Asian Mums are more SUPERIOR?
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rosemummy:
behind every sad/bad situation, there us always a positive end. My daughter how i struggled with my asd chikd abd could not find help. or perhaps shefound some interesting characters on cable tv. She now wants to be the best psychologist in singapore one day. She will be majoring in that.2ppaamm, after reading some of your posts, I think you're such an exceptional mum with amazingly gifted kids. Yes, it's definitely more difficult to train a child to discover their passion, than just disciplining and pushing them to do what we want.
Mind sharing where your 14 year old girl is headed for university? What is she going to major in? -
phankao:
We have now three keyboards in the house. #2 was in NAFA violin when #1 was doing piano in NAFA. We then had to move to China for a few months and did not take the internal exams. As such, both were out of NAFA. When we returned, NAFA took #1 back (first in history) but I didn't bother to ask for #2 to return, because I really couldn't help her much on the violin. The violin is so small, and I get a neck ache from playing and scrambling for the strings, and I was too stingy to buy a full-sized violin. She then asked me to teach her the piano. I did, until grade 5, even though I did not have any qualification. I then got #1's teacher to teach #2 and #3. By then, I had taught #3 to grade 3 as well. We didn't put any more children through NAFA, in fact, we stopped #1 attending NAFA regularly as well when he was asked to repeat a grade despite scoring a distinction in ABRSM. I felt it was a demotivational thingy but I understood that NAFA was trying to 'make the best out of him'. Sometimes, I wonder if that was the right decision, but it's not important to make the right decision. We RIGHT every decision and move on.
You are amazing. And you have 2 pianos in the house? We have 8 persons living in a 1100 sq ft - no space for too many instruments. I thought your elder daughter did violin at NAFA? Thought was your no.1 & no.3 that did piano at NAFA. -
2ppaamm is amazing in many many ways. To even have 5 kids! And to homeschool! I love the wisdom you show in parenting. Shall pray that I can embody some of it. Thanks for sharing what you’ve learnt through your experience - it really helps to inspire me!
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toddles:
2ppaamm is amazing in many many ways. To even have 5 kids! And to homeschool! I love the wisdom you show in parenting. Shall pray that I can embody some of it. Thanks for sharing what you've learnt through your experience - it really helps to inspire me!
I second that.
I am always very impressed with mothers who homeschool their kids. You are amazing!
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:thankyou: for sharing 2ppaamm.
Your articles inspire me, always ... :salute:
My DS is attending keyboard lessons. Initially I relegated my DH to practice whatever DS learnt during keyboard lessons with him cuz he's got music background, unlike me. Another reason was that I felt was that one should best stick to what one was good/skillful in.
After reading your articles here, I am now motivated to take this responsibility upon myself. I will go and take a look at his books and see what I can do. Positively speaking, this will give me an opportunity to 'take up' a musical instrument, which frankly, used to be a dream of mine when I was younger. Another plus point, more bonding time with DS
I will give this my best shot and see if it works out
On a separate note, I am really happy for you that things are working out for your DS :celebrate: :celebrate: -
2ppaamm:
It is really inspiring!
She threw her arms up in desperation and said, \"You do it, lah!\" Well, I couldn't. I thought to myself, what right do I have to demand she does it when I couldn't myself. It took me a week, but I worked on the part myself. My stiff old fingers which was aching from all the housework. But I did it. One afternoon, when she was playing the same piece, I played alongside her in the upstairs piano when she was downstairs playing.
She did not express much. She came upstairs and said, \"You can play it, when did you practice?\" I told her that I wanted to show her it is possible and from then on, she never challenged me again, and she did finish her grade 8 when she was 11 with a good score. She knew that even though she is not the most gifted on the piano, it is possible to do something beyond her abilities. I had to show her that I can too.
That's why 99% successful kids have a excellent mother behind them... -
Yes… I think 2ppaamm is amazing too! Very dedicated mother…
After homeschooling The Daughter for 6 months whilst we were living in the USA, I became a homeschooling convert. You could teach so much in so little time and have time left over to chase ducks and go fishing.
I’m ashamed to say that I backed off academically when I reckoned that we had reached a point where I thought she could kinda keep her grades up enough… We worked 2 to 3 hours every morning and played the rest of the day. I know I didn’t push her hard enough or far enough but the stint in USA was a year long holiday and I wanted us to enjoy it.
Then, when we came home, I looked at my own needs and then I looked at my children’s needs… and I put them back in school. I couldn’t bring myself to give up work and alone time for them. Once in a while though, I will keep the kids home a day or 2 for intensive homeschooling. We can master one new math topic a day. 2 days of homeschool takes care of 1 term of math sometimes.
Little Boy reckons that going to school is to play and make friends whilst the intensive work happens when he stays home with me. In school, they wait around a lot (and clown about some).
It takes a very dedicated mother to homeschool but with homeschooling kids can really perform wonders. I couldn’t do it. So 2ppaamm, you’re AMAZING!!
And 5 kids?! Big gulp We thought so long about #3 and then decided against having him/her. -
I got a Kindle version of the book. It’s very entertaining. After 2 minutes of reading, she has already admitted "I had underestimated Lulu… She would sooner freeze to death than give in".
Gosh! This is a story of a woman writing about how her daughter conquered HER… again and again and again.
It’s about a proud mother’s humilation. Gee… I can relate to that. I can SO relate to that!! -
And the best part is that, Lulu probably got her stubborn streak from her mum!
so what can you say when faced with your own genes right? -
It’s also a book that makes me wanna cry.
The strong emotions that every parent feels is there. There is pride, love and a lot of fear. Don’t we all do what we do because we fear for our children?
Maybe we do it wrong, but we do our best to equip them for an uncertain world in the best way we know how… which for many of us… PhD notwithstanding is at worst a long journey of lostness, and at best a half-solved mystery.
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