How do you maintain your relationship with your spouse?

[buds hubs]

winth:

buds hubs:

Haha.. winth, If you happen to remember the title of the book that you read, pls let me know OK.


I may decide to get it for buds as her Bday present.. :lol:

Sure! Think buds must have been giving you a bad time, eh?

No lah, she didnt. :roll:

Its just good to read up on these issues so as to better prepare ourselves
if we ever face them..

there is a saying \"With knowledge comes GREAT power!!\" :evil:

[MLR]

I belong to the MUST RESOLVE b4 going to bed type. Once we had a big arguement and went to bed angry cos when try to talk it out and ended up getting into bigger arguements. We tried to sleep, but ended up just tossing and turning and after about an hour, I just had enough. So I woke up, make 2 cups of hot chocolate with mini mashmellows, bring it to bed, call DH's name gently and told him we need to talk, in a calm and mature manner, no yelling (which is normally me :politebleah: ) or just keeping mum and giving huge stares (which is him and boy does he got some big eyes :!: ). We talked and talked and ended up with make-up :hugs: :snuggles: .....


So thereafter, we always resolve b4 going to bed or else he knows that he won't be getting any sleep till I m able to sleep. And me the type can't sleep when got issues hanging in the air feeling angry, upset......

Lucky for me, DH is the very non-judegemental type of person. He always keep an open view about most things, where me the one who most times stubborn and sometime refuse to admit defeat...

[sleepy]

DH will sulk & give silent treatment. He's the type who never apologise even if he's wrong (from my perspective).


I cannot tahan unpleasant feelings so always ended up prompting him to unzip his mouth. He still doesn't say sorry even though he realises his stubborness but I can tell from his body language that he thinks I am right (AGAIN, as usual)

Men & their ego :roll:

[RRMummy]

sleepy:

I cannot tahan unpleasant feelings so always ended up prompting him to unzip his...

Hi sleepy, for awhile there I :shock: :shock: :shock:

[buds]

Wuahahahahaa! Typical of you, RRMummy! :lol:

And me too lah... actually.

MLR:

I belong to the MUST RESOLVE b4 going to bed type. Once we had a big arguement and went to bed angry cos when try to talk it out and ended up getting into bigger arguements. We tried to sleep, but ended up just tossing and turning and after about an hour, I just had enough. So I woke up, make 2 cups of hot chocolate with mini mashmellows, bring it to bed, call DH's name gently and told him we need to talk, in a calm and mature manner, no yelling (which is normally me :politebleah: ) or just keeping mum and giving huge stares (which is him and boy does he got some big eyes :!: ). We talked and talked and ended up with make-up :hugs: :snuggles: .....

This is why some of my friends advise, if there
ever is a dispute or an issue to settle with the
other half, settle it on the bed. :evil:

It has worked for me lah. So i can say it does
work. Bonding brings closeness mah..

[winth]

[quote]This is why some of my friends advise, if there

ever is a dispute or an issue to settle with the
other half, settle it on the bed. :evil:[/quote]Second to that!
Everytime we settle the conflict, somehow there will be some action after that... :roll:

[buds]

That's why make up sex is good lor..

Start with tender... lovin... care...
Then, can upgrade to wild level oso.

Especially if the yearning from cold
turkey... cold shoulder... silent
treatment nites. :lol:

[RRMummy]

buds:

....Especially if the yearning from cold

turkey... cold shoulder... silent
treatment nites. :lol:

...Sweet revenge! :lol:

Kena 'caning' or 'drowning' for being notti??!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

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We dont sulk. We are highly expressive people & will not want to suffer in silence (not in the office, not in school & definitely not at home). If a tiff occur, both will want to talk so much to view out the difference in opinion. Ever there's a time that he tried giving me a cold shoulder as the difference in opinion just can't get it resolve even after all the discussions and bickering. I'm not the type to nag nor am I the type who is impatience. BUT when I want to talk, he got to listen not with that blank expression face. I just will go NUTS. He tried to sleep it off but I will make sure I sit right in front of him & make sure he wakes up to listen.

[quote]DH will sulk & give silent treatment. He's the type who never apologise even if he's wrong (from my perspective).

I cannot tahan unpleasant feelings so always ended up prompting him to unzip his mouth. He still doesn't say sorry even though he realises his stubborness but I can tell from his body language that he thinks I am right (AGAIN, as usual)

Men & their ego [/quote]Oppsss.... so far, 95% it's always him who apologizes. 5% will be from me if I'm forced or coerced.


[quote]This is why some of my friends advise, if there
ever is a dispute or an issue to settle with the
other half, settle it on the bed. [/quote]I rather settle it before lying down on the bed. Cause, if the issue is not finish, I will still be :nunchuk: . I dont care if it is the bed or toilet or bedroom or living room. I will just be right behind his back until he back off.

[buds hubs]

RRMummy:

Kena 'caning' or 'drowning' for being notti??!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Hmmm... I wonder what was used as the 'cane\"?? :? :rotflmao:

Anyway, buds is right.. there is nothing better than \"Make-Up Sex\"..

Maybe thats why we get involved in mini quarrels from time to time.. .. only to be engaged in some actions after that! :lol: