In-law problems?

[auntieM]

janet_lee88:

auntieM:

My PRC SIL just passed away in Beijing.. ..my MIL too busy minding her mahjong to visit her or grandson.. ..bo chap totally.. ...

Oh no, what happened to her ? It's so sad.
I thought your MIL would have found ways to try to get custody of the boy.

She was the typical 'dragon lady' and lost her hubby 8 years ago. The last 6 years she down with cancer also..
She took most of the $ MIL claimed that was theirs..
ILs don't like the grandson and they do not hide it.. ..their emotions I mean..

[janet88]

auntieM:

janet_lee88:

[quote=\"auntieM\"]My PRC SIL just passed away in Beijing.. ..my MIL too busy minding her mahjong to visit her or grandson.. ..bo chap totally.. ...

Oh no, what happened to her ? It's so sad.
I thought your MIL would have found ways to try to get custody of the boy.

She was the typical 'dragon lady' and lost her hubby 8 years ago. The last 6 years she down with cancer also..
She took most of the $ MIL claimed that was theirs..
ILs don't like the grandson and they do not hide it.. ..their emotions I mean..[/quote]That's so sad. I presume the boy's maternal grandparents would fight to keep the boy. Do your in-laws have a grandson ? Otherwise it's hard to understand why they are willing to give up custody for the boy.

[buds]

[quote]Now I have phobia in having another child. For me, it is an obligation to bring DD to my IL place for half a day every week and if we were to go on a holiday, we have to make up for that week using another day.[/quote]
[quote]mine also like that. they come over on Wed afternoons, so if we are away, or if they go away. they would want \"make-up\" visits. so calculating.[/quote]Gosh. This sounds soo nostalgic. Except that it was my hubs that was the
one dictating these rules. He'd be telling me that if the kiddies were sick,
then must make up 2 days the following week. :faint:

Then to make it worse, when MIL were staying with us hubs never bothered
to initiate ANY visits to my parents' place. Very sad then..

I knew my parents were very sad cause they knew the weekly visits i had
to go for when we were residing with them and of course one can easily
tell how unfair and how it was a case of double standards... clearly.

I was never calculative. Though he didn't come with us to visit my parents,
i made sure i made time to see them anyway... with my children. :love:

Thankfully, i have finally seen myself out of that tunnel and into the light.

Note : My parents are still nice to hubs to date and never tried to make
things difficult for him. In fact if without my parents endorsement, we may
never have gotten to get a good price for our current new place. :snuggles:

[auntieM]

Hi janet_lee88,

She met BIL working in Beijing and moved in couple of weeks later. When my BIL wants out she got pregnant…
She had wedding dinner with a 6-month preggy tummy and MIL made her wear white… …
They lived in Beijing for couple years then BIL was down with cancer and they head back for treatment…
Then loads and loads of dramas… …
After my BIL passed on she was the ‘tai tai’ for a short while, leaving her boy to the maid and movin to Bukit Timah…
She was down with cancer at 33 years of age and went back to Beijing about 4 years ago with her son…

I was only preggie when nephew was about 3 years old…
MIL has 2 grandsons, but I seriously think she’d rather they, or we don’t exist at all… …

[buds]

auntieM... my condolences.


You may not have been close to them..
But at least now one less drama has ended for you.. :snuggles:

[auntieM]

buds:

auntieM... my condolences.


You may not have been close to them..
But at least now one less drama has ended for you.. :snuggles:

Thanks buds.. :hugs:
You are so right about the lesser drama.. ..
Pity my nephew though.. lose both parents to cancer, both sides grandparents well and fit but nobody wants him..

[buds]

Yes... the poor dearie, really.

[janet88]

auntieM:

buds:

auntieM... my condolences.


You may not have been close to them..
But at least now one less drama has ended for you.. :snuggles:

Thanks buds.. :hugs:
You are so right about the lesser drama.. ..
Pity my nephew though.. lose both parents to cancer, both sides grandparents well and fit but nobody wants him..

So sad that the boy is an orphan so young.

[janet88]

BB cream:

Jus wanna share my story, I not in the good terms with my sil. My elder sil has been staying with us since she is divorce. 2 years back when I gave birth to my boy, she keep on bringing her new bf back to my hse to stay, I hv a feeling she will told her mum tat she will say want to move in with her once she re-married. Really, she -say she want 2 move in, but I hv stop her by creating a big fight. But after she married, she purposely bought the flat jus beside me. Really pissed me off, she even talk bad about me to my inlaw & hubby that I give her black face but she ok with it as not everyone has a big heart. Then I can sense my mil start giving me black face & say I disrespect her as I never welcome her precious daughter. I feel so sad, my mil have been staying with me for 10 overs hrs, I have been respecting her but in the end I being label as the bad person.

Would you like to transfer your post to 'in-laws' ?

[BB cream]

okie, no problem, pls do so