Asian Mums are more SUPERIOR?
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2ppaamm is amazing in many many ways. To even have 5 kids! And to homeschool! I love the wisdom you show in parenting. Shall pray that I can embody some of it. Thanks for sharing what you’ve learnt through your experience - it really helps to inspire me!
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toddles:
2ppaamm is amazing in many many ways. To even have 5 kids! And to homeschool! I love the wisdom you show in parenting. Shall pray that I can embody some of it. Thanks for sharing what you've learnt through your experience - it really helps to inspire me!
I second that.
I am always very impressed with mothers who homeschool their kids. You are amazing!
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:thankyou: for sharing 2ppaamm.
Your articles inspire me, always ... :salute:
My DS is attending keyboard lessons. Initially I relegated my DH to practice whatever DS learnt during keyboard lessons with him cuz he's got music background, unlike me. Another reason was that I felt was that one should best stick to what one was good/skillful in.
After reading your articles here, I am now motivated to take this responsibility upon myself. I will go and take a look at his books and see what I can do. Positively speaking, this will give me an opportunity to 'take up' a musical instrument, which frankly, used to be a dream of mine when I was younger. Another plus point, more bonding time with DS
I will give this my best shot and see if it works out
On a separate note, I am really happy for you that things are working out for your DS :celebrate: :celebrate: -
2ppaamm:
It is really inspiring!
She threw her arms up in desperation and said, \"You do it, lah!\" Well, I couldn't. I thought to myself, what right do I have to demand she does it when I couldn't myself. It took me a week, but I worked on the part myself. My stiff old fingers which was aching from all the housework. But I did it. One afternoon, when she was playing the same piece, I played alongside her in the upstairs piano when she was downstairs playing.
She did not express much. She came upstairs and said, \"You can play it, when did you practice?\" I told her that I wanted to show her it is possible and from then on, she never challenged me again, and she did finish her grade 8 when she was 11 with a good score. She knew that even though she is not the most gifted on the piano, it is possible to do something beyond her abilities. I had to show her that I can too.
That's why 99% successful kids have a excellent mother behind them... -
Yes… I think 2ppaamm is amazing too! Very dedicated mother…
After homeschooling The Daughter for 6 months whilst we were living in the USA, I became a homeschooling convert. You could teach so much in so little time and have time left over to chase ducks and go fishing.
I’m ashamed to say that I backed off academically when I reckoned that we had reached a point where I thought she could kinda keep her grades up enough… We worked 2 to 3 hours every morning and played the rest of the day. I know I didn’t push her hard enough or far enough but the stint in USA was a year long holiday and I wanted us to enjoy it.
Then, when we came home, I looked at my own needs and then I looked at my children’s needs… and I put them back in school. I couldn’t bring myself to give up work and alone time for them. Once in a while though, I will keep the kids home a day or 2 for intensive homeschooling. We can master one new math topic a day. 2 days of homeschool takes care of 1 term of math sometimes.
Little Boy reckons that going to school is to play and make friends whilst the intensive work happens when he stays home with me. In school, they wait around a lot (and clown about some).
It takes a very dedicated mother to homeschool but with homeschooling kids can really perform wonders. I couldn’t do it. So 2ppaamm, you’re AMAZING!!
And 5 kids?! Big gulp We thought so long about #3 and then decided against having him/her. -
I got a Kindle version of the book. It’s very entertaining. After 2 minutes of reading, she has already admitted "I had underestimated Lulu… She would sooner freeze to death than give in".
Gosh! This is a story of a woman writing about how her daughter conquered HER… again and again and again.
It’s about a proud mother’s humilation. Gee… I can relate to that. I can SO relate to that!! -
And the best part is that, Lulu probably got her stubborn streak from her mum!
so what can you say when faced with your own genes right? -
It’s also a book that makes me wanna cry.
The strong emotions that every parent feels is there. There is pride, love and a lot of fear. Don’t we all do what we do because we fear for our children?
Maybe we do it wrong, but we do our best to equip them for an uncertain world in the best way we know how… which for many of us… PhD notwithstanding is at worst a long journey of lostness, and at best a half-solved mystery. -
Chenonceau:
Chenonceau, how did you get to buy Kindle books? They stopped letting me buy from last month as they decided to check the IP from mid Dec onwards. Now I thought my kids all have those white elephants around.It's also a book that makes me wanna cry.
The strong emotions that every parent feels is there. There is pride, love and a lot of fear. Don't we all do what we do because we fear for our children?
Maybe we do it wrong, but we do our best to equip them for an uncertain world in the best way we know how... which for many of us... PhD notwithstanding is at worst a long journey of lostness, and at best a half-solved mystery.
Actually, I don't homeschool my children. I just teach them what I can after work. I had worked mostly full-time all these while.
I did exactly what you did. I look at my own needs, and then I look at theirs. I tried to homeschool DD2 (#3) full-time when she was in P5. She was on the road to different countries competing so I thought we'd slow down on academics. Well, the result? Suffice to say that it is super hard to catch up in the Singapore system. I'm not sure I'd do it again, because I'm not sure if that damaged her self-esteem. She used to top and then in P6, she dropped to the bottom of the class, though it was a top class. It was a saving grace for her to get into the secondary school of her choice.
For my kids, it is the same - school is for play and friends and home is for learning. My kids spend so little time studying my friends and teachers reprimanded me time and again, but I really didn't care about them getting As or not. As long as they show progress, I move on. It is more fun to bake then to attend tuition, to sew a new curtain then to attend supplementary classes. To go for a spa with the girls then to find out if another girl is doing better than them in school.
Of course, it does not mean no work. I think my kids put in a lot more hard work than many others. Strange.... why did the Tiger mom think B's are not acceptable. Thinking ahead, since her Sophia is going to Yale soon, there is always a curve the cohort is on, and the whole class cannot get As. B's are norm, even our scholars get B's locally and overseas. If we only expect As, then when they don't, how will they accept that? Aren't we setting them up for failure by not accepting failure, since failure is inevitable in life? Sadly, that's how one of my friend's son committed suicide in London. He was on scholarship and he couldn't accept that he no longer can get straight As. His father is a Minister of State at that time.
Sometimes, I think, to fail and to come from a less privileged background is a blessing. We fail in parenting as well once in a while. But it really does not matter as long as we refuse to give up. It is not how hard we fall but how hard we bounce back that really counts. Don't you think? -
toddles:
I'd say, \"Why are you so much like your father (or grandmother or aunty)?\"And the best part is that, Lulu probably got her stubborn streak from her mum!
so what can you say when faced with your own genes right?
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