How do you maintain your relationship with your spouse?

[buds hubs]

PlayfulFairy:

After all, it takes more than just fate to be husband and wife, so why waste time abandoning each other in the cold palace...

Hahaha... My sentiments exactly..I like your statement...

I feel exactly the same way. There are so many other better things to do than sulk.. :roll:

Thats why I dont like to waste time sulking about it but rather concentrate on talking it out & finding a solution... :celebrate:

[Funz]

I hate the cold shoulder thing. I’m the deal with it there and then and move on kinda gal. DH is the brooder. If there are things that he is not happy about, he will not say it or deal with it but he will show a black face and brood over it. If I am the person who caused the unhappiness, he can give me the cold shoulder for days. I usually cannot tahan and will confront him. Most of the times, I will more or less know what has set him off. But there was once when I was fedup with having to tip toe around his moods, I decided to just let him be. And the cold war lasted over 1 week when I finally just went up to him and told him get over it already.


I dun see what is the point of not talking and showing each other black faces. If there are things to be resolved, then work towards that. Not talking is not going to solve the issues. And by the time that either party decides to bring it up, it has become a matter of the past so how relevant is that?

[buds hubs]

winth:

Forgot which marriage book I read from, but they advocate solving the conflict in the shortest period time too instead of letting everyone cool off and think that a problem is resolved.

Haha.. winth, If you happen to remember the title of the book that you read, pls let me know OK.

I may decide to get it for buds as her Bday present.. :lol:

winth:

Aiya, obviously from your case with buds, buds gave in what... If not wouldn't be happily married right? Jedamum too, and now me too. So that's 3 ladies against 2 men (yourself and 3boys).

I guess you're wrong about that... If you recall from the story that I told, I was the one who was frantically trying to resolve the matter.

Aniwae... Attention ALL Guys.. I need some BACK UP here!!!

[winth]

buds hubs:

Haha.. winth, If you happen to remember the title of the book that you read, pls let me know OK.


I may decide to get it for buds as her Bday present.. :lol:

Sure! Think buds must have been giving you a bad time, eh?

[buds hubs]

winth:

buds hubs:

Haha.. winth, If you happen to remember the title of the book that you read, pls let me know OK.


I may decide to get it for buds as her Bday present.. :lol:

Sure! Think buds must have been giving you a bad time, eh?

No lah, she didnt. :roll:

Its just good to read up on these issues so as to better prepare ourselves
if we ever face them..

there is a saying \"With knowledge comes GREAT power!!\" :evil:

[MLR]

I belong to the MUST RESOLVE b4 going to bed type. Once we had a big arguement and went to bed angry cos when try to talk it out and ended up getting into bigger arguements. We tried to sleep, but ended up just tossing and turning and after about an hour, I just had enough. So I woke up, make 2 cups of hot chocolate with mini mashmellows, bring it to bed, call DH's name gently and told him we need to talk, in a calm and mature manner, no yelling (which is normally me :politebleah: ) or just keeping mum and giving huge stares (which is him and boy does he got some big eyes :!: ). We talked and talked and ended up with make-up :hugs: :snuggles: .....


So thereafter, we always resolve b4 going to bed or else he knows that he won't be getting any sleep till I m able to sleep. And me the type can't sleep when got issues hanging in the air feeling angry, upset......

Lucky for me, DH is the very non-judegemental type of person. He always keep an open view about most things, where me the one who most times stubborn and sometime refuse to admit defeat...

[sleepy]

DH will sulk & give silent treatment. He's the type who never apologise even if he's wrong (from my perspective).


I cannot tahan unpleasant feelings so always ended up prompting him to unzip his mouth. He still doesn't say sorry even though he realises his stubborness but I can tell from his body language that he thinks I am right (AGAIN, as usual)

Men & their ego :roll:

[RRMummy]

sleepy:

I cannot tahan unpleasant feelings so always ended up prompting him to unzip his...

Hi sleepy, for awhile there I :shock: :shock: :shock:

[buds]

Wuahahahahaa! Typical of you, RRMummy! :lol:

And me too lah... actually.

MLR:

I belong to the MUST RESOLVE b4 going to bed type. Once we had a big arguement and went to bed angry cos when try to talk it out and ended up getting into bigger arguements. We tried to sleep, but ended up just tossing and turning and after about an hour, I just had enough. So I woke up, make 2 cups of hot chocolate with mini mashmellows, bring it to bed, call DH's name gently and told him we need to talk, in a calm and mature manner, no yelling (which is normally me :politebleah: ) or just keeping mum and giving huge stares (which is him and boy does he got some big eyes :!: ). We talked and talked and ended up with make-up :hugs: :snuggles: .....

This is why some of my friends advise, if there
ever is a dispute or an issue to settle with the
other half, settle it on the bed. :evil:

It has worked for me lah. So i can say it does
work. Bonding brings closeness mah..

[winth]

[quote]This is why some of my friends advise, if there

ever is a dispute or an issue to settle with the
other half, settle it on the bed. :evil:[/quote]Second to that!
Everytime we settle the conflict, somehow there will be some action after that... :roll: