How to teach children to handle bullies

[jtoh]

Chenonceau:

jtoh... He was one of those teachers more worried about promotion than kids' welfare. I didn't really like him but wanted to maintain a good relationship. He was in charge of a prestigious CCA and he drove the girls very hard... But when it came to actual teaching, he did very little and got away with it because this was a very good class already very talented in English. Not much to teach.


I try not to complain too much. No point getting mad over the small things. As long as my daughter doesn't copy, the moral fibre of teacher and other girls was not my business. At least, that was what I told myself.

Thanks Chenonceau.

[Chenonceau]

jtoh:

Thanks Chenonceau.

Hey... you're welcome. Not that I did anything to deserve this though... Haha.

[jtoh]

Chenonceau:

jtoh:

Thanks Chenonceau.

Hey... you're welcome. Not that I did anything to deserve this though... Haha.

:lol:

[lisadrome]

\"Cyber Wellness Campaign\" was launched today by the Media Development Authority (MDA) to educate primary school children and their parents on the risks and pitfalls of the Internet.


Acting as a \"mobile classroom\", the bus will highlight issues like cyber bullying, inappropriate content, privacy protection, gaming, and copyright, among others.

A \"Digital Diary Competition\" will also encourage students to share their cyber experiences with their peers in e-journals using an online eBook application.

Got this from: Check this out;
http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/singaporelocalnews/view/1111307/1/.html

[lisadrome]

As a parent it is the most grappling news to hear after a long day at work that your child is a victim- or bully magnet. Every parent wants to know what the secret to school happiness: why is one kid wel liked while another gets picked on? There has not been a recipe for social success among students.


"What must be going thought the mind of the little one?"

"What should I tell him/her to do?"

[cherrygal]

Yup, my son seems to attract bullies at playgrounds - kids explorer, splash parks etc. He plays alone but I don’t know why he would end up being pushed or chased by a few other boys. I didn’t interfere as he seemed to enjoy running and being chased. But I realised he was ALWAYS the one being chased. He didn’t know how to turn it around and chase back.


Worse thing was, a younger boy of another race then started to target my boy. He kicked my boy a few times and once in the head when my boy was sitting down. My silly boy didn’t even retaliate. I was then forced to make my appearance and chided the boy who didn’t even have his parents around when I demanded to see them.

How should I teach my son to protect himself? Should I send him for self-defence classes?

He has had no such problems in childcare or in primary school. Thank God.

[Oppsgal]

I would send my child to self-defense class when older, and also give a personal body alarm for my child to bring to school when reach 7 years old for safety.


I would advise my child not to mix with bullies or be friend to one, in case my child got influence and turn to be one bully too.

For those children who use verbal to bully, I would advise my child to bring along a small voice recorder and record down what is being said, then let the form teacher listen. If teacher do not want to take any action like give warning or what, then I can choose to post to forum to let the rest of the people listen too.

[MisuloSG]

I think the most basic thing parents can do is to teach their children to report to their teachers if they get bullied by other students, and not keep it to themselves. And also to not hang around with kids who have a penchant for beating others up.


Like some posters suggested, self-defense classes sound great too…

[Chimmy]

MisuloSG:

I think the most basic thing parents can do is to teach their children to report to their teachers if they get bullied by other students, and not keep it to themselves. And also to not hang around with kids who have a penchant for beating others up.


Like some posters suggested, self-defense classes sound great too...

Hi,

I wrote earlier about my boy being the target of verbal abuse. Mind you, these attacks were unprovoked and initially I advised him to ignore and move on. Abuse persisted and recently, the bullies involved him in a scuffle which really took my son by surprise. I fear that this might happen again and my boy just might retaliate with physical violence the next time, so I informed the school. The DM handled the case and later addressed the class. He told my son, in front of the class, that he needs to be more resilient. Is that fair? Granted that this is good advice, but must my boy be subjected to further embarassment? Couldn't the DM have given the advice in private if he sincerely wanted to nurture a student? That's not all, the next day, English teacher told the whole class, in the midst of a lesson, that my son should have just laughed off all that verbal abuse that had been bombarded at him!

Now I think twice involving the school authorities. The message they are sending is 'please don't bog us down with these small matters, tell your child not to be a wimp, be resilient'. Schools have disappointed me over and again with the way they handle issues like this... utterly backward methods, never nurturing and often doing more harm than good.

Dear mums, any comments or words of advice... cos I'm really :x

[Oppsgal]

Post to forum or write to MOE to complain?


Or try embarrassing the teacher in front of lots of people (other teachers) too, but telling them loudly how their action has made your child feel bad, instead of really helping?