so, do i have to do this???\" :x
He replied,\" no lah....... :wrongmove:

So now, what is it???!!

[yjj]

Luvkid:

Andaiz:

Heyhey, so to boost his \"PUNISHMENT BANK\", does DS add to it?


We've set up a Mummy's Stationeer...has normal stationery, and some fancy ones (like coloured pens etc). If DD loses any stationery item, she's to buy the replacement from her own pocket.

So far, so good. I'm happy with it since I need to stock up on spares anyway, no skin off my back.

Err...... things still go wrong...... This evening, ds came back with \"unfulfil duty\"-TO SOAK HIS SOCKS. :nunchuk: I showed him the bucket where he placed his socks and asked \"What's this?\"
He answered,\"Opps, minus 10 cts from my pocket money lor....\"
I said,\" If u remember to do so, do i have to do this???\" :x
He replied,\" no lah....... :wrongmove:

So now, what is it???!!

I actually have reservations of making such a direct link between $$$ and reward/ punishment for behavior/ responsibility.

What's going to happen when it comes to a point where they say, take the $$$ lor, i still have alot!

Perhaps it is better to link non-performance of tasks to non-monetary punishments such as less TV/ play, time or additional housework for a week instead.